Do other married women flirt? Is this Cheating or Flirting? Men and women answer, please?

[Anonymous]

I dont know why but I like the approval of men. Most of the time I get that through them making passes at me. I am a married woman of 25. Do any of the other women here like when men flirt back? How far do you take it? I have had an affair with a man I loved. It is over. I do know that was wrong. He wouldn't leave his wife because of the kids. I flirt a lot, nothing major but I love to see that I can get a man hard. I fantasize about it all the time. I especially like men with power or position. I have a hard time not coming onto my boss. I also seem to get a real thrill from men who are married. I think a lot of it is that I dont want to cheat on my husband. He thinks the world of me and works like a dog to build a better life for us. I dont let it get too far. Usually once they kiss me or (sometimes) touch my breasts i know I have to back off. It is funny but they seem to be much more interested in me than single men. Of the married men at work and with my friend's husbands, there is only one out of about 10 or 12 that I haven't had a response from. Most are quite taken with me and more than happy to advance upon me. Of the 6 married friends of miine. 5 of their husbands have kissed my breasts. Does anyone else do this? Am I that different? Is this just flirting or is it cheating?

[JuicyBrain]

I said cheating in this case because you know yourself and how dangerous of a game you are playing and yet are still doing it. I would not have a problem with it if you were not married to a guy who cares really much for you. I think for the sake of your relationship and him that you should really put a stop to that behavior or at least, have enough respect fro your husband to go your own way. You could still, I suppose, try to work some kind of arrangement with your husband but even if what you are doing is not bad by itself, you are betraying your husband's trust.

[AustinMan]

It may not rise to the level of cheating but it's very disloyal if he doesn't know you do it. Your fascination with power is well know. As Lord Acton put is so well: Power corrupts; absolute power corrupts absolutely.

Have you thought about role playing with your husband as a multinational CEO with a bent for rough sex? I'm betting you'd both have some of the best sex ever. It gets in out of your system and he gets to flirt and then spank you for being a slut when it's over.

What do you think?

[tricegibbs]

I can't beleive what I just read. You are a monstwhy er. You are set to destroy everyone around you. You just do not care you do not deserve to be married. You even go after your friends husbands how sick. If you beleive you were doing right you wouldn't hide it from others that care about you. You say you like married men why not your husband he's a married man. You do not deserve to be married you are a cheating sick monster.

[Asker]

What? Why so angry. Married men so it doesn't go any farther. They are married. I am married. No one is going to expect more.

[tricegibbs]

You are sick simple as that!!

[Asker]

I was just looking for honest input. I didn't know people would be so angry with me. I'm not a bad person.

[tricegibbs]

Honest input you are a monster. You know what you are doing is wrong. You said if your husband finds out than he will be hurt. Bad part is you are selfish you know that he loves you and that he works his butt off for you. Why not just leave!! Leave him alone he deserves someone who will do right by him. What about your friends what if they found out what you did with their husbands totally wrong. And you was gonna leave him for someone else. You deserve to have no one. You know you are wrong thats why you won't tell your husband and asked this question. I hope he finds out and divorce you. You are nothing good for him. I hope everyone finds out and you get the results you deserve.

[tattooedhandfet]

@asker you're the defintion of a piece of shit!

[tricegibbs]

I agree 100%. If you want to be a whore do it alone do not waste someone love because you are a skank! I really hope your husband finds out and your next post will be " He's leaving what do I do" You do not understand what you are doing can really break his heart and damage him for life. Question why marry? You want men to think youe attractive so they touch your boobs. Thats not being attractive thats being a slut. What about having a new hairstyle or a sexy not sluty outfit. Makeup that make your eye color pop anything.

[tricegibbs]

And then you are a homewrecker. You apporach married men. For what to make them as miserable as you. I am a married woman and if any woman tired to touch my husband it will be a bunch of problems. Why lower another womans man into your little web so they can be just as wrong as you. How do you sleep. What if you found out your husband was doing this how would you feel?

[zombiebabe]

its called cheating!! and i wonder why your husband didn't found out yet!.."He thinks the world of me and works like a dog to build a better life for us" and you reward him like this? you don't respect him at all!!! what kind of wife are you? how can you look at your husband in the eyes and backstabbing him like this? damn it

[Shes_Like_Texas]

I can't wait to read the comments on this. How many times have you cheated on your husband?

[Asker]

Only one time. With that man I mentioned

[Shes_Like_Texas]

How many men have you allowed to touch and kiss your boobs? And does your husband know they do this?

[Asker]

Probably 12. No my husband doesn't know. He would be hurt if he knew. He trusts me. He is a sweet man and I do love him.

[Shes_Like_Texas]

Since you are hiding it from your husband you are cheating.

[Asker]

But I will not sleep with any of them. You really consider that cheating?

[Shes_Like_Texas]

Yes, it is. If you have to hide it, you are doing something wrong.

[Asker]

Don't we all hide things? Don't you ever flirt? Where do you draw the line. You input is appreciated.

[Shes_Like_Texas]

I am not in a relationship, and this is why I am not in one. I don't believe in monogamy. So I have friends with benefits and ons with different people.

[Asker]

ok. thanks.

[Asker]

at least you tried to talk with me... all the others just yelled at me...

[ccp16]

Ya, this all cheating, it is one thing to have some playful banter with others, I flirt with just about everyone, but just verbally and more in a silly way. As soon as any form of touching comes in, that is heating. If I were your husband, I'd leave in a heart beat, but also I would likely never marry someone who needs that kind of attention from so many men...

[musicbrain5]

You're a cheater. It's plain as day.

[GotTheseMitts]

Wow... you really consider letting people touch your breasts and kissing you to be on par with flirtation? As you stated you flat out cheated on your husband with some guy that wouldn't leave his family for you.

What's more disturbing is that his "friends" are partaking in this BS as well... they are pieces of sh*t just like you.

You seriously belong curbside with the rest of the trash. Your husband needs to find a loyal woman and get some new friends that understand what friendship stands for.

[godfatherfan]

Wow, what a disgusting cheating piece of garbage. jesus.
other then abuse it is the worse thing you can do in a marriage.
no wonder you take the chicken shit way out and post as anonymous, even though your userid is already anonymous.
Do your husband a favor and divorce him. he certainly deserves 100000% better then you.
Any physical contact is cheating
anytime you go to another person for emotional support, it is cheating.
it is a vial and disgusting thing to do to another person.

[Asker]

Some men thought it was reasonable... the men who flirt back with me don't find it disgusting. its harmless to them too.

[godfatherfan]

So that either means they are single and don't have a family to destroy (and they don't care if you destroy yours) or they are pathetic married pieces of shit like you that don't respect the person they are married to. If you want to fuck other people, get a divorce.

[BarbaraP]

It's not flirting. You're kissing those people and having them touch your breasts, how could that be "just flirting"? You're cheating on your husband. How is everyone else doing what you're doing exactly? Is your husband doing it too? How would you feel if he did?

[stevie123]

Kissing married boobs is cheating.
But it's OK if I'm doing the kissing

[JuicyBrain]

Lol nice one !

[fiego]

Kissing and touching sounds like cheating to me. Everyone is going to have their opinions... do you think you are cheating?

[Asker]

no. It is just flirting.

[BertMacklinFBI]

some people are natural flirts but I also do believe people have the ability to restrain themselves, even if they don't have morals or believe in ethics.

[Asker]

I agree. That is why I limit it to just flirtation. I practice a lot of restraint.

[tattooedhandfet]

They are kissing you and fondeling you. It's quite obvious You don't know what the defintion of cheating is! You're a fuckin slam pig!

[Asker]

@tattooedhandandfet why so mean? I am looking for feedback. Don't you ever flirt? The men who flirted with me were married too. Why do you call me a pig? So how far is okay in your eyes?

[tattooedhandfet]

A spade's a spade 👍 when you are getting your titties licked, sucked and fondled and you are kissing other men (probably sucking their dicks and letting them finger you as well) because clearly that's not crossing any lines, by definition that's a fucking pig to me!

[tattooedhandfet]

You stated around 17 dudes have touched, fondled or kissed you. You should be less concerned about the approval of men and more concerned about your up and running career as a broke down ho👍

[DocT1977]

I think it's natural for one, being man or woman to know that they are still appealing to others, even during marriage. One must be very mindful when making the choice to do it as it would not take much to have one thing lead to another and all the sudden there are issues.

[Nuqood]

You're not cheating but you are wrong for doing what you're doing. You're definitely not wife material for anyone who doesn't want to be a cuckold/swinger.

[Asker]

what is a cuckold? I looked up the definition online but I don't really understand it?

[Nuqood]

It's where you fuck men in front of your husband.

[Asker]

Oh! I would never that. Doesn't that lead to a lot of bad feelings?

[nate18]

I think it's a thin line. I have a girlfriend but I love flirting with other women also. You sound like fun ;) haha

[Asker]

Thank you. So it is NOT as cut and dry as these others are saying? I was almost in tears after that last post.

[nate18]

Personally I think it's a fine line. Maybe I'm biased because I also like flirting though. Shoot me a message if you want!

[tricegibbs]

Seriously 😑

[nate18]

Totally serious -,-

[sexyphil]

Nothing wrong as I see it...

[johnmsk]

It ain't cheating. And any good gentlemen will not cross boundaries while enjoying your 'friendliness' and openness

[johnmsk]

I like your type of girls. Can we chat?

[Dakota_The_Rota]

What a cunt.

[Asker]

What? Why so mean? I didn't do anything wrong.

[Dakota_The_Rota]

Besides play the victim when people tell you what you are. Would you be okay with your husband touching some woman's boobs? Would you be okay with it happening 12 times? Are you this daft that you can't see you are a cheater, who is the real problem with destroying the sanctity of marriage?

[Asker]

I wouldn't be happy with him doing that. But if he doesn't know, is it really that bad. I am not hurting him. And I only cheated that once. I don't really think that flirting with a few men is cheating.

[Dakota_The_Rota]

You need mental help, because there is no way they would allow someone so mentally slow and such a sociopath to walk around like this. And topping it all off you are a hypocrite, I hate hypocrites.

[Asker]

I'll admit it is hypocritical, but I don't think it is awful.

[tattooedhandfet]

Thanks bro👊

[Paul09]

Flirting is one thing. But touching or kissing is another thing. That's pretty much cheating. But a little flirt isn't that bad in my opinion.

[RedSeemsbetter]

Depends, maybe it was just chatting?

[Asker]

do you think it is so bad for me to want men to find me attractive?

[tricegibbs]

Why do you care what other men think you are married. And finding you attractive and being sexual is different. A guy will have sex with an ugly girl if she put her self out there. Have some class

[Anonymous]

Its not cheating if:
-its bigger
-she has his consent
-you're not in the same zip code

[Asker]

im serious.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok... fiiine. Cheating begins the moment you consider anything other than a platonic relationship with anyone other than your spouse... basically lust. And this time I'm serious...

[Anonymous]

You are sick! Of course it is cheating! Even if it was "just flirting" when you get married, or are in a relationship, you don't flirt! Thats wrong! You're supossed to have eyes for your husband and your husband only! I hope he finds out! I hope he divorces you! You do not deserve him! Sick!

[Anonymous]

Wow! I hope that your husband finds out and divorces you! You are a disgusting whore that needs to live and die alone!

[Opinion Owner]

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[Anonymous]

Women invite trouble when they are married and they flirt, far moreso than a man. I have had married women come on to me and actually other than the thought of sex it is a turnoff as they will stab their husband in the back so what kind of a person is she comes to mind.

[Asker]

But I keep this part of my life private. I have control. In fact one of the real appeals to me is the control it gives me.

[Opinion Owner]

I have always thoughtbthat there are three types of people in the world, those driven by love, those driven by money and those driven by control. I understand and like the first two. The controlling people will destroy eveything for control, they can be illogical and unreasonable. This has been my experience anyway. If I had to bet money, i would say you will divorce and you will initiate it.