What do guys gain from giving a woman multiple orgasms?

[Anonymous]

Ex's and especially my new boyfriend LOVE to please me in bed more than themselves. They make it all about me, it takes me a while to cum so a few times with my new boyfriend I haven't climaxed (as it's been late and i'm up early so I stopped him) he's been dissapointed when that's happened. He'll eat my pussy for ages and stays hard the whole time even if i'm not touching his cock during. He gets a huge grin on his face after making me cum and in his words it gets him even harder. I'm not complaining AT ALL... Just wondering what he gets from it? He says he loves the fact I wriggle around, loves the taste and the warmth... but I love sucking cock yet I couldn't do it for as long as he does it. Why do a lot of guys prefer to give than receive? Is it because our orgasms are more intense than guys and it's harder to make us cum?

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

For decades mass media has been mocking men as selfish failures in the bedroom, with no concern for her feelings. Combine that with the simple fact that most men want to feel that they are good at sex (and therefore want to make sure that she/you enjoyed it), and that if a guy is in bed with you, he probably cares about you enough that he would feel selfish if he didn't get you off... especially given the media portrayal.
And there are few moments quite as fulfilling to a guy as laying tired besides a girl he cares about, after he has blown her mind with truly amazing sex... especially if he's fucked her into insensibility.

Oddly I've heard this question a lot lately and it kind of confuses me. Don't you want him to have fun as well? wouldn't you be disappointed if he didn't cum?

[Asker]

I'd be very dissapointed if he didn't cum. He's cum way more times than me since we got together. But that's cos I stopped him a few times. He seems offended that I stopped him but it takes me a while cos I moan so loud I worry about it. Also worry it's a chore for him but he's insisted he loves it do just curious if other guys do too... even if it takes ages?

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

I think it's pretty normal behaviour yeah.

[Anonymous]

Just the whole idea that I am pleasuring her makes me hard. Just thinking and knowing that she is feeling the most amazing feeling in the world all because of what I'm doing to her. Also just the physical stimuli turn me on, knowing that what I'm seeing, smelling, tasting, and feeling is her pussy. Feeling her flesh and her skin against my mouth and fingers turns me on. I too am a guy who prefers to give than receive and I am obsessed with making girls orgasm. Last time I had sex, I made her cum 7 times during our session and I was satisfied even though I didn't even cum once.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO. Glad I could help.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't it turn you on and don't you enjoy it when you see how much you can please your guy? Knowing you're the one who made him hard and made him cum or are getting him excited. It's the same for guys. They love pleasing us and seeing our reactions to what they're doing. It's a turn on.

[Asker]

I do. Just takes forever for me to cum amd I worry it's a chore for him

[Opinion Owner]

Probably more like a challenge. I know my guy likes it and sees it as his personal challenge, can he make me orgasm quicker than last time or give me multiple orgasms this time. Also, if sex with you was like a chore for him, I doubt he'd want to do it so often and enjoy himself so much

[Anonymous]

Well he's just being stupid for giving you that much attention when you don't like to return the favor! :o I am soo shocked at thissss...

[Asker]

I do return but he cums much easier and quicker than I! He also stops me from touching his cock a lot cos he wants to please me! I never said I don't enjoy making him cum. Just curious what he gets from giving me multiple orgasms as it takes forever and I worry he's bored doing so

[Opinion Owner]

Hm... I see...

[2k15rpatterson]

Satiffaction.

[mr90skid]

I don't know about him but receiving can bring me to tears :)
Sex for me is about pleasuring myself and my partner so I'd take pride in making her cum multiple times

[TadCurious]

I can relate to your boyfriend. It's fun to try to crack the code of a woman's sexual response. Guys' sexual response is pretty boring actually. But you girls, it's more mysterious. You've got to play it like a Stradivarius violin. And it's just fun being down there and ravishing a woman's body.

[Asker]

Do other guys get extremely turned on by the smell and taste of vagina?

[TadCurious]

I think most guys do. I certainly do. But there's a small minority of guys who are really wusses about that. I've never understood that, but they're out there.

[Asker]

Yeah I lived with a guy in a house share who is straight but says to go down on a woman is gross? Says he won't even use his fingers if he can help it? That he NEVER goes down. Yet he'll fuck her and expect her to go down on him? I find that extremely selfish and he is in his 30's too... This guy is pretty camp so we wonder wwhether he's in the closet but he does have ocd so mmaybe that's it.

[Nuqood]

They make it all about you so you're more likely to want to have sex again.

[genericname85]

because making yourself feel good is no big deal. makig another person feel good is an achievement.

[Shaft50]

You must be giving all the indicators that they are doing a good job... which would be a visual and aural feast for him... it's such a turn on to see and hear a woman in the throes of sexual pleasure...

[Ihav2fart]

Sense of pride!

[auspicious]

the fact that he is able to make you orgasm make him proud of himself !
C'mooon that's basic psychology ! need to achievement !

[gagTits]

pride! And making sure you're happy

[Seppelson]

Yes I think it's because of those facts you said.