Boyfriend wants a ffm male threesome with my friend?

My boyfriend of ten years wants to have a threesome with my close friend. He met her one time at my house and we buy "pharmaceuticals" from her. One day I couldn't go so I gave him her number. Someone how sparks flew and chemistry started and he wanted to have sex with her. He claims it was a threesome he attempted a two some (all this behind my back) and went back to a threesome Bc thankfully she refused to do anything I wasn't aware or comfortable with and not in the capacity of a threesome. He met her one night when I was still in the dark but was aware something fishy was going on, he again tried to get her to "lower her inhibitions and chill with him" but she said no. A few days later he made the suggestion to me and over a roller coaster of emotions I agree under the notion this was just sex and an adventure for us both to explore together (I've had a Small curiosity for girls but never really would have done anything about it) but now things are twisted. He texts her all the time and the things he says to her makes me thing this whole thing was a manipulation to fuck her. He doesn't know I had seen these text and how I know isn't important. But he claims that I'm home and the most important but since I've agreed his only priority is keeping her on board. She was out of town two weeks and the 3 way should be this Friday . My question is should I be worried? Is meaningless sex possible? I feel played and tricked and sick about his I've trie everything to make him see this but it doesn't work it makes him want it more. I thought if I went alone with it he would change his mind. He says he'll be 50/50 during it but I know that's not true. I'll get a half ass version of anything Bc she's the shiny new toy. Why can't men appreciate what they have? What did I do that was wrong? I don't want anyone else ever I love and desire only him... he says he's just playing her and he's an attention whore who gets off on this (he's a typical Leo very vain) but I don't know I feel like he's playing everyone including himself. He says she's his hearts desire and he lusts for her and I can just tell I'm not enough... Please help!!! Men please answer this
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Most Helpful Guys

  • The fact that he proposed a threesome does not mean you did something wrong. A lot of people (man and women) have fantasies about it and it doesn't mean their partners are lacking in somethig or not attractive enough. It doesn't even mean that the person he wants the threesome with is more attractive then you. Like I said, it's a fantasy. everyone has their own fantasies. Some people like it, some don't and if that's the case, the couple needs to talk about it and make sure to express to each other how they feel.

    That being said, the most worrying thing here is the fact that he texts her behind your back. If the content of these texts in what i'm assuming, this is definitely a break of confidence. If he just proposed the threesome to you in a open way, to know how you feel about it and to discuss it openly, there would be no problem. But this texting is something really problematic. It's a hint he may not be faithful to you.

    And let me make it clear: I don't think poligamy is inherently bad. I don't see any problems in open relationships, for example. But in your case, it's clear you have a monogamic relationship and he's breaking your confidence. In your place, I would think twice about remaining with him, but that's for you to decide.

    Take care.

    • He claims it all talk and he went behind my back to make sure she was into him. And throws up he purposely picked someone more into him then me. i guess more straight then bi curious but I've seen what he tells her and I'm being played but he won't admit it I would be done fir this if had been done the right way but I feel manipulated and he can't see that... we have a five year old and he claims were home but he talks to her all day and hides it and tells her how bad he wants her

    • So he's cheating on you again and again. That's what it is. The threesome proposal was just an excuse. He just wanted a reason to keep texting her. That's what it seems. I know it's hard, but you need to move on. You deserve better.

  • So wanting a threesome isn't bad it's just something that turns some people on.

    But he tried to CHEAT on you and the only reason he didn't is because the other girl said no so while nothing happened he still has the mentality of a cheater and he respects you no more than any other cheater would. It's clear he doesn't want a threesome for the thrill of a threesome he just wants to screw her. My advice is to break up.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm sorry, but he sounds like a complete douche to be honest... /: I would not stick around to deal with him for any longer if I were you. I don't believe it's just meaningless sex. You most definitely did NOT do anything wrong... Not all guys are like that! Hang in there. Good luck.

    • I am agreeing with anonymous. I think he is taking serious liberties here.

  • I'm sorry he already fucked her and he's trying to get you to join so he doesn't have a guilty conscience. Fuck both of them👍 I would hate them both if I was you and they could have each other. Oh yea and I would fuck his best friend

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  • It sounds to me like he's playing you. he wants a new pussy to play with so you should give him an ultimatum her or you...

  • Get rid of him NOW! this is how itll work with him yeah he wants some different pussy and yeah itll just be sex but then the next time he wants to fuck a different chick if she too is not cool with it hell be right there again begging you for another 3some then another then another its a pattern but make no mistake your old news to him

  • The way he is treating you is not kind and loving. He should give more worth to a ten year relationship.

  • HE CHEATED ON YOU

    • Why do u say that

  • Omg just leave him.

  • It could be fun for all of you.

  • Two junkies being unfaithful. Awesome. I bet your beta dude already screwed her.

  • Don't do it if you care about this relationship