How do guys know when they are making love?

[Anonymous]

So I was having sex with my friends with benefits and it was great as normal. All of a sudden he notice that he was holding me tight and I was doing the same during sex. He stop in the middle of sex and say man it feels like am making love to you. I responded by asking him are you making love to me and he softly said yes. It was so crazy so guys how do you know when you are making love?

[Anonymous]

I'm going to tell you something that you probably don't want to hear but, I want to preface it with this statement: I do not know you, therefore I cannot judge you. Furthermore, I do not wish to judge you and I only want to help. That being said, here goes...

All sex, despite the intentions of the persons involved, is making love. Because of the level of intimacy required to have sex, the autonomous part of the human body/mind/spirit believes that it is mating with its intended soul mate. As a result, feelings develop, emotions arise, and a spark is created. In theory, you could hate someone and have sex with them and afterwards you would feel differently about them. Why, because you made 'love' to them. Love is far more powerful than most realize and in the end, will conquer everything...

[Asker]

Soooo deep but real! Thanks for answering my question. Just like they say every time you have sex with a person they always have a piece of you. With sex being such an intimate thing.

[Opinion Owner]

Its 110% true.

[Opinion Owner]

One more thing regarding tour statement about, 'Just like they say every time you have sex with a person they always have a piece of you', keep in mind that you also take a piece of them and you don't get to choose which part you take. You could be taking a part of their worst...

[AleDeEurope]

I would consider making love to someone if I love them, anything else wouldn't be making love, just sex. It's just that some people think that having sex with lots of contact, kissing, caressing, and caring, means making love, but to me, making love means having sex with someone I love.

[Asker]

Makes sense! It was weird because he has never did me like this before. Maybe I should cut back from sex if he's talking like that.

[AleDeEurope]

It's better if you guys talk about it, cause if he's getting feelings, and you're not, it's better to cut sex, but if he doesn't feel anything, and it was just that one time, there's no necessity to cut back from sex.

[AnonGirl18]

I feel like a lot of people think that if you're making love it has to be slow, whereas if you're going fast then you're just fucking.
But in my opinion, I make love to my boyfriend regardless if it's fast or slow. It's the fact that I'm in love with him, not what specific type of sex were having.

[Asker]

Good answer you can go fast or slow making love is making love

[Oigit]

For me making love is more about the emotional connection between my partner and I. I don't think you can make love to someone without having a deep emotional connection to them.

[kambo_trick3y]

Most people don't know. They think they know, but they don't know.

Willing to bet my next paycheck your FWB's doesn't know either.

[Asker]

Would you know? And how would you?

[kambo_trick3y]

The day I know deep down that I care for that person more than I care for myself, is the day I know I'm in love. And yes, I would know.

[MrHart]

Lol You just knowing, it's not a thing you can see

[Anonymous]

I stop choking her and slappin her ass.
Also, I stop trying to penetrate her cervix.
I might even slow down!

[Asker]

Lol yea he was griding slowly which felt amazing.

[Opinion Owner]

As for your update, no. You can have slow passionate sex STILL without emotion! Crazy, I know. Guys have that magical ability to COMPLETELY separate emotion & physical endeavors.