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I feel like women are lying when they say they don't like muscles?

Okay obviously not like a mutant bodybuilder but I meet a lot of girls that say muscles are gross.. I mean I feel like it's just the thing to say. I remember the la at day of school we had a shaving scream fight I took off my shirt and chicks were just fricken staring compared to the dude that was "toned". Bigger muscles = more testerone = dominant male = stronger offspring. I feel like women don't even know what they want. What says masculinity more than huge muscles? It's the equivalent of a guy liking a girl with wider hips and big tits.
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  • Just because something looks good does not mean that is what we want long-term. Men with a certain amount of muscles are hot. I don't want to cuddle with it, though. It's also intimidating to us women in several ways. 1. I don't want a guy who I feel will be competing with me in the looks department. 2. I don't want a guy that makes me feel less than par in the looks department because I am not as fit as him. 3. I don't want a guy who I will have to worry about becoming dissatisfied because he thinks he can do better since he looks so good. 4. I don't want a guy who can physically overtake me with little to no chance of me being able to defend myself. 5. Etc.
    Ultimately, I do like a guy who is fit with SOME muscle. A six pack is not something i look for. Like i said, i don't want hard all over. I just don't look for a guy who is muscled. Would I be with a guy who is? Yes, if I got to know him and liked him for who he is. The same can be said for a guy with little to no visible muscle. I am not looking for a body. I am looking for a good guy. Women can appreciate a good looking guy, but most just want a guy who will treat her right, regardless of his looks.

    • I'm sorry but out of all those numbers you listed they all reek of insecurity.

    • Lol. I am far from insecure. I know quite a few muscleheads and those things are actually what they do with women. That is not something I want.

    • All those numbers said was that I don't want to feel like he's better than me. Lol how is that not insecure?

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  • It's not that I don't like it, it's just not very important to me. It's like a bonus. I've dated guys who were really fit and had a lot of muscle, and guys who were in decent shape but not at that level, and it hasn't impacted my attraction to them all that much. Everyone has something they bring to the table. If it isn't muscles, maybe it's a handsome face, or charming, fun personality, or a guy who treats you really well, or is great in bed even, etc.

    Basically, let's say you measure attractiveness on a scale of 1-10, there's not just one way to get to 10 - there are many.

    • And some things trump other things. Muscle for me isn't really a trump card/must have, so if I have a guy who isn't all that muscular, as long as he has those key things I look for in a guy, that's the main thing. Vs. a guy who has a lot of muscle but not other qualities... not as attractive to me. It's about priorities. It could very well be different for another girl, though.

  • I never understood my female friends who used to share and pass around guy-pics on Facebook of men in their underwear or firemen in their underwear and comment, "oooOOoooOhhh". I'd look at the guy's face right away. If his face did NOT catch my attention, then the rest of his body was futile.

    I don't lie when I say I'm not in to muscles. If the guy has a handsome face and a personality that leaves me feeling buzzed, then as far as I'm concerned, he already does have a hot body because I'm already entranced by what I wanted already. :)

    • I agree with this.

Most Helpful Guys

  • When women say they like muscles, you have to understand what "they" think muscles are.

    You mentioned bodybuilders, but honestly going lower than that will get you closer to what "muscles" or "toned" is to your average, under 30 chick.

    Now of course if you look very good and have that superhero type build like Henry Cavill or Chris Evans when they did Man of Steel and Captain America respectively, yeah that's also attractive, but that's only attractive on guys that have the face to back it up, it can be a crapshoot. Whereas pic related here is probably your safer bet:

    https://i.imgur.com/607xsp9.jpg

    Incidentally, how fucking good was The Guest? If you haven't seen it, check it out, go on, you'll love it, it's not very long, it's a real treat, go enjoy yourself, it's a good neo-80's flick.

    • Yep yep. I am over 30, but that guy basically sums up what I like. Maybe a little less in the abs and top of shoulders/neck area and a little more in the arms. That's just my preference on looks, but that doesn't decide who I will be with. A nice body doesn't mean crap if he doesn't have a great personality and treat me right. My type of personality would be Chris Hemsworth and Paul Walker. Two totally different bodies, but great guys. Their personalities make them gorgeous men, despite their sizes. That trumps their bodies. Yes, I know Paul Walker is dead.

  • They may care about it all other things being equal but I get the impression it's not very important at all to most women. I think what women are trying to communicate is muscles aren't nearly as important or attractive as the men who have them would like to believe.

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  • LIke it's one thing to check out a hot guy with lots of muscle but it's a whole other thing to consider him boyfriend material. I hang out with lots of super hot muscly guys, but that is all they are: eye candy. My boyfriend has muscle in all the right places (cough cough the arms) his abs aren't great but for me they are just perfect ( i'm not too into that whole six pack thing).

    • I feel like your just saying that you know you would be more attractive to your boyfriend if he looked more like those eye candy guys that you apparently hang out with.

    • No I literally just said that the whole six pack thing doesn't do it for me, like it is nice to look at every once in a while, but I like that layer of fat covering my bfs abs. Yes I do like muscle, but I don't like guys with freaking 8% body fat. When my boyfriend flexes really really hard he has faint abs, and that is all I need. The only muscles I am really concerned about is the arms. I like thor type arms, and my boyfriend has those. (not as defined but the general shape when flexed). Dont get me wrong I have caught myself drooling over a hot guy at the gym, but in the end I dont think I could deal with a guy like that and I more like the cute look, which a little belly fat covering your abs makes guys look cute not hot!!

    • And just to clarify (I saw your response to another post) I dont like the dadbod look (that is more like a freaking beer belly, no thanks), I just dont like hard abs (i do like big pecs tho). So yes I like muscles, but I also like a guy that has no problem going out to eat and ordering the greasiest fucking burger with extra fries every once in a while haha.

  • Some women genuinely just might not be attracted to muscles. People need to realize not everybody can find the same things attractive. Just like not all guys are attracted to huge boobs. It's called preferences and we all got them.

    • Thank you. Yes to this ^

  • It certainly grabs our attention. It's not enough though to hold my attention for long if that's all that's there. Also people tend to be attracted to a lot of different types of guys based on their past experiences.

  • Because they might are. I like a toned guy with some muscles, but not a ripped guy with extremely low fat percentage and creepy veins. I wouldn't care though if a guy doesn't have a lot of muscle.

  • Actually, I really don't care much for muscles. Sure, a little muscle is nice, but I can't take huge biceps. Too many muscles is a total turn-off.

  • Muscles are sexy as fuck. They're not a dealbreaker, if I'm with a guy who's not ripped, I won't drop him, but yeah, I like a guy to be fit.

    Pudge doesn't attract me, and abs on a skinny guy are like tits on a fat chick. They don't count.

  • I lie muscles to an extent.

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  • I like muscles but not too much.
    What I would consider perfect is : foreveryoungadult.com/.../dylanobrien_muscles.jpg
    this is nice to : files.lato-carm.webnode.com/.../...y-Guy-Small.jpg

    • I am a face person by the way :)

    • That said, my boyfriend doesn't look like that but im not a shallow person so i dont give a fuck

  • Lots of girls like muscles

  • Oooohhh I like muscles :)

  • "It's the equivalent of a guy liking a girl with wider hips and big tits."
    That's where you're wrong. Not every guy likes this, do they? Don't be so ignorant. There's something called "personal preferences."

  • Which chick said that she doesn't like muscles? I like them very much.

  • It really depends on the girl. Believe it or not, there ARE girls that don't like muscles. I personally like them though.

  • Ehh who cares what they think on the matter you shouldn't train for them, bodybuild for yourself, that's what I do.

  • I like chubby guys not really a fan of muscles

  • I'm sure they like a fit toned guy much better than a muscle head guy or an out of shape guy

  • Yeah, all women lie. Every single one of them.
    They invented this silly "preferences" thing, the biggest lie in history.

    • I can see whatever bitch rated you down isn't a good sarcasm reader.

    • Most likely. Or maybe they get it and disagree, I guess.

  • Girls want someone they can cuddle with. They like muscles, but not a guy with 4% body fat.

  • hot chicks like muscles

  • I never take anything a female says seriously. They also lie about looks, income, penis size etc.

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