Why is this female friend behaving like this? Please help!!! Can you explain these fantasies?

1. BACKGROUND) Ok, there's a Spanish girl at college (S) who is also on a student committee at dorms. Personally I don't find her that attractive, but she is very touchy and fairly hot. S tends to start stripping sometimes. She's also sucked her finger looking straight at me, which I found hot. When sitting down (amongst the committee), she has put her feet right on my lap area (near my crotch) a few times, and I kinda find this arousing? S tends to interject if I am talking to hot girls at dorms. Many people (including her friends) call her attention seeking and I see that as she loves to keep the attention on her. S can be kind, but has suggested terrible matches. S already has a boyfriend, though I did not know about this till recently (she neglected to tell me?). I have not been flirting with her and fancy a few girls on my own course. At a dinner, the other girls on the committee suggested I might hit it off with girl (A) on their course who S knows best (A was her mentor for a while) and that S introduce me. S suddenly rudely CHANGED THE SUBJECT saying "she's not his type". Now I have heard about A and seen her picture. She is so pretty (I fancy her) and has common interests + my Asian background. WHY DID S DO THAT? 2.) CAN YOU EXPLAIN THIS FANTASY? S putting her feet on me and giving me a footjob. It's so hot to fap about that and gets me crazy horny? Later I watch an uncanny pornstar lookalike sucking her finger and then giving head. During this time I imagine it's S. Then I pretend it is me having sex with the pornstar (not S). Then when it came to the facial ending, I imagined it is S begging for it and blast her face? 2.) CAN YOU EXPLAIN THIS 2nd FANTASY? S giving me a footjob and rubbing her feet all over me. Then S giving me a blowjob and it's so so hot the way S sucks. Then at the end, being joined by A and S begging for me to release to her, I just give her a little on her chin, but give it to A who is moaning for me. Then tell S "You're not my type."
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A is a year above S on her course (she was once her mentor). Their degree has a separate area of campus to which they have access. You only meet these people if you are at their dorms or at preplanned social events like parties or pure luck. It is a campus of thousands and we are in a city of so many millions! At the moment the only person I know who knows A is S? How to meet A? Should I be holding back on fantasizing about S or just enjoy it as it doesn't mean anything? I don't fancy S!
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  • S is a classified bitch, who wants every man too want her, and the only way she can do that is by sleeping with them. I suggest you cut ties with her, completely. For if you date A, she can cause you a lot of problems with her. She knows physically she can have you. You are in LUST with her. But A Is the girl you really like, and chicks like S can definitely mess that up. Then again you sound like a horny guy but really decide which girl you want to pursue, do want casual sex and beatdown from guy or do you want a chick that is fun, who might be awesome and probably magic in the bedroom. Lol just figure it out. But I wouldn't pick S, she sounds like a troublemaker. I dislike her already, its clear to me she has self-esteem issues, either about her looks, self-worth, family or showing who the real her is. Good Luck.

    • Can I just say, you sure know your stuff!! Thanks for opining. I agree with you about S being a bitch. Personally I did not even think about her at all until she put her feet on me and worked her finger in her mouth. I am seriously angry at what she said at that dinner and changing the subject effectively not helping me with A. I am thinking of defriending her completely for all time. But I am worried about how to meet A. A is a yr above S on her course. Their degree has a separate area of campus to which they have access. You only meet these people if you are at their dorms or at preplanned social events like parties. It is a campus of thousands and we are in a city of so many ppl! At the moment the only person I know who knows A is S?

    • Why did S say those things and why has she been doing these sexual suggestive things? Why is it now I fantasized about her? I mean, I don't fancy her. But for some reason, pretending this pornstar is her or just remembering S sucking turns me on so much? I do hold myself back from cumming about S though and try to think about another girl at the end. Personally I prefer A and girls like A. I think about her, but can't visualize her as easily? I can't understand how S is in my head. Should I just fantasize and masturbate all the way through the fantasy or hold back as I am now? I dislike S for what she did, but can't seem to bring myself to tell her off? I am in shock at her bitchiness?

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  • Hi I think S does fancy you so that is why she didn't want you getting with A that is so obvious big time.

    1) Ok now this bit tricky but it seems that you fantasise about S giving you head as you want to dominate her and use her for what you want sex and dirty sex but you don't want her to cum in you and vice versa, you want to use her in way as you see her as sluty maybe due to fact she has boyfriend and behaving like this with you.

    2) Again you like the rough dirty sex so S is the one who gets you turned on like a porn star in way but not someone you desire long term or care for so you want A to be the one who cums and you enjoy it with as she is the one who you tricky desire S is for dirty sex and thoughts like a in between thing

    • Thanks for the reply, you really know your stuff!!! So you think S fancies me? How can you tell by the way, and why is she doing this if she has a bf? I really like girls like A, and fancy A in particular. 1) That's an interesting point.. so do you think deep down I want her or is it just to be dominant and why? What about the footjob fantasy btw? I imagine it starting off with her erm.. rubbing her foot on my crotch. I totally agree with your thinking on the dirty sex part of the fantasy. It feels intensely arousing for some reason to imagine/see the pornstar on her knees as S. The thought of S sucking.. her.. is unbelievably hot? Also the idea of her stripping and wanting to please?

    • 2) That does make sense.. for some reason it feels so kinky/dirty and hot to visualize the pornstar as being S (they look near identical and that is wild). FOr some reason, I like to try and prolong the feeling as long as I can. When it comes to erm.. the actual having sex scene, I imagine it with the pornstar, but the blowjob, I imagine it's S and it drives me crazy wild for some reason? Also when it comes to ending, it feels so good and I get these mixed ideas about wanting to cum on her face (S) and body and feeling so aroused and trying to think about a girl I actually fancy and not give S my cum? I don't know why I feel so aroused my S or what this means. So you think that it means anything deep down or rather just liking the slutiness of S? I should say that I wouldn't want S to be my first time though, and I don't really think she is more attractive than A? I prefer A and feel happier if fapping about her, but it's harder to visualize..

    • Also why is it hot to imagine S having a ring on her finger but stripping down and wanting to please me? Why is imagining HER sucking so hot? Any idea how to meet A, and why S did that? Sorry this is a bit long.. but you know your stuff!! What does this all mean oh wise one?

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  • Well sooooo lengthy dude ;)

    Here's what I think, about the fantasies, it's perfectly normal to fantasize about people and you really shouldn't act on it especially since you know you genuinely aren't interested in her. The fantasies will fade or be replaced eventually.

    S sounds like not the kind of girl I'd want to be in a relationship with. Keep it friendly but no more.

    Ask your friend to introduce you to A. Who cares what S thinks. Go to coffee or something and see if you like her for yourself.

    • Thanks for getting back. Sorry it's lengthy but the reason is the details are there. You see I don't have a friend to introduce me to A. As I said in the update, the only person I know (atm) who knows A is S. I am agreed on asking A out when I meet her, but HOW to meet A? Totally agreed on S not being relationship material. Frankly I don't even want to be friends with her now. This is so bad what she's doing in essentially trying to stop me meeting other girls. I am quite annoyed at what she did at the dinner about A. Why did she do that? In terms of the fantasies, I fancy A in real life, but find it hard to visualize her. When I fap about other girls or pornstars, it feels happy the whole way through. For some reason, AFTER S started working her finger in her mouth, I started to imagine her, and used a very similar pornstar lookalike to pretend it's her giving me head. I can't describe how hot it arouses me to think of S doing that? But I don't fancy her?

    • Why would I feel so aroused and like to edge to S, and despite feeling so hot to want to cum on her, hold back at the end and try to think of someone else at the end? Should I hold back, or should I relax and cum about her? It doesn't mean anything right? Thoughts on all this?

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  • 1) then i guess here u want to do sexual thing wid S... since u thought it was her during facial ending... or this pornstar resembled her (when she was suckin her finger)... but would it be "too much" for u havin sex wid S so u couldn't imagine it was her in pornstar's place?

    2) u want S to be a "begger" here... i can see y though... check this:

    "S suddenly rudely CHANGED THE SUBJECT saying "she's not his type". Now I have heard about A and seen her picture."

    ^that's y u want her to be a begger and bashin her afterwards tellin her dat she's not yer type i believe...

    • 1) Well thing is I don't find S super hot or anything - I definitely prefer a different type of girl such as those on my course or A who is so sexy. I do find it very arousing when S put her feet on me and for some reason when S sucks her finger, it's hotter than anything. I find S sucking (her in particular) extremely wild. But the thing is yes, I don't really find the thought of having sex with S hot at all. The thing is the thought of S giving me head and even giving her a facial is very hot, but I kinda don't want to cum about her, does that make sense? 2) So it's cos she has wronged me I find the thought of her being very submissive a turn on? I don't know why but it is very hot to imagine her doing that? 3) Why did she change the subject and what of the 2nd fantasy?

    • 1) i guess u hold some grudge against her and that's y u wanna give her a facial so she'll be punished... yet u don't want her to feel any pleasure probably 2) is she really submissive or u just imagine she is? 3) maybe she wanted to let A know she's not yer type by not sayin it directly?

    • 1) I find A really hot tbh, and enjoy fapping about her more. The idea of a facial is hot. It seems easier to get aroused by S though? In terms of S giving a footjob or giving me head, that is such a hot thought, it's crazy how turned on I get? I mean, yes I don't find her as attractive and am angry about why she changed the subject to essentially block me meeting A. I kinda visualize having sex with the pornstar lookalike, but when it comes to the blowjob, imagine it's S. The thought of giving S a facial is hot, but it feels like she wins if I release to her? 2) She is a bit of an attention seeker who seeks to control her friends (see above). When she rubs her feet on my lap, I like that? Why is the thought of her giving a footjob hot.. is that her being dominant? But the thought of her being submissive is very kinky and hot. 3) Could you clarify?

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  • Histrionic personality disorder is characterized by a long-standing pattern of attention seeking behavior and extreme emotionality. Someone with histrionic personality disorder wants to be the center of attention in any group of people, and feel uncomfortable when they are not. While often lively, interesting and sometimes dramatic, they have difficulty when people aren’t focused exclusively on them. People with this disorder may be perceived as being shallow, and may engage in sexually seductive or provocative behavior to draw attention to themselves.

    • I see. Very interesting! So S might be like that? It seems to describe her rather well. Is that why you think she tried to stop me meeting A? Also why would S (who I don't like) now be entering my thoughts after exhibiting such behavior?

    • S is exactly like that - "when people aren't focused exclusively on them... engage in sexually seductive or provocative behavior". What do you make of what she did at dinner and with her feet etc? And why the fantasies suddenly even though I like A?

    • Histrionic personality disorder seems to be more pronounced in some Hispanic cultures, so it all makes sense. You may be attracted to A but you did describe S as "fairly hot" so there apparently is some attraction there, also. All of the behaviors you describe are rather seductive but, if you confronted her, she would probably deny having any such intentions. That is her level of self-awareness. Men and women fantasize about many things that they don't actually want. Many men fantasize about a threesome but never take any action to make it happen or actually turn down opportunities to participate. Many women admit to having rape fantasies but it is unlikely that more than a few fringe lunatics actually want to be raped. If you have any attraction to S, the fantasies may simply be a way of discharging some of the tension that you feel with a desire that you know will never be fulfilled.

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  • "S" has a boyfriend and is flirting with you, being territorial even with her comments saying "She's not my type."
    S probably does this with every guy she feels she is Hot for, which is probably many and is a cheat sheet as well.
    Good luck. xx

    • The thing is why did she say that about A? Isn't that rude and how would she even know that? Why is she being territorial over me (a friend) when S already has a bf? Does she want me? What do I do given A, who is a yr above S, is on that course which is on a special area of campus just for them. You only meet them at preplanned parties or if you at the same dorms. By luck, you'd have to be lucky cos there are thousands of people on campus? Why, if I fancy A and girls like A, am I suddenly thinking about S putting her feet on me and erm.. giving me a BJ and why do I find it easier to visualize her and so hot?

    • Yes, it's rude but some girls can be like This with being territorial and not give a darn about it even with a boyfriend.. It's like Oh, he's mine, even though she knows you are Not. You feel like this with One and then the Other, because you are Not Into a Real relationship andf you are this fickle Pickle who is a free bird to do as you want.. If you really liked ONLY A, then B would be Not so... HOT. xxoo

    • The thing is I do think about A though. I just find it harder to visualize her partly as I have not met her yet (thanks to S lol). What to do about that? I only started thinking about S AFTER she put her feet on me and worked her fingers in her mouth. I can't explain how intense the arousal is for some reason? I don't fancy her and don't want S though. I have been holding myself back whilst fantasizing, I don't know what to do?

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  • Have you not asked this question many, MANY times before?

  • You see S as your sub and would like to give A and S a little public humiliation. I think it's your fantasy to dominate both of them.

    As for fapping to it. Fap away and have fun👍

    • Thanks for getting back. Thing is did you see the background part (sorry it was long lol) on what S did? Personally I am into A, but she is on another degree which has a restricted building just for them. I haven't been able to meet her. I prefer girls like A and find A very attractive. I don't really see S in that way. But after she did certain things, fantasized about her for some reason? Secondly, in terms of the 2 fantasies, I really like A and imagine us both having fun. With S, I dunno why I even think about her occasionally, but it's soo hot? But I never like to release about her? What do you make of the two fantasies above? Would appreciate your insight!

    • I think that you want S now that she came on to you... and you want A because she's "your type" sometimes when people use their body language you can find that alone attractive. And most certainly tempting the way she is throwing herself at you! But you won't release to her because you want to "cuckold" her... that's fucking awesome😊 You're welcome

    • Haa that's an interesting viewpoint! So you think deep down, I desire S? Thing is I don't really think she is that attractive. I definitely prefer A who is beautiful. But something about the way S sucks makes me so horny. I imagine the pornstar is S (the face is similar) and it drives me wild. Also when S put her feet on me, I kinda got very hard? Could you clarify about the cuckold her? Is she throwing herself at me? She hasn't mentioned, but I heard she has a boyfriend. And what do you make of the not helping me to meet A? I heard A is very popular as well as pretty. Why do I find it so arousing / the hottest thought about S sucking me, but the ending of fantasy 2? Also the fact I don't like to erm.. finish off about S?

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  • Your into the lust and sexual fantasy. Thanks to all the flirting and taunting S has done to you.

    Which S doesn't want you to be with anyone else which is why she did what she did about A. Even if she has a boyfriend she's an attention whore and will go to great lengths to keep the attention on her.

    Don't talk to S anymore since she has a boyfriend. If he found out then he would probably try and beat your ass up. So stay far away from her and just try for A without asking S for anything.

    • I mean I don't fancy S. I like A and girls like A. Why is S doing this and why am I suddenly thinking about her? How do I meet A given the Update above? In terms of the fantasy should I hold back as I do and not cum about S?

    • Enjoy the fantasy since you don't care about S. Though i would think about someone else while doing it. I would ask around about how you can meet A.

    • The thing is I do fantasise about others. It seems easier to visualise S which for some reason turns me on? But it doesn't mean anything since I don't fancy her, so is it ok to cum about her? Will try to ask about A, but right now only know one person who knows her and that is S? Should I have called up S on that, don't know why I hesitate?

  • To quote Freddy Mercury..
    Is this the real life?
    Is this just fantasy?
    Caught in a landslide,
    No escape from reality.

    I'm thinking fantasy. Lol

    • Yes but what about what S said at the dinner? Why is she doing all this if she has a boyfriend and what about A (see update)?

  • Coming from personal experience, attractive girls and Spanish girls in particular tend to be promiscuous and love the attention of men. She could be very insecure in reality which is why she needs attention and might even have 'daddy issues' which is why she seeks male attention in a promiscuous way. She may think the only way to attract men or the only way SHE can is to offer herself up sexually. I'd stay away from her and go to the other women you find more attractive anyway.

    • That's interesting.. so she is doing this for attention. That's a good point! Why is it she does this even though she has a boyfriend already? The thing is A is in the year above S on her course. They are in a special area of campus just for them. The only way to meet such people is to be in their dorms or at preplanned social events or luck. The campus has thousands of people and the city is even bigger. What to do to meet A? In terms of fantasizing, I only thought about S after she put her feet on me and worked her finger in her mouth looking at me. Personally I find A and girls like A attractive. I don't know why S said what she said? Why do I think about S suddenly and hold myself back?

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  • Lol u need to get over S. What's stopping you from sh*ggibg her? She clearly wants you to, so get cracking. Enjoy ;)

    • I don't fancy S though? So I'm not into her. I don't know why but thinking about her sucking is very hot for some reason. Does she want me? She has a boyfriend, but seems to want to stop me meeting hot girls? Is it to make me a backup, or her attention seeking? Can I meet A? What to do about the 2 fantasies and what do they mean?

    • Well S wants you so it's up to you to decide if that's for u. If u don't fancy her I'd just avoid her for a bit, she seems tiring if she doesn't get what she wants... and A seems worth checking out, so maybe make a move with her

    • But isn't S with somebody? Why would she do this? Personally I don't like S, I'm not into her. I don't really know why the fantasies cropped up, but I like A. Why did she change the subject when A was mentioned? I would like to meet A, but it's like this. Their course (A is a yr above S) is in a restricted part of campus. people from other degrees only meet if they are at the same halls or at preplanned meetings or at parties (but that's luck). So how to meet A? S knows her (they're not close close, but she knows her as A was her mentor/buddy for some project). Thoughts on this and what the fantasies mean?

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  • Good lord man! Is this for real? If it is then, what does you brian ( the one between your ears) tell you?
    She is behaving like a temptress. Maybe she is getting a high out of toying with you. Or maybe she wants to f&@k your brains out.
    As for you fantasies, I'd say you have a serious foot fetish!

    • Yes, I know right? I've been struggling to keep calm when she puts her feet on me like that. Why is it so hot and I imagine her doing that a lot? Why did S work her finger in her mouth like that? I can't seem to stop thinking about her sucking and imagine the pornstar is her pleasing me. I feel confused as it is an intense turn on to think of S giving me a footjob and sucking me off, it's unbelievably hot. But I don't fancy her? Why do you think S said that regarding A and changed the subject and why am I hesitating to call her up on it?

    • Assuming that you're not trolling, you're sexually attracted to her in a very intense way and nothing more

    • But I don't fancy S? So why the thoughts about her and what to do?

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  • You feel sexually attracted to S, that's why you fantasize about her, but stay away dude, she's taken. Plus, if you like A, you better stay away from S cause if you hookup with her, you're gonna lose A.

  • She just loves attention and full of herself, I'd say.
    Better off stay away from that kind of girl.

    • As in S, yes totally agree. Why is she trying to stop me meeting A? Why am I thinking about S if I fancy A?

    • What do you make of the 2 dreams above?

    • Any thoughts on the second fantasy?

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  • fuck write a book man xD. sounds like a story lol.

    • It would be a good book I guess!! Real though and confused. What do you think about why S did that and about my sudden fantasies?

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    • @Deft_maiden Could you please check this out?

  • she's just flirty and sounds immature.

    About the sexual fantasies it just seems you just thinking about sex with girls you are attracted to in some way.

    • I see your point about S!! The thing is I don't fancy or consider myself attracted to S? So why the fantasy all of a sudden.. is it when she worked her finger in her mouth? I keep holding myself back from cumming about her when masturbating. Should I do that? Why did S say what she did at the dinner, should I call her up on it and how to meet A given the update?

    • Well I don't know dude tbh. Just do what you feel is right

    • Ok, but what about meeting A (see update) and why S did that?

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  • So basically your fantasizing about one you can't have and reinforcing it with a pornstar that looks simialiar? But you can't have either for obvious reasons. I guess I would pretty much do it the way that makes able to masturbate and Cum the most. Just think Of the one you like the most begging you for your cum😊

    • The thing is I only started fantasizing about S after she did those things. I don't find her as attractive as A or other girls and fancy A, not S. Why did S say that and change the subject at dinner? I feel confused as to why I find it intensely hot to imagine S being the pornstar. I mean.. for some reason I can visualize her easier than A or others. I don't know why I seem to enjoy edging to her and it's crazy hot? I kinda really want to blast my load over her face (when the pornstar asks for it) as if it's S, but hesitate. Does S win or is it fine to cum as much as I want about her? I think in terms of the fantasy, I would want S begging for my cum. But I fancy A?

    • I'm trying to psychoanalysize this but I it's because the one which you refer to as S seems to be more out of reach for you and not interested in you that way , so it could be why you want her only in that way because of the stuff she did to you earlier triggers it in your mind to want to blow a load on her face. You really haven't interacted with girl A , so it's what ever you want to believe with her in your fantasies and you already know what the porn star can do and is like naked

    • The pornstar looks like S. I mean it's really hot to imagine it being S. I didn't think about as until the things she did. Why is it so hot? As in intensely arousing? I think A is prettier and I fancy A. What to do given my update? Also should I hold back in my fantasy (I try not to cum) about S or just enjoy it? Why did S do that at the dinner?

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  • S is obviously a hoe, like some mean girls on movies that wants all men’s attention, that you’re not aware of that really exist in real life. lol. if u don’t fancy her, then don’t waist your time with her you might end up fucking her and end up catching any type of yeast infection cause fyi she’s with other guy, just simply ask S what’s A’s full name on insta or if u want just make excuse to her you wanna introduce your friend to A, so she don’t talk to much shit, cause S could make stories bout you to A that you flirting with her and you’re a fuck boy cause you’re trying to with A as well, and you could loose your hope to get a chance with A.

  • Sounds like S is a one night stand and A is a dating prospect or a possible significant other. Play with S and get that out of your system. Then start talking to A but not right away. Don't mix up S and A because that ll ruin any prospect with A.

    Footjobs are hot if a girl has sexy clean feet I've never had one but would kill for one. Was she wearing shoes or barefeet or barefoot with flip flops/sandals? Man if a girl did that, I'd very discreetly reposition myself so those feet would end up brushing against my crotch. Once she feels that and you turned on, she ll want it. You get something there then something later skin on skin without pants in the way. Go for it! Let her slightly feel it, if she backs away , then stop. If she dosent and start moving her feet around against that area you got it in the bag lol. Just make sure you reposition yourself discreetly and act ignorant of how close her feet are to your ****. Act surprised , then see what she does.

    • Yes agreed about S being that. A is definitely my type so is that why S quickly changed the subject.. why did she do that? Thing is A is in the yr above S on a degree which has a restricted area on the campus. You only meet people at prearranged events (e. g. party) or if you are at the same dorms. What to do? Yeah, when S has put her feet on me, it has been barefoot. Have to say, it was all of a sudden, she just put her feet right on my lap, one was kinda on my upper thigh and the other right above my crotch area really. If you had a birds eye view, and my legs were a V sitting down, one was on the right part of the V at the mid area and the other at the base of the V. It felt very arousing and I liked it. But she did it in public whilst a few of us were watching tv? So I couldn't react? Also why did she work her fingers in her mouth? S has a boyfriend as far as I am aware, and why is she stopping me from meeting other girls including A?

    • Well its clear that S wants the attention from you and is intimidated and jealous by A obviously. I would pursue S, let her do her thing and move on to A, the real girl yoy want. You have to get S out of the way first and especially in her mind. It dosent matter if she has a boyfriend, she's the one choosing to do it and cheat on him. Let her make a move on you but maybe you could put yourself in a situation it could happen. And damn too bad it's not under the table or something she's doing it lol. Did you even get to touch her feet? Do you think she noticed or felt you were aroused by it or do you think she was just using you as a foot rest? Cause sometimes girls will forget that guys don't have a vagIna and have a thing that sticks out and rest their feet right there. Of course if she's doing the finger in mouth thing, this is probably purposeful too.

    • In terms of the feet, S put her feet on me on the couch, not under the table. It was in public, so I couldn't really do much. But the way she positioned herself, my hand was on the armrest and touching the underside of her thigh (as she had put her legs over it). I mean, I don't know, she didn't ask she just moved her feet there. One was definitely close to the crotch and I think I was shaking a little after a while out of sheer arousal. I mean it felt great and I was definitely hard. One foot must have felt it. I keep imagining her doing it again, or under the table?

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