FWB: Why did my friends with benefits unmatched me and unfriended me?

[Anonymous]

For the past few months I've had this friends with benefits, whom we both casually call each other up whenever we want to hook up/talk/have sex. We both agreed on this whole friends with benefits type of relationship, and we set rules etc. In my case, I like his company, but I would never have strong feelings for him or get attach. I have other friends with benefits relationships other than him that I hit up whenever I feel like it. So attachment is never an issue with me. Recently my friends with benefits and I hooked up one night and hanged out, like friends. We catch up on each other's life and it was nice. After that I night, I went to a trip over the weekend, and when I came back I saw that he unmatched me on tinder and unfriended me on Facebook. So, I'm just wondering why he would that? Some information about him, he's really sensitive and he always gets jealous whenever I post picture with or other guys on social media or see that I'm active on tinder. We both agreed on just being friends, but now he won't respond to my texts.

[Ozanne]

This is the insurance people put on non-committal sexual relationships, otherwise known as friends with benefits. They reserve the right to call it off or meet someone else without having to talk to you about it first or get your permission. It's not a friendship, contrary to the word "friend" being used. It's anything but when one person like this just vanishes and makes you think you aren't worth shit. Nice friend, huh? Had you not been sex partners, there wouldn't have been a deletion.

Couple of things could have happened:

1. He developed feelings and know you haven't developed feelings for him. As it continues you talk to other guys and he is feeling jealous as if you're out on the market and could drop him anytime. To save a heartbreak, he deletes you.
2. He met someone or is pursuing someone. Therefore, your time in bed has expired and since there was no real friendship anyway, as much as you like to think there was (usually people mask as friends to keep the sex going) there was no point in remaining in contact.
3. Has a new girl, and she's not liking that a fling with a friends with benefits is still on his social media as a constant reminder or potential threat that he's interested in going back to you. Women often will make up rules with new boyfriends like this.
4. He's cleaning up his social media, and is finished with fucking for fun and maybe didn't think you would understand this. He might want to focus on other things in his life and since you weren't an actual girlfriend, he felt no need to tell you anything.
5. It was an accident. He got trigger happy with deleting and you were caught in the line of fire. Or.. something like this.

[Onyx277]

Sounds to me like he ended up developing feelings and is ready to cut you off and move on with his life. This happens often with friends with benefits relationships, and this is why I don't get involved with them. Someone almost ALWAYS ends up getting feelings, while the other person does not. It's a bit of a mess if you ask me.

[Cmasterson]

HE could have potentially realized he grew attachment for you, and or had feelings so a quick way to dismiss them is to get 'rid' of you all together some people feel as if they don't owe anyone an explanation.. but I would still be curious.

[Asker]

Could be. Before we agreed on being friends with benefits, we both tried dating each other. But it work out, due to too much school/work, busy lives

[Asker]

*didnt work out

[mikedtown1986]

Obviously he has feelings for you that go beyond the friends with benefits agreement some people believe that because of the friends with benefits agreement that no one is going to catch feelings but that's definitely not true sex no matter how it comes is powerfull act between to people so I would say caught feeling and now looking for more for him self

[karleaa]

He might have caught feelings and because of the agreement before hand wants to cut ties before it gets too serious.

[Anonymous]

he didn't want to do it anymore.

[Asker]

That was the vibe I was kinda getting. I don't have a problem with it lol