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Do gay guys want guys more than girls do?

I am bicurious and have noticed postings in here and on craigslist and it seems that gay or bi guys will do anything to get guys off but girls aren't as interested. For example, blowjobs and swallowing--gay guys seemingly will always do both but most girls aren't as interested, especially the latter. Also, gay guys seem to be very into rimming but girls don't like it at all. I ask this question because it just seems that gay/bi guys go the extra mile for guys and want guys more than girls. I am still only curious and have yet to find a guy that I was attracted to but it is always hot when someone REALLY wants you. What does everyone on here think?
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  • This is a very interesting question. I don't think women want guys less than gay guys. Maybe we want them in more ways than just sexual. I am not implying that gay guys only want other guys for sex, so please don't misunderstand my answer here. I know many gay people are in loving emotional relationships as well. But you are framing your question only from the hard sex point of view. That seems to be the issue here.

    Some women just need to be exposed to more types of sexual situations to become aroused by them. I was not aroused that much by giving a man oral sex, when I first started doing it. Now it is one of the most pleasurable things I can do for a man, even if I am not very emotionally involved with him.

    If a woman is going to have casual sex with a guy, he is going to have to bring something exciting physically to the table. He needs to be strongly attractive to her physically, have a decent personality, be well groomed, and intelligent.

    As far as swallowing, I will do that, but for that, I like to be in a relationship. Maybe you are coming on too strong with the women you encounter. Or maybe you may be asking them to do things that could be physically uncomfortable for them.

    As far as the blowjobs, generally speaking, I read on this site all of the time how so many women love doing that to a man. I am not sure that your assertion that women are not liking to do this is a reality.

    • Most guys, when they want a girl, will do anything to please her, even uncomfortable things. I have performed oral and analingus on a women thousands of times and in return I have gotten it less than 10 times (from 12 gfs). I help them explore their bicurious fantasies but they call my bicuriousity disgusting. It seems that most women don't have to work hard for sex so aren't as open or as willing to please. Just my experience.

    • Women all too often take their cue from men. Straight men are extremely disgusted by gay male sex, rightly or wrongly. Women accept that premise until society feels otherwise. I hate to say it, but most women are followers more than leaders. That is just nature's way in a man's world. However as males are becoming more liberated in experimentation, we are also seeing women start to accept it as not disgusting at all. "Note" Women do uncomfortable things to please men too.

    • I think women set the trends sexually--they generally have the power when it comes to sex as women are in greater demand for sex (guys want sex more) and there are fewer females willing to have it casually. As for uncomfortable things, I know some women will do uncomfortable sexual acts but most won't. For example,the girlfriends I have had won't get near my butt even after I ask them to and even after I lick and finger their butts as long as they wish. Most women won't play with a guys butt.

  • Maybe you are dating women who are unaware of just how erotic the anal area is for a man. That would probably be most younger women. You need to explain how the prostate is very erotic and is sensitive to anal stimulation. Ask them to rub your perinium. Explain that it feels so good because it is stimulating the prostate. Let them seee how great you feel. Then slowly they can move on toward the anal area because that gets to the prostate even better. Maybe you need to educate them a little? Women need to understand that this is a man thing, not necessarily a gay thing. Make sure you are clean and don't obsess about the issue. That could spook them.

    • I have tried to explain to them. In addition, I clean that area very frequently. I wish the women I have dated were more open but they have only been open to their fantasies, not mine.

  • maybe... some girls probably don't do as much because they know they can just move on to the next guy. I think being gay is already going the extra mile pretty much all the gay guys I know are just lookin' for a good time. Usually when a guy is gay he wants to do all that stuff w/o having to be persuaded

Most Helpful Guys

  • There ARE gay men that refuse to engage in anal and/or oral sex. The just don't like having sex in that way. I think many heterosexual men let the taboo of anal stimulation get to them and refuse to engage in any sort of act that would involve penetration and stimulation of their prostate. They just don't see it as the "guy" thing to do. You can get multiple orgasms from prostate stimulation if you do it right. I don't think gay men like men any more than women do. I always think it's equal. But maybe we're a bit more... aggressive in seeking out a partner.

    I like men just as much as my girlfriends do, but I may be a bit more aggressive in finding someone to be with. The guy I'm with is very shy and I wouldn't have ever even got with him if I didn't make most of the effort. Maybe those guys just stand out to you.

    As far as your curiosity goes don't be afraid to explore your feelings towards the same sex if you feel you may be bisexual. If it turns out you aren't then you can walk away with that knowledge.

  • I think you don't like women enough, and should go 100% gay. If you really love women, you are willing to put up with their need to be demure in regards to attraction they have for men. There are enough men competing for the good women -- you will have more luck, especially as a guy in his 20's, in the gay pool. Leave women for men who are willing to take their little games & often princess like ways.

    • Hah, up arrow.

    • Got to admit, that was good. Sexually speaking, it would be easier to be gay. I am just not attracted to guys.

    • Yeah, that's how it is. Girls are like a bad addiction: I'm willing to destroy my life for them, do anything to have them, put all else aside -- because, well, they can be just so damn pretty. A very very dangerous drug they are -- more powerful than any other.

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  • Gays have a smaller pond. A very picky girl may wait a long time to find the man she wants. A very picky gay guy dies alone.

  • haha, my gay friend hates giving head.. and receiving he only likes to get..

    so uh yeah :P I don't really think you can say that those who are gay go the extra mile to get their partner off... I think its completely personal.

  • Man, if I was gay, I could get laid every night. :(

    But I like girls, so I spend my nights alone...

  • It would make sense, since girls won't exactly know what the guy's feeling the same way another guy would. I've noticed guys are a lot less likely to hit other guys in the balls, too.

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