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Guys only want girls for sex?

Its really hard for me sometimes to not look past the fact that guys wants sex. what i mean about that is that if a guy shows interest in me i always think "he doesn't really like me as a person, he just wants to put his penis in me". I simplify it in that way, they are only interested because they want to have sex with me, and that is a turn off for me (it makes me feel like thats the only reason they want me anyway). It's difficult not to think that guy only want sex from women too.. I mean how many guys do you know thats completely fine with no sex in a relationship, excluding asexuals? Many guys have stated they would leave a girl if she wouldn't have sex with him. im not saying that this applies for every guy out there, but the main reasons guys approach girls in the first place is because of sex which is understandable (sex is fun).. but really unattractive in my eyes. I know why guys approach me hence a lot of times i know i just have to look cute and act nice and i'll have them wrapped around my littlefinger, which gets really boring really fast, i dont really have to work or anything.. i just need to have a vagina and not be hedious and they'll come running
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  • There's no doubt that there are guys out there who are like that, but not to the extent you're trying to make it seem. It seems like your own insecurity is the culprit here. Yes, sex in a relationship is important for most people, GIRLS INCLUDED, but that in no way means that they're only interested in sex and don't care about who they're actually having sex with.

    You need to realize that you're worth more than just your vagina, and that A LOT of guys actually see that too. That's what seems to be the problem here, you're trying to reduce yourself to being just a walking vagina. And that's hella insecure of you. If you start to see the value you actually have, then maybe you'll slowly realize that there are people out there who are interested in you for YOU, and not because of what you have between your legs.

    • people aren't understanding what im trying to say, i dont blame you, im pretty sure its my fault for being bad at explaining. What im trying to say is that guys approach women for sex, not necessarily exclusively sex, but its one of the main reasons. And you reading way to much in that.. im an awesome person i have a lot ot offer, not just my vagina. If i had the mind set you're trying to make me sound like i have i would have had sex with every guy that has flirted with me, which i haven't.. i have had a lot of offers, but i turned down all of them because no one of them was worth my first time. But when a guy first approaches a girl it's because he finds her attractive, hence feeling sexual attractions towards her, aka wanting to have sex with her.

    • Ok... and your point? Of course they approach you because they see you as a potential sex partner. But that doesn't mean they don't ALSO approach you because you seem intelligent, funny and witty. Like that one anon says, guys don't just exclusively see you as a person just to have sex with. Just because they want sex, it doesn't mean they also don't want more things. Such as nice company, an intelligent conversation, a good laugh. When you first see a person, all you see is their body. And since that's all you see, it's only logical that sex is the first thing that comes to your mind - is that body your preference or not. Because that's all you see. That's all you know. Everything else is stuff you figure out later on. And this is something girls do too. It's something all of us do, and not just with relationships, but friendships too. "He looks like a funny guy", "she looks like she's knowledgeable" -> "let's get to know them!"

    • Again, just because sex might be the first thing guys think about, it doesn't mean it's the ONLY thing they think about, or the ONLY reason they approach you.

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  • Sex is a part of a relationship... could you really be with someone you weren't attracted to and not want to do him?:D Looks is what attracts us at first, the rest comes later, when you get to know the person. Guys will always want sex as well as we will, but I know it's harder for girls to see that line..."does he want me for me or just for my body?" Because we connect sex with emotions more often than them. It doesn't apply for everyone, of course. So if you want to make sure... get to know the guy first and don't put out until you feel like you can trust him.

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  • Well i fell in love with a girl and just did not want to have sex with. Yes there was a sexual attraction... but i really wanted to be with because i genuily loved her... and i married her and almost 5 years down the road i still love her even more. Yes we had sex and we are expecting the birth of our baby daughter. Sex came about because we had deep feelings of love for each other and while i agree there are many guys who want sex, there are also a lot of guys who want the love part just as much :)

    • lovely story, but you're missing my point. What i was trying to get across was that guys approach women for sex, not exclusivly for sex.. but sex is one of the reasons. Sexual attraction means you find the other person attractive in a sexual context, you want to have sex with her which is one of the reasons you love her and is expecting a baby

    • Thanks, Oops, sorry about that... i read through it a bit quickly. hmm, i get what you are saying. Yes maybe its just an instinct in men (i'm no expert tho). But i must be honest when i saw her... there really was not much sexual energy in my body... like i wanted to just have sex with her. Yes i agree that somewhere in my mind i wanted to start a family with her. I approached her because something inside me told me that she was the "one". I felt happy with her, comfortable, at peace... so to speak

    • im glad you found the girl for you! i wish you luck with your baby girl :)

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  • There is certainly an element of truth in what you say as expressed in the old saying: men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love. That said, mature men see their women as people first and sex objects only when it's appropriate. If you're not getting respect from a man, move on.

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  • Let's flip this around. If a girl approaches a guy what is her reason for doing so? It is the same as if a guy approaches a girl. They either want to make new friends, or possibly find a relationship partner.

    Given the fact you paint all guys with a wide brush I'm not too surprised you don't have a meaningful relationship.

    • i never said that girls dont approach guys for sex or whatever. But this isn't a discussion about women, this about guys... post you're on question about that topic.. i didn't make this to talk about what women "also does" I also clearly wrote "im not saying that this applies for every guy out there".. so take your condescending attitude elsewhere

  • The life story so far knight1986 told is my dream... I have a girl who i love and i want just a simple life with her... No sex is not always necessary. I love my girl and for reasons i dont know. She is attractive but i never think about having sex with her. I know after marriage something might happen between us but we will see what happens and that all together.. I don't need to think about it. If for some reason she doesn't wanna do it... I will be just fine... For my heart just wants her to be happy and i will anything for that.

  • i'm not asexual but if i really loved a gal then i'd not give a shit wether we ahd sex or not... just being together's enough wid me

    • then you're a rare case...

    • Klaatu stop BSing lol. Love isn't some magical divine power. All you feel is chemical reactions that happen once you complete your evolutionary targets one of which is sex.

    • @asker rare? i guess i said da most logical thing... if logical's a "rare case"... then world's fucked up :| @alison_dilaurentis ever considered i might just love ehr even without havin sex before?

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  • Sooooo what's your point? Relationships beyond friendship are founded on physical intimacy. If you take that out of the equation then all you're left with is just friends.

  • If a girl if attractive of course we wanna bang her...
    But if feelings are involved then it makes to love you more... And make love to you or something...
    And yes we want sex... but not all his
    Guys including me approach a girl only because we want sex...

    • i know, thats my point.. guys want sex and thats the reason the approach a woman in the first place

  • U. S. A need scientists. is it? no actually they only want there brain not how much they are good but his wife want him as a person why? because if he is a bad person she has to face the consequences but you can see here she fall in love with him because he is smart and he is good. good means how he became good because his brain thinking in a good way but is that mean she only liking his brain no she is liking him physically, mentally, biological to.
    same with men, men also like woman in all the ways not only sexually. one thing some woman think pussy is costly so you have to buy in the same way some men think woman are just sexual objects so leve about them and accept the world as you like :-)

    • www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1589575-i-am-so-sad-about-this-indian-peoples-attitudes
      like this, don't worry stupids are every where leave them live happy :-)

    • im not a 100% sure what youære implying, but if you read my question and all my answers with other people who commented you can see that i never said "guys only want sex from girls" or "guy only approachiate sex from women".. Im saying that sex is the biggest, if not the only, reason guys approach women in the first place. The reason a guy chose to stay and get to know her is still based on his wants of having sex with her. But when he gets to know the women, learns he likes her personality too, thats when they form relationships etc..

    • sorry for confusing you. first say what makes you like a guy :-)

  • I personally don't need sex right away in the relationship. In fact, I'd rather wait until it's time - until we are both ready and comfortable. I would rather get to know the girl first before we get together in that way. After all, if I'm looking to spend the rest of my life with her, I'd like to know now if she's a manipulative psycho rather than 10 or 20 years down the road.

    • well im not saying guys want sex straight away either,.. but at the end of the they you are with her because you're attracted to her.. the reason you approached her in the first place and keep in conatct with her is because you find her attractive hence wanting to have sex with her.. Im not doubting that you want to get to know her first, thats not what i was trying to say, but at the end of the day one of the biggest reasosn you're with a girl is her attractiveness

    • Well, yeah. Being attractive (enough) is rather required. It's rather hard for some guys (me included) to spend a lot of time with someone if they aren't attracted to them. Pardon me if that makes me a horrible person, but I'm just telling you the truth. Each guy has a different spectrum of attractiveness/beauty. Mine is more wider probably than most. But I need to be somewhat attracted to her for me to spend time with her in a romantic relationship.

    • i know.. thats what i have been trying to say...

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  • No... I'm not.. I never want a girl just for sex.. I'm virgin & I want to be sex with whom , who would marry me...
    But yeah some means max guys r like that , that they only want sex.. But unfortunately girls like them or love them.. Girls thought they r hot & good... After sex they leave the girls..

    • maybe i didn't make myself clear enough, but what im trying to say is that no guys approach a girl because you think her personality is great or because you want to be her friend. You approach her because you find her attractive hence wanting to have sex with her. So im not saying guy approach girl only for sex and then leave, but im saying the expect sex.. when it comes to long terms relations like marriage

    • Never.. I don't think a good guy needs girls just for sex.. U need a good guy , who can understood u... Don't be shy :) ...

    • " I don't think a good guy needs girls just for sex." - if you read my last comment properly you can see that i wrote "So im not saying guy approach girl only for sex and then leave" and not that guys only want sex.

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  • Umm I'm assuming you're saying this based on just a handful of guys you know. Every guy is different, just like every girl is. Sex is really not that important to me, but neither are relationships. I'm not asexual. I'm actually bi, but I feel love and sex are optional.

    • no, im saying this based on logcial thinking and biology. No one is the same, and my point was that even though sex isn't super important to you, you still want it. Thats why you approach girls in the first place.. you find her attractive you want to have sex with her... Even if you plan to marry someone you're indirectly expecting sex at some point... if you only wanted companionship you would have just made guy friends, dont you think?

    • Not exactly. I never approach a girl for sex. Even if I do, I would make my intentions clear. I also never expect sex in a relationship. Even if I was to get married, I would be okay without it. Also, that last sentence didn't make sense to me. As I said, I'm bisexual and I have dated guys in the past and even had sex with one. It's really no different than dating a girl. I can see both guys and girls as potential sexual partners, even though it's not something I really need.

  • Yeah I just want sex and I'll keep her for 30 years cause i want sex... no srsly.

  • That's city kids for ya when u get into the sticks all the logging boys u have respect yah u want sex but that is WAY down in the relashionship we do not start the sex in the relashionship the girl dose if we make a move on a girl and she's not ready everyone will hear about it a then the guy gets his ass kid he won't even stand for a week we ask the girls father to date her before we ask her we take things vary slow and ower mission is just to make u happy if u don't want sex for the first 2 years then it dosn't happen simple as that but we do get to kiss u a lot

  • If sex with with women were impossible I'd still have women friends but I think lot of guys wouldn't. Same goes for women, a lot of them don't really like men, they like want they think men ought to be like. You might be one of them.

  • " i just need to have a vagina and not be hedious and they'll come running "

    Guys approach women for sex, and stay with them for their personality.
    It's incredibly easy for a woman to have sex, but much harder to keep a valuable man (thus not desperate, and who doesn't struggle with women).
    Bimbos (Hot but Dumb) are cursed to be used for sex, since they really don't have much more to offer... (this also works for hot but dumb guys actually).

    Also, I never understood the stupid reflex of thinking that if a man likes your body, it means he doesn't care about your brain. I don't even see the link between the 2... what the fuck does finding you hot has anything to do with possibly also finding you to be a great person (or not)... Making the link between the 2 is ridiculous.

    • "Also, I never understood the stupid reflex of thinking that if a man likes your body, it means he doesn't care about your brain." sosososo true.

    • that wasn't what i was trying to say. What im trying to say is that guys want sex. Guys approach women for sex, not only for companionship. Do you approach women on the street because you want to be her friend? i doubt iy.. You approach her because you find her attractive, you want to get to know her better and you're hoping/wanting sex at some point with this attractive individual. The reason you keep in contact and actually try to get to know her is sex.. But that doesn't mean you dont think she's a great person..

    • OF COURSE I approach women and get to know them for sex initially. Why else would I go out of my way to approach them? ... There are 3 kinds of relationships. Sex partner / Girlfriend / Friend. Do I want you for sex? Yes because I can see immediately I like your body. Do I want you as a girlfriend? I'll have to get to know you for that, and I already like your body (you need body + personality to be a girlfriend, not one of them. BOTH) Do I want you as a friend? No. Because I already have friends, and even if I didn't, you don't make real friends by approaching them the way you approach women. Real friends are discovered during though times because they are the ones that stay and take the heat with you. And besides since friends are supposed to understand me better than other people, they will most likely be males... not females.

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