Guys, why doesn't my boyfriend want to talk dirty to me?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. Everytime I try to talk dirty to him he always steers the convo in a different direction. We have sex like 3-4 times a week and I'm with him every single night. I know he's not cheating or anything like that, I just want to know why he doesn't like to talk dirty over text messages. He never has. I thought every guy liked that.
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  • Well - he might not know how! Some people like sexting, others don't, and some don't know if they're any good at it or not as they have never tried! Have you told him that it would really turn you on to sext with him? If not then you should tell him - and then he'll think differently about it - because it gives you pleasure. If he's worried about privacy then use KIK or a similar app so he can use a different persona.
    If he's not confident to engage in this way, then there are plenty of articles online he can read to 'learn' how to sext well!
    And if he's just not into it, ask him to at least try and when he does send him a photo of your instantly wet panties! That should do the trick... ;)

  • He's obviously, to use the dreaded U-word, uncomfortable with doing that. Here's a link to a Take that might let you move him toward what you want.

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

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  • Because he's paranoid of doing it wrong and looking like a pratt or a pervert. A lot of young guys are... better that than he go the other way and think they are god's gift.

    If you want to bring it out in him, play with him, talk dirty yourself and encorague him to respond, but don't put pressure on him to do so.

  • Not every guy is comfortable with that, either doesn't know what to say or how to respond or doesn't know what the limits are or just finds it a little ridiculous. Not every guy is the same. If you like to do it then talk to him about it, after all he is the one not talking dirty to you so he is the best source to find out why.

  • Maybe he's just not into talking dirty. Maybe he'd rather do some nasty shit to you rather than talk about it... That's not so bad, is it?

  • It's not that easy. Although lot's of guys seem to not never have learned it, most guys have always been taught to never disrespect their girls and to never use vulgar words around them. So to suddenly do the opposite is not so easy.

    Just let him know how okay it is for you by telling him. Let me say it again, telling him and not hinting him.

  • could be he doesn't know how he could respond talking dirty even if he wanted to, like he wants to but worried he might mess it up so might be nervous about it especially if he hasn't talk dirty before.

  • I'd say he is just shy to talk dirty. I was like that in my 20's.

  • He may not feel he is good at it and prefer to not engage as to not ridicule himself

  • May be he starts masturbating soon after you start taking dirty. And then he finishes the job fast ;)

  • Really? Did you REALLY think every guy liked that?

  • probably just not comfortable sexting

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