I'm just a man, so am no expert...but the clitoral orgasms are pretty easy to figure out. Yeah some women don't like direct clit stimulation, but most do. Its all a matter of figuring out timing and what she likes.
The vaginal orgasms are somewhat mysterious though. Whereas I can usually get a woman to have a clitoral orgasm the vaginal is much more allusive. Its kind of like trying to find bigfoot in a huge dark cave. I have found what works best for this an extremely slow build up while teasing around the vagina for along time, then moving on to licking the labia majora, followed by slowly inserting digits, finally finishing with a good two finger rhythm with the palm up and the fingers slightly curved up for the gspot. I have no idea which intercourse position works best as I have arbitrarily had success with almost every position and none necessarily more then the others. Every women really is different when it comes to the vaginal orgasms.
If I have a spare couple of hours, the best orgasms I have ever given women are blended orgasms. I learned it in a book by Lou Paget called How To Giver Her Absolute Pleasure. Its a great book that described a technique that works when I mix it with a few others. It starts off with, as usual, lots-o-foreplay. Over a period of an hour or so get her primed up by teasing, sucking, and fingering slowly and erotically. From there start stimulating the clit slowly. When you feel her start to get close to orgasm stop. Tease her for another 10 minutes or so then start to finger her with no clit stimulation (use your hand to caress her body) until she gets close to a vaginal orgasm then stop. Repeat and rinse for a total of 3 times each (you could try more, but the women start cursing at you and can be prone to violence for not letting them come :-) ) each time letting the pause time between reduce by a minute or so. Finally dig in and giver her the vaginal stimulation with the clitoral stimulation at the same time. From what I've been told about half the time they'll hit their clit or vaginal orgasm first but the feeling is still great. Another quarter of the times or so is she'll have an orgasm that is full body and all encompassing but if I ask they don't know if it was clitoral or vaginal and don't care. The last quarter of the time is an almighty earth shattering orgasm where I can barely hang on as her hips buck and I think I'll be thrown off like an undersized cowboy off a bull. Her face and neck area turn a bright red, flush with pleasure and she'll lay there shivering for quite a long time after. In those times she'll tell me that she had the blended orgasm which is a powerful combination of both.
I've done it with a few different women and it seems to work most times thanks to Paget and some trial and error. That's one of the things I love about the female body. Its so beautiful and its orgasms can be so powerful but they never quite come out the same!
I'll tell you my girlfriend likes much more that kind out orgasm than the clitoral one.
Tell your partner not to hurry up and start it slowly and to let his body relaxed so that it can be there for like 30 minutes or more...
Tell him how you like it more.
I'm not a girl so I can't give you any further advice. But here's a tip, try doing it outdoors (lol), it appears to be more stimulating or something...
Anyways... you'd better ask girls...
LOL! Not very helpful, but thanks for trying!
Ya sorry there-.-' ask girls... maybe they'll have a secret trick so that it can work fine
I can do it, just very, very rarely. For me, it works best in missionary with him directly on top of me, because he tends to thrust deeper. It's the deepness and angle of the thrust in that position that sets me over. In rare occasions, I've had vaginal orgasms from being on top, but I kind of have to do a grinding motion against him, to get that deep penetration feeling... which makes me worry I'm boring him since I know for a guy it's the up/down motion of me being on top that gets them off.
I'm trying to figure out if I can train myself to have vaginal orgasms more frequently, but no luck so far... I hope the following doesn't offend anybody, but I wonder if women who prefer penetration didn't masturbate as much early on, such that they 'learned' to orgasm from sex - training their brain/nerves/anatomy to prefer that method. On the other hand, those of us who prefer clitoral stimulation may have masturbated early, so we trained ourselves to orgasm that way, potentially setting up our brain/nerve connections/anatomy to be geared for that method.
For instance, there was an MRI study that showed women who have greater ability to orgasm from sex alone have more tissue in the g-spot area of their vagina. However, it's not known if they were born this way anatomically, or if the tissue developed as a result of training the g-spot.
I've thought about the masturbation vs. intercourse-learned orgasm idea before. I know that I've technically masturbated from an early age (didn't realize what and why it felt so good for a long while) and I was stimulating the clitoris. I've briefly discussed sex with my sister and she supposedly orgasms during sex and mentioned that masturbating the clit is gross. I'm currently in my first sexual relationship and I'm so worried I'll never orgasm with him - which makes it harder. :(
That happens to me sometimes too. I change positions. I can orgasm easily when I am on top but when he is it ain't coming. For me is way it penetrates me and if he is hitting my g-spot. Spooning too is good. It is an incredible feeling all body orgasm, internally. So maybe switch positions and try not to push to have but let it happen relax a bit.
If you tighten the muscles while having sex, sometimes it can help get you there, especially when you feel close.
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