Girls, How do I make an inexperienced girl feel comfortable?

I've dated a girl for a little while now. She is 24 and I am 26. She is a really sweet but at times a very shy girl. We've known each other for about a month now and really like each other, but we haven't done anything yet. Usually I am the kind of guy that has sex the first or second time I'm with a girl I'm interested in, but it's very different with this one. From the start I could tell she is shy and because of that and cultural differences, I decided not to pressure her into anything before I felt like she was ready. At first she didn't even want to talk about sex, but I've managed to make her talk about it. She has been with only one guy before, for 7 years and he is the only person she has ever had sex with. She has tried giving a blowjob once, but didn't feel comfortable about it or anything else for that matter, in her own words, she just got on her back and let him do what he wanted. No wonder she is insecure, because in my opinion she never really learned. Now my question for you guys are, how do I make her feel comfortable and still able to teach her some new things? she's a very attractive young girl and she has huge potential in my dirty mind, I just won't push it too fast, because I would never do anything to make her feel uncomfortable or hurt her. I know she wants to have sex with me, but she is very shy about it. I kind of feel like I am about to have sex with a virgin, which I have never tried, so I really need some tips here. Some of you girls must have been in the same position as her? A few nights ago we dirty talked a little.. I told her exactly how I imagined having sex with her would be like and she was stunned. She couldnt even look me in the eyes. It wasn't anything crazy, it just got very detailed. The next day she told me that she really wanted it to happen, but she was afraid I wouldn't like it with her. I really need some pointers here. Not just for my own sake, but also for hers, I want her to feel safe around me and learn from me.
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  • If you guys are not in a relationship, then it's inappropriate and slightly self-serving for you to "make her talk about sex" or basically try and persuade her to hop on your dick by overemphasizing on sexually explicit conversations.

    • But honestly, why should I hold myself back when I have those feelings for her? I want to be with her and she wants to be with me, but she is just so shy about it. I'm not forcing her to do anything, like you make it sound. I knew her for several weeks before I even mentioned sex the first time. I've been very very patient and good to her, not putting pressure on her.

    • If you are not in an exclusive, committed relationship then I don't see why she should have to compromise her comfort level for you. In all honesty, when you say "At first she didn't even want to talk about sex, but I've managed to make her talk about it.", it sounds like you are subliminally pressuring her. From an objective point of view, you seem to be goal oriented when it comes to getting your dick wet or serving your sexual appetite whether it's intellectual stimulation or something else. The situation seems very off-putting.

    • You keep repeatedly claiming that you are not putting pressure on her, but the direct act of continuously trying to get her to cater to your sexual interests sounds like you putting pressure on her.

  • I'd say you're doing well. Taking it slow, giving her something to anticipate, letting her get to where she WANTS it.

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  • don't go farther then what she WANTS. if you don't put force then she will be more open and then you can build up