My boyfriends dad walked in on my boyfriend fingering me?

Question

We were in his bedroom and his dad just walked in, saw what was happening, said "oh" and left. The worst thing is that I was naked from the waist down and im positive he saw pretty much everything because of the way we were positioned. I'm so embarased! My boyfriend and I are both 19. so we're old enough I guess and there was no lecturing or anything, which kind of makes it so much worse. This happened 2 days ago and I haven't seen his dad since than, but my boyfriend says its been really awkward. I feel so terrible. I know we should have locked the door but we thought nobody was home. We live in a small town I'm going to bump into his family at some point. I never want to go over again because im so embarrased and i couldnt possible face his dad without physically dying! I can't believe this happened actually. Plus, i feel like i had this great reputation and all and now I've ruined it. I mean, How do i go to church and see this guy and just pretend I'm a good person. How? Aggg... What should I do?

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

First of all your making a mountain out of a mole hill here.
Doing what comes naturally with horny 19 yr old bf/gf has no bearing on you being a good person or not. Doubt his father thinks any different about you either.
His father was 19 once and pretty sure he knows what goes on with bf/gfs at that age so it was no great shock to him and your pussy looks just like the one he sleeps with every night as well so nothing new for him.
He is probably just as embarrassed as you and your boyfriend are so that would be a draw.
Obviously if you and your boyfriend are going to stay together it is pretty certain you will have to see his family (father included) many more times.
Take your bfs balls out of your purse and let him have them for awhile, then the two of you make a point of talking to dad and maybe apologize for startling him. Sure all will work out for the good.

Cmasterson · Accepted Answer

The fact that you got caught being fingered doesn't change you as a person, in all honesty he knows what a vagina looks like, and yes awkward as it is to see his son's girlfriend, he knows these things happen it just sucks that you got caught. If you really feel awful about it, you could apologize and move on and hopefully you guys will just laugh about it. I know how embarrassing this can be (not the exact situation) but at the end of the day whats done and done and you'll move on ;)

rach263 · Accepted Answer

Firstly you are not a bad person; just a normal woman in a normal relationship and secondly his dad will be more embarrassed about this than you - unless he mentions it in a speech at your wedding.

If I was you in the future though I would always put the lock on just in case. Keep having fun.

MadeInAmerica · Accepted Answer

Well you learned a valuable lesson. Time as one person said already will make things better. The shock and anger usually wears off and then the practical and trying to make sense of it come in. Depending on how long you've been together I'm sure that he had an feeling sexual things was going on. It is up to you if you want to say something or not. It will come up eventually though as it's going to be a huge elephant in the room.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

You are a good person. You just have sexual needs, like all good people. If you feel compelled, go to him one on one and apologize for not locking the door but that surely he knows you and his son are sexually active, at least to some extent. Ask him to let it go and get past it because you respect him and are not willing to go on with all this awkwardness.

ThePragmaticRomantic · Answer

Go about life as normal and do not acknowledge that anything happened. You can be sure that 'dad' won't.  You haven't done anything wrong, and something like that happens to everyone eventually.

Frost_Byt3 · Answer

Its normal. Having sex (or doing vaguely sexual activities, in your case), doesn't make you a bad person. People have sex. Its a fact of life. His dad is an adult and he knows that. In fact, he was probably expecting it as soon as you and his son started dating.

If he is mature enough, he wouldn't let it effect him. He would just ignore it, stop thinking about it, and not let it effect the way he sees you and his son. Your boyfriend told you "its been awkward" probably cuz he is feeling the same way as you right now, and he is the one making it awkard because he was embarrassed. If you both stop being embarrassed, treat his dad like normal, act normal, then it won't be awkward. Its only awkward when you make it awkward.

Mesonfielde · Answer

This is probably not the first time he has seen female genitals. In fact, he has a son. I am pretty sure he doesn't think too much of it. They should just high five each other and be in their way.

TripleAce · Answer

Hahahaha yes love it when this happens to teens. That'll teach you to get all funky monkey in your room without the door locked

All joking aside, they don't care and are happy you little kids are getting your freak on. Especially in a small town, it's cool

jnp11 · Answer

I'm sure his dad knew something sexual was probably happening if u 2 were dating. Yes it sucks that he saw but just try and get over it. Doing sexual things does not make u a bad person so don't think that anyone will think badly of u.

BelleGirl21 · Answer

Time will help. The dad knows what is up.  Lock the doors!

Dargil · Answer

Nothing. Forget about it. His dad will. Happened to me. Nothing ever came of it.

Prof_Don · Answer

Oh trust me... the fact that he didn't make a big deal when he walked in on you, means that he isn't that bothered. Don't stress yourself out over this! :-P

meatballs21 · Answer

This isn't a big deal. His dad fingered girls when he was a teenager too.  Great reputation? He's not going to go around town telling people that his son fingers his girlfriend.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Goddammit just lock the damn doors

Enigma69 · Answer

dad should have knocked first.

Strider90 · Answer

When he was fingering you inside his home with an unlocked door you were not embarrassed right?

grahamcracka · Answer

I'm sure he's seen a woman before and he wants to forget that even happened. its not the end of the world

GodzillaGuy · Answer

Just ignore it and go on with your life. You are just fine.

zack6x · Answer

why you did not tell ur boyfriend to close and lock the door before fingering on you?

jakeofalltrades · Answer

sorry but this is hilarious. I wouldn't worry so much about it. it happens you will get over it, and now you will know to be more cautious next time

Talya123 · Answer

This is nothing to be embarrassed about, what you guys were doing wasn't wrong, its a normal human occurrence. It will be awkward with his family at first, but as time passes it will all be okay.