Advice on first time having sex?

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Anything? I'm scared..

throwit · Accepted Answer

Use lube. It helps get things going when you're fumbling and trying to push it in while in pain.
Go SLOW. Your hymen should stretch, not tear. Make sure the guy cares enough about you and your comfort that he tries whatever he can to make it less painful.
Go as slow as you need to, any guy who gets annoyed or impatient is not worth losing your virginity to.
Once it's all he way in you may feel sore, so tel him to just sit inside you for a minute, then move on to VERY SLOW and SHALLOW thrusts. This may also hurt for a few minutes. Once the pain starts to go away tell him to start making deeper thrusts. The pain will go away and you guys can have sex regularly. My first time was actually really nice, he could go fast and hard and it felt amazing.
When you're done you might then feel the soreness, it may hurt to sit (as if you've been rubbed raw, it only hurts on the outside its not like the whole inside of your vagina will hurt)
You may be bleeding a little. Bring a panty liner or have one in your underwear before hand. DO NOT HAVE SEX AGAIN UNTIL YOU ARE DONE BLEEDING.
Wipe gently when you use the bathroom.
The next few (or dozen) times you have sex may still hurt. It was always painful and slow for me to get his penis all the way in and to get used to it. USE THE LUBE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.
Make sure you have towels or toilet paper for clean up afterwards.
Try and go to the bathroom BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX. Having sex with even half of a full bladder is TORTURE!!! Having to go always felt better when I masturbated, so I bought it would feel good if I had to go during sex but NOOOOO!!! DO NOT DO IT. His penis will be thrusting RIGHT INTO YOU BLADDER. Omg it's so painful I would cry and have to stop before I realized all I had to do was pee.
It's also a good idea to pee AFTER sex to clear your urethra of bacteria and prevent utis. I usually pee the next morning though and haven't had any problems. Make sure to wipe clean before sleeping though.

Also, foreplay. Try letting him finger you (no more than two fingers!!) and/or go down on you before you have sex. You should both be comfortable with each others body's before having sex, and ideally you guys should be in a fairly serious relationship and really like each other

Esplorare · Accepted Answer

I think the best way to lose your virginity as a female who may experience a lot of discomfort and pain is to do it with someone who loves you. They'll be lovingly gentle, caring, and attentive. Plus they'll know just how to make you smile and they may even go all out to make it a special experience for you.

TooBeautifulForYou · Accepted Answer

Talk about it first.

Share what you want to do - the script.
What birth control and STD protection you're going to use.
Where he's going to shoot his cum.
Are you going to swallow?
Are you going to make him kiss you with his tongue after you swallow? - IT'S ONLY FAIR!

JuicyBrain · Accepted Answer

Be sure he understands that it's your first. He should make it as comfortable to you as is possible. YOU have to be the one in charge. It will not hurt him so you can't count on him to be perfect since he has no feedback. Just tell him to go slow and if it hurts, to hold back and go slow until you are comfortable. Guide him...

Let yourself go, don't overthink stuff. Especially don't think about what people would think. What is happening in this bedroom is ONLY between you and him, so don't think about how others will judge you. You can do whatever you want as long as HE is ok with it. Let your animal instinct take over and don't let your brain hold you back.

This is not an exam, this is not an evaluation. This is a game. The point is to have fun. If you focus on how you are doing, you're not having fun and chances are he is not either. Forget about rules, forget about limits. Just have fun...

lifeis4living · Accepted Answer

Breathe. First-time sex can be tense and nerve-wracking, not to mention painful sometimes. Taking long, deep breaths can help you relax and let go. Don't forget to enjoy foreplay. All the stuff that leads up to intercourse — kissing, touching, oral sex — is part of the sexual experience; it's not just about penetration.

Make sure you're amply aroused before intercourse. Not only do you want to be genuinely turned on, you want to be sufficiently lubricated. If you're too dry, he'll have trouble entering you, you'll feel discomfort, and the friction can cause the condom to rip. So, have lube on hand just in case.

BellePepper · Answer

Use protection and tell him to stop the instant anything hurts.

AmandaLynn1930 · Answer

relax, make sure ur ready and comfy. make sure you are open with ur partner so they know how ur feeling

ashley243 · Answer

if you're scared you're probably not ready

normalice · Answer

if you've already decided to do it, then a glass of wine may help you relax.

oldanddecrepid · Answer

First thing... tell him it is your first time!!!

Your first time should not be a slamming good time, as most guys would think it should be.

If you are doing with a guy you care about... pick his brain on what he thinks sex should be like for a first timer or first timers!

Your first time should be slow and with lots of affection... just enjoy every minute of it!

Yanoa_Yanza · Answer

Ask him to go gently, say stop if it hurts or tell him to slow down.

NightOwl88 · Answer

Just relax it's ok to be nervous.
I know you'll be almost terrified of being naked and seeing him but just relax, go with the flow of things and whatever happens it happens.
If you don't like it or it doesn't feel right tell him.
Above all enjoy yourself and make absolutely sure you practice safe sex

frantic · Answer

dont scare :D

Anonymous · Answer

make him go with the fingers first ;-;

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