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Is not returning the favor for oral sex a deal breaker?

I've been with my guy for about 2 years. I love him very much. The issue i have is he doesn't return the favor for oral sex as often as I do. I always think about his needs first. I am not selfish when it comes to sex or oral. I have even woke my guy up because i wanted to suck his dick and please him. I always want to be the best girlfriend I can be so I am always trying to give and please him. Last night I told him I was gonna get a shower because I wanted him to eat my pussy. He always told me to tell him I want him to please me when he doesn't think of doing it himself. So I did. I get out if the shower and put something sexy on. As a side note I've already given him blowjobs every day now for about a week. So I get out of the shower and go in the bedroom and wait for him to come in. .. I'm waiting and waiting. He doesn't come in so I go to him. I get on his lap and all he does is kiss me. He doesn't touch me or initiate any kind of foreplay , so I thought, ok I'll suck his dick to get him excited. So he ends up comming. by the way I've been on my period which is why I wanted to get a shower and be extra clean. It's never stopped him before he just stays at my clit and doesn't go any lower. Anyways after I suck his dick and make him cum, I started bleeding a little more which is fine I've always just went to the bathroom and cleaned off. by the way I've always smelled and tasted great so I definitely know that isn't the issue here... anyways to make a long story short after I said that i was bleeding a bit... He says, well, when u stop bleeding I'd like to return the favor. And I'm thinking what the fk do u meen? So I got a shower for nothing? u didn't touch me or make a move the whole time and u got your dick sucked again and came and here I get nothing AGAIN? Ugh I don't know what else to do I am baffled :(
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Did he agree to go down on you before you got into the shower? What was he doing when you stepped out? Watching TV? Maybe he's distracted.

    Maybe he's selfish?
    I feel like if he is just selfish and lazy that may be a good reason to end it.

    Perhaps he just really doesn't like the taste of you when you are on your period. Which is not that far fetched.

    This has happened to me before and it took a huge toll on our relationship! We would get into fights about it. It made me feel unattractive and unwanted. Be honest with him and tell him how you feel.

    • He knew I was on my period and still wanted to go down on me. I told him I was in the mood and it was his idea for me to get in the shower so he could eat me out. This has never stopped him before. I meen he still never did it often but my period never stopped him. It definitely males me feel unwanted and unattractive. He knows these things already. I told him before how it made me feel. He assured me he loves eating me anytime and that he will truly make more of an effort to do it. I've told him for the past week and a half I wanted to feel his mouth on my pussy. I was very blunt so I'm not sure what's going on. He acts so clueless to my needs 😢

  • If he isn't prepared to give it you back then stop giving it him! seriously he is getting all he wants right now and you are complying. Men are lazy, sexual creatures - they want sex acts performing on them and they rarely want to give it back (don't get me wrong they do give it back) but they don't want too and your just doing everything he wants. Stop giving him head wait until he asks why you have stopped and tell him its give or take - if you dont get it neither does he.

    • That's exactly it. There will be no blowjobs or sex. I'm done untill he makes me feel wanted for a change. I am not ugly and I'm always clean. So there is no excuses.!

Most Helpful Guys

  • It would only be a deal breaker for me he does not make good on his word... that he does not make an effort and go down on you, especially after you have done so much for him.

    He seems a bit selfish...

    He should have gone down on you once you were cleaned up!. or Hell why not hop in the shower with you and do it! Nothing like good clean fun lol

    • This was a huge issue before. I told him how I felt. I told him it makes me feel unwanted and unattractive. I am not ugly. His last relationship he was married to an ugly pig. I am so much more sexy, loving, cleaner and classier then her. She never gave him any kind of affection, oral, love or sex. He told me he is so full of all of those things and he's happy he has me to share them with. He knows what it's like to go without, so I don't get his way of thinking. The last time we argued about this I asked him if he would expect me to give him blowjobs. He said he would never expect that. So I said... ok then you would never expect me to give u sex? He says... well I'd expect sex but not oral. And I said... ofcourse... you can cum during sex, I FUCKING CAN'T! !! It was awful. I felt horrible for saying those things but I was so hurt and angry and I felt he was so damn selfish. . 😢😢

    • If I were you... cut em off completely! If he is going to be that selfish then make him earn it!

    • Agreed and that's exactly what I'm going to do

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  • I'm not a huge fan of muff diving though I do it to please her and do it with gusto so she loves it. Given the free choice with no hurt feelings, I'd pass. I esp am not interested in eating a pussy during her period. It has a different, not pleasant odor. I'll fuck her brains out during since I've found that women are their most responsive during.

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  • I understand that you want it more, but to be honest, I just can't be mad at the guy for not wanting to do it while you're having your period... I would fuck you, play with your clit, anything, but I wouldn't put my mouth there...

    • It's never stopped him before. But the problem is... He didn't really even do it when I wasn't on my period. But like I said... he's eaten me before being on my period and stayed at my clit. I could understand if he didn't want to go lower then that.

    • He just doesn't like it. You can 1- Find another way for him to reciprocate and live with the fact you won't get a lot of cunnilingus 2- Find a compromise and get him to give you more but don't expect much enthusiasm. 3- Tell him he doesn't cut it as a boyfriend and look elsewhere. 4- Do nothing and grow old constantly frustrated

    • Yup it seems that is what I need to resort to. The problem is picking one. 😕

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  • It's probably because you were on your period a lot of guys myself included won't go down there that time of the month. But after it gon I'll eat pussy for an hour.

  • Pretty much.

  • yes 100%... in my opinion.. I love oral almost more than sex.. but I always make her orgasm first.. usually through fingering or penetration

  • I would be glad to lick the clit and vagina tunnel. That's selfish he expects it from you but not willing to return the favor.

  • There are lots of ways he could take care of you, if he's not using at least one of them maybe you should discuss it with him and find out whats going on. It's going to continue to get worse until you two fix it. Talk calmly and slowly and AFTER a good meal! Keep the tension low but be clear and make sure you discuss this issue.

    • I'm sure it will be another discussion. I shouldn't have to keep doing this :( I know sex and oral isn't everything but Holly fk. I just don't get it. The man should be crazy for pussy and want it all the time. My ex was an asshole and he couldn't get enough of me. I just don't get it. I go from a guy who's nuts over my pussy to a guy who doesn't seem to care about my needs at all 😠

    • Maybe you need to find a guy who's nuts over your pussy AND a cool guy that cares about your needs. Kinda like shoes, keep trying them on until you find the right fit.


  • Be glad to eat your pussy

  • I think the whole trade this for that shit is stupid. Just fuck. Why do people have to barter during sex? I'll never understand that.

    • I can't get off during sex. That is why I need oral. It's all a part of pleasing and loving your partner. Everyone has needs. They need to be met. Otherwise the partner who isn't giving it should expect that eventually their partner will look elsewhere.

    • I understand that. I just don't understand the thing where people say "I gave you a blowjob so you HAVE to lick my vagina." Uh no?

    • I don't expect it everytime. But I expect it more. I give him blowjobs like everyday.. and he's happy to get those... ofcourse right... He eats me out like once very 2 weeks... I'm done pleasing him till he gives me more! 😢

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  • If he doesn't do it, you shouldn't do it and vice versa.

    Sexual greediness is a deal breaker.

    • I'm done giving blowjobs for awhile along with sex untill he gets it. I didn't want to do that but I feel that will maybe make him see. It works both ways. This is definitely something that needs to be 100 / 100 each person giving their all. I'll please myself. I did last night twice in a row.

    • Most often you hear about the male goes down on the female and is expected to every time but the female only gives oral once in a while... so it's weird that you are in a reverse situation. He should know better than to play with fire, a female calls the shots when it comes to sex, he should be doing whatever you want in order to get what he wants. I think a dry spell will make him understand. When he asks about it you can simply say, why should I bother I don't get anything out of it.

    • Omg you said it so perfectly!! That's exactly how u feel. I do feel it is reversed. I don't get it either. I am crazy about sex and having fun and keeping things exciting. I feel he is the damn female in this situation and I am the male lol. It sucks because every other aspect of our relationship is amazing. It's just the sex part that isn't. But thank you for your advice :)

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