Has it ever happened to you that you found a person really pretty, but somehow you were not attracted to them sexually?
First of all, I am the one who initiates sex most of the time, he hardly ever makes the first move, which deeply annoys me, because this way I can't feel myself pretty and attractive for him. I know that there is nothing wrong with it if a girls initiates sex sometimes. But not every time! I want to be seduced by him and I want to feel myself a woman. But this way I can't really feel that way. I have already spoken to him about this, but he didn't change anything.
Secondly, I am afraid that we don't have that so-called "chemistry" between us. I want sex to be wilder, rougher and more passionate. I want to know that he loves my body. But he always wants to take it slow and gentle, which is good, but for me it is too boring to have sex like this all the time. I told him to get a little bit wilder and more rough, but he said that he won't because he never does. He claimed that he liked to involve feelings in sex, as well. I do, too! But I want some passion, too. He doesn't seem to understand. I give him blowjobs every single time, that he really enjoys, but he never really does the same to me... He doesn't kiss my breasts either, even though it would turn me on really much.
My previous boyfriend always kissed me all over my body, and he didn't only say compliments about my looks, but his actions actually proved that he loved my body and was attracted to me.
So I came to the conclusion, that even if my boyfriend finds me pretty, he is not attracted to me sexually. Do you think I am right or am I misunderstanding him? Maybe we simply don't match? I guess he might have a different "style" of having sex, but somehow it can't really satisfy me. And I am afraid, I can't satisfy him either because of my different desires. Help me please! What could I do now? I feel I've tried everything. Shall I ignore my desires and just have sex the way he wants?
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