Guys, How important are blowjobs and handjobs in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I am born without both arms but I do everything with my feet. So when it comes to sex I am unfortunatelly limited in giving handjobs, instead I do footjobs. And I've been told I do amazing footjobs lol. Another of my physical flaws is that I have a somewhat small jaw. So if a guy has a big penis I find it very hard to put it even half in. Like my ex boyfriend for example, he had really big dick and all I could do is suck his head. It was frustrating! But it makes me sad sometimes because I really love doing those things. Especially since my ex was a huge fan of deepthroating, he watched deepthroat porns all the time. And when I see him jerking off I feel so lame not being able to do it myself. He told me it's not a biggie and that he is not a fan of handjobs anyway, that he likes his own hand better, and that it was like that for every girl he had. But he was also a bit disappointed that I can't properly suck his dick. I would start sucking his head and then he would get so horny and try to force his dick in my mouth, but had to stop everytime because my teeth would get in a way and my jaw would hurt. So eventually we stopped doing that, after 3 years being together our sex life became regular sex without long foreplays. We did a lot of positions, we did anal as well, but blowjobs and footjobs were at their minimum. He used to love my footjobs but eventually he got bored of that too. Well he dumped me in the end, said he lost the spark. Hurt like hell but don't want to talk about it. Now he has a new girlfriend and she has a huge mouth! I bet she can deepthrout just fine. She has arms too so I'm guessing she's doing him handjobs too. And now I can't stop thinking about that.

[JoeCensored]

Different guys will place different levels of importance. For me blowjobs are important, and I am large. I usually get cuts on my dick from her teeth because she can't open her mouth large enough. But I'm fine with it.

I think it is more important though to keep with the foreplays. Don't allow sex to become a chore or act you do regularly to just get it done. It needs to feel special every time.

[Johnyk]

Oh! Really sorry to hear about your lack of arms. In such a case, I wouldn't even expect any such thing from you. I would rather be worried if you can do your basic necessities without my help. In your case, I think it's better to find someone who won't leave you (even if that's a guy who has some physical disability). Anyway, what you have mentioned is awe-inspiring.

[Asker]

Oh I get by just fine, I even live by myself. Technology is so upgraded that it makes it so easy for me. Well there are still SOME things I do need help with (especially when I'm outside or when I'm at someone else's place) like bathroom and getting dressed (just panties lol, can't put those on by myself :D ). Anyway, so you wouldn't dump me because I can't do you a handjob?

[Johnyk]

Absolutely not. Hand job is not even something that I necessarily want from every girl. Only if the girl is willing and herself wants to do it, would I even ask her.

[kpf63954]

no, i would not dump you because you couldnt give me a handjob; however, i would definitely dump you if you refused to jerk me off with your tender bare feet! you know, give me a footjob?

[DaBuzzman]

He sounds like a shallow ahole! Any man would be lucky to get what your willing to do for a man. Most girls dont even do half of that!

[Someguy17]

First of all, you typing all of this with your toes is fuckin impressive. Secondly, the importance of hand jobs and blow jobs varies by guy. Personally, I could do without either one. I've never had a hand job from gal that was any good. Blow jobs are ok, but I generally have to be in the right frame of mind to cum from them.

For me, nothing else even gets close to penetration.

[Mark987]

Oral sex is very important

[sp33d]

Toe typing? Very impressive.

[Asker]

Well yeah, thnx I guess. :D So any opinions on my question?

[sp33d]

No, I am too baffled by how accurately and fast you type with just your toes.

[kpf63954]

yes, you're toe typing really turns me on; I have a tremendous foot fetish, so I think we'd get along just fine, babygirl:) As for your question, I'll first address, how important are blowjobs? to me, not very important at all. I never request oral sex from a girl or encourage her to do it. I'm just not into that feeling of my cock in her mouth; it doesn't really feel THAT good for me. i mean, it feels ok, but she could never make me come that way. But I think I'm in the minority in my thinking; most guys die for blowjobs, and they think they feel soooo good, and the temptation is definitely there for him to come in her mouth. So i would say that blowjobs are very important in most relationships, just not mine:) As for handjobs, they r usually the gateway sexy favor that comes right before sex:) A girl CAN jack me off with her hand and make me squirt; and handjobs are easy to do; most girls usually give their first HJ at like age 14; so most have plenty of experience in giving them.

[kpf63954]

So handjobs are important to me, though I rarely let a girl finish me off with one. I'd say just about all guys like handjobs quite a bit; they feel really good, and if its meant to be a handjob to completion, not just a prelude to sex, you get to come at the end, which is always super cool. And its probably the quickest & easiest way to make a guy come real quick; jerk him off and he will probably come in like 2-3 minutes of steady handjobbing. As I was saying previously, I have a gigantic, raging fetish for bare feet!! Ohhh, do I ever have a foot fetish! Wow!! It was very hard for me to talk about blowjobs & handjobs earlier and not stray off topic to my foot fetish. But your question specifically mentioned blowjobs & handjobs, so I did the best I could to actually answer the question in the spirit it was asked, but all that time I was just dying to talk about my favorite sexual pleasure--the bare footjob.

[Sexyfeet]

My favorite

[Anonymous]

I thought I had it tuff being in a abusive drug addict 0 money family with a lot of fucked up shit but u r so strong to get past this I would have killed my self if I had no arms but fuck him your so strong an will get past this just keep fighting and u will get a new guy it only takes time

[Anonymous]

Essential, especially in foreplay.