My boyfriend had a bad experience with oral sex with his past girlfriend. How do can I make him get over being nervous about trying it with me?

[Anonymous]

I've asked my boyfriend multiple times about giving me oral sex and he was always like next time. So the other day I said what's the problem? Are you nervous or something. He told me that he tried it one time with a girl and it made him puke... He said it tasted bad. Which I tried to say do you think cum taste great for me? I give him blowjobs to make him happy. So I'm not sure how to make him move past this... I told him that I'll shower and whatnot before we tried it but it's something I really want and I don't think it's fair that I give him blowjobs all the time and I never get anything in return. And trust me I'm not one who thinks sex has to be fair but every once in a while id like oral sex. Please help me!

[Gerduxas]

Refuse to give him oral until he gives in. It's not fair on you, oral sex provides great pleasure and you're missing out on it all because your boyfriend is being selfish. Have sex with him alright, but don't give him any head until he returns the favor.

[AustinMan]

I think you reassure him that former lovers (presuming you've gotten head from other lovers) found it yummy and that if he doesn't like it, you'll drop it but that it's really important to you.

[Asker]

The only problem with this is he's the only person I've ever been with. But I don't really understand what the big deal is. Yes cum doesn't taste the best but I do it for him and I enjoy pleasing him. It should be the same way around for him. I reassured him that I'll shower right before and im always groomed down there. I just don't know how to make him get over the fear of trying it again because I really don't want him to puke. That would he a terrible experience for the both of us.

[AustinMan]

I think it's not necessarily realistic to expect one for one reciprocation, act for act. Some men love muff dicing and some of us really aren't into it at all. Find other ways he can satisfy you, maybe with a vibrator.

[Asker]

Is he going to enjoy using a vibrator on me? Or is it more for him to watch me use it? The idea of him watching me masturbate feels weird... If that makes any sense. Lol.

[AustinMan]

It's him using it on you with some playfulness, teasing, orgasm denial, and orgasmic overload.

[AustinMan]

Thanks for the MHG. What did you think of my vibrator play idea?

[Asker]

Welcome. 😊 I'm considering trying it with him. Maybe I'll ask him what he thinks because I own toys. I just always thought of it as something I used by myself but if he's into it I'll try it.

[AustinMan]

I'd negotiate firmly. You're entitled to your ya-yas.

[CountVronsky]

Well, you should stop giving him blowjobs. You can't just push him into giving you oral if he doesn't want to.

[Asker]

But I feel like if stop giving them it's preasuring him into giving me oral. Which I don't want to do that. It's not like every time we do stuff I ask him about it. Every once in a while I'll remind him that I still want it. And the other day he told me he tried it before and it didn't go well.

[CountVronsky]

You won't be pressuring him into giving you oral just by stopping giving him oral; don't be silly. If you stop and he asks why, you can tell him that he won't do it to you, and you think that's unfair. He should understand.

[sexyphil]

Just talk to him and reassure him...

[MattyBoy2018]

Make sure to clean up before hand and then say no sex unless you get what you would like. You deserve it

[BackInGame]

that's not a boyfriend. That's a fuck buddy and you are just one of his whores.

[Asker]

How can you even say that? We are no where near fuck buddies? He just is nervous about giving me oral sex...

[Asker]

What?

[Anonymous]

Don't give it to him any more just tell him u r not the same as her and u need to at least try he is just being a bitch and has to grow up make him don't give him head till he dose