What does it mean when a guy wants to have sex with you most of the time?

[FreeYourSoul]

Or pretty much all the timE? does he want MORE! from our friend with benefits I'm confused? I've known this guy since jr high, and he lost his virginity to me. Anyway, throughout the years he'd message me through Facebook every once in a blue and ask how I am. We've met up a few times but then he'll go MIA again. Fast forward... We're in our early twenties now. He messaged me again, and we've been hanging out and yes having sex too. We have not established what we are so we're pretty much friends with benefits even though He doesn't know how to be a friend. So at first we'd meet, hangout have sex and then I wouldn't hear from him until a few days later and he'd text and not say much after I'd respond. The more we hung out I started to like him (unfortunately) and told him I didn't want it tobe just about sex. He then said he'd try to take me out more. So, to keep this short, when we hang out he'll say things like, "could u see yourself being with a man like me", " do u like me" and he's asked me to be his girl... Via text! Yeah I know lol... So we keep hanging out. He went away for a week and while he was away and we were on the phone, he told me that he got me a gift. He's already back but hasn't mentioned it yet. another Night he asked if we'd "make a good couple" things like that. He called a few times the next day, and then text once the day after. And today he text me "babe" I said hi, him: what's up, i told him I was studying, he made a joke, then I said jokingly what did he want is he being nosy, and he said he just wanted to check on me? Ok so to the sex thing, whenever we get into it, he starts suggesting a massage, and after that he'll keep pulling me to go on top or when I'm Going down on him after a few minutes he'll pull me up and say baby come on top, or he'll want to switch positions. It's like he won't let me just decide what I want to do. Why is this? That's what I mean by domineering I think. He'll look at me deeply grab my face, kiss me and wants to have his way with me. How could I change this? Is this a good or bad thinf?

[JenkPac]

It either means you are smoking hot or the only option for sex that he has.

A true player with game who has a stable of beauties at his disposal isn't going to be breathing down your neck every day for sex as he's got other females to take care of that for him, plus a player wants you to miss him so that when you do seem him again you're more than ready to let your body be plundered and ravished by him all over again.

Anyway though all that aside you shouldn't be a typical dumb female and try and change things with him if you are enjoying the sex just as much as he is.

Go with it and live it up for as long as it remains enjoyable.

The moment you cut it off and try to friendzone him he will be gone anyway so don't bother trying to change things now as a pattern has already been established.

You two are having sex with eachother, you don't go from that to no sex and expect a guy to tolerate that as a new arrangement.

The only way a guy could possibly tolerate that as a new arrangement is if he got some girl he perceived as better to be his girlfriend and for whatever reason she allowed him to still hang around with you but only as friends which is highly unlikely.

[FreeYourSoul]

This makes a lot of sense I'll go with the flow as I've been doing. So how do I make him miss me? And want me even more? Any advice? And also, I jusr wanted to know based on my description, so u think he likes me as more than a fuck buddy?

[JenkPac]

I read your post over again so I can get the fullest picture of your situation as possible and help you the best that I possibly can. Anyway after that long opening summation lol here's my answer to you. I think this guy genuinely wants you to be his girlfriend which should make you happy as you seem to genuinely want him to be your boyfriend. It sounds to me like the both of you are just kind of unrefined on uh romance which explains his texting you important romantic things when yeah really he should be saying stuff like that in person but give him a break he likely doesn't know proper tact being a young dumb guy as we all are at some point in our lives lol. Anyway playing games of trying to make him miss you or want you more probably aren't a good idea as games tend to ruin relationships over time. You both seem to want eachother enough as it is already so should stop BSing around about it and make it official already. Ask him to be your boyfriend and if he refuses move on.

[FreeYourSoul]

Thanks so much for your unlimited response

[FreeYourSoul]

How about the guys who say he wants me for convenient sex? Do u think that's what he could want also

[JenkPac]

No problem. Anyway sure he probably wants you for convenient sex but guess what? Thats every guy out there. All guys have that reason for getting involved with a girl and eventually marrying her ie the idea that they'll get access to convenient and easy sex. Unfortunately however most women turn off the flow of sex with a man to the degree they were dishing it out pre-marriage and even in relationship situations where a couple decides to move in together. The reason for this is that the female no longer has competition anxiety. Meaning she knows she has her man and what he's doing or rather who he's doing or could be doing is no longer an exciting mystery for her. So you women tend to let your minds ruin a good thing in this way, become bored, cut off sex and eventually the relationship stagnates into a pathetic picture of what it once was or usually ends all together usually by the girl beginning to cheat due to grass is greener on the other side mentality. So don't rush to marry.

[JenkPac]

And also don't rush to move in together. Apartness to a certain degree keeps the flame of passion alive in you females. It is your own minds becoming obsessed with the mystery of a man that keeps a relationship going ie you wondering what he's doing or who he's doing, is he thinking about you? etc. All of this keeps you hot for your guy. A couple should probably continue this kind of arrangement for several years before ever deciding to move in together to make sure they continue to want eachother enough for a deeper closer together all the time situation is what I'm saying and hey maybe what you'll find out is that you and he permaneantly having your own space may be the only way to keep your relationship going and exciting. I think more and more people are beginning to figure this out.

[FreeYourSoul]

I appreciated your input, however, you shouldn't catergorize me into "you women", "all women" each women has their own individual way of looking at things. Thanks for your thoughts.

[JenkPac]

It was just a phrase honbun. I didn't think deeply into it when I wrote it. That you took offense to it is a result of radical feminism making you look for fault in anything a man says. If you want happiness in life you're going to have to learn to not listen to or aspire to be like the women on television. Instead always give a man the benefit of the doubt that he means you no harm. Trust me when we want to insult you women there's not going to be any doubt that what we said was an insult. Anyway take care of yourself little lady. Jenky out.

[FreeYourSoul]

Thanks again. You made me look at things from a different perspective. Take care!

[bobwallice]

He sounds like a very anxious individual. I would say before he can think of actually being wirh you he needs to figure out what he wants. As far as being domineering goes, you may want to talk to him about that, discuss why he does it and then move forward from there.

[FreeYourSoul]

So you're saying he sounds confused? Does he seem interested in me though sex aside?

[bobwallice]

Hard to say. I'd ask him straightforward like. Go out, have lunch, go for a walk and then ask him. If he can't open up enough to discuss this then he is not ready for a relationship reguardless of how he feels about you.

[FreeYourSoul]

He's told me that he likes me and he asked me to be his girl a few times but through text.. And he's asked if I like him or just see him as a sex object yet he's the one who makes it seem like I'm the sex object... Smh! I don't get him :(

[bobwallice]

He sounds like an extreem introvert. You should strive to have to conversation again, but don't do it right before or after your sexy time together. Set aside some time to talk with him.

[AustinMan]

You're not going to change his sex drive and if you can live happily fucking your way through life, then he's not relationship material. If eh got better skilled in helping you get yours, would that make a difference?

[AlphaMale1]

This guy is using you as his convenient piece of ass. You are and will always be just a fuck buddy to him. Why is it so hard for you to see this? Tell him to buy a blow-up doll if he wants a sex toy. Geez...

[FreeYourSoul]

Why, just because u give in because I'm horny too? So I guess he makes for a convenient piece of ass too? And he could get someone else, anyone else...

[FreeYourSoul]

Lol!!

[AlphaMale1]

Why bother looking for someone else to screw? You are convenient and available.

[FreeYourSoul]

So u don't think he'd want to have sex cause im smoking hot 😎

[AlphaMale1]

Lets face it. You are an easy piece of ass to him and nothing more. The people he tells about how you are now see you as a hot slut. You are only damaging your reputation and that is something you will never, ever be able to change. I took a minute out to think back of the girls who were easy like you are. They were and still are easy sluts in my mind. The impression was made years ago and it is just as alive and well today.

[FreeYourSoul]

I understand that this is an opinion website, however, how hypocritical of you to say I'm an easy slut because I genuinely enjoy & love sex and have it often with him, yet if a man were in my position, he's "the man"... I'm sorry I even asked for you opinion now.

[OlderAndWiser]

Hi. You asked some questions about this guy under a different user name recently, right?

A guy wants to know that what he does with you/to you/for you gets you off. If he is only doing what you tell him to do, it doesn't satisfy his need to know that he can please you sexually. What this means is that he is anxious to prove that he satisfies you sexually and that means he has an interest in you deeper than just being his fuck buddy.

[allahu_snackbar]

Means you're hot.

[Anonymous]

I love to have sex with my girl & if I knew she could, I would do it with her every day!!! But I know she needs a break in between. Haha.
As far as your boy toy, every guy is different.

[FreeYourSoul]

So do u think im just a convenient piece of ass to him? Just like alpha male user stated? Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Unfortunately yes :-(

[Opinion Owner]

If u were mine, I would make sure u wouldn't feel or be just a piece of ass.

[FreeYourSoul]

I'm just in denial hahaha I know better

[FreeYourSoul]

So how should I handke him then, because I do enjoy the sex, and I don't want to seem too easy either even of it is about sex. Any advice on how to make him want me more? Should I not call him and just let him call me when he wants?