26 year old male virgin who has never had a girlfriend. Am I a loser?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 26 year old male. I've never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or been on a date and I am a virgin. I pretty much have no experience when it comes to romance or intimacy. I feel very lonely, unwanted and unappreciated. I am am introvert by nature and I'm very shy. I'm not the most attractive guy out there, but I do have a good heart and would like to be with someone. Despite my shyness I've tried going out to clubs and bars, online dating, speed dating nights, meeting new people through hobby and social groups, going on overseas trips with large groups to meet girls but... nothing. I have considered going the escort route to loose my virginity, another part of me thinks that I should just give up on women and go join the priesthood. At 26 years old, wouldn't most girls find my situation too awkward to embrace? Wouldn't they think I am some sort of loser? Another conundrum I face is the constant depression and introversion this has caused me. I'm not ashamed of myself per se, I'm just paralyzingly embarrassed to tell anyone else! Another pressing matter is that I have lied about my abstinence to my friends - and feel utterly shameful about it. Considering all that, I find myself in a daily Catch-22, I feel like I'm depressed because I'm a virgin and I've never had a girlfriend, and a virgin who has never had a girlfriend because I am depressed. Am I a loser?

[Anonymous]

No you're not a loser... I find it refreshing that you haven't been with 20 different girls...
The time will come eventually and when it does it'll seem worth the wait because it will likely be with someone you know and care about.
I know how difficult it is to try to be a "regular" person while struggling with the setbacks of introversion. ... I know firsthand what that's like.
To recap... you're not a loser. You're only 26 so it's not like you've missed your chance.

[vishna]

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. And if I was single, I wouldn't hold it against you.

[sexyphil]

You need to just forget about your virginity and just get out and mingle with people. I am sure from what you say that you are trying too hard and girls pick up on that. just forget that you are a virgin and that youhave never had a girlfriend and concentrate on just having fun with male friends and sooner or later a girl will come along and just fall head over heels for you.

[Spotme]

Loser? You haven't even lost your virginity.

Sorry. No you are not a loser, unless you think you are. The second you stop worrying about what other people think of you is the second you aren't a loser. Figure out what you think is good and bad about yourself. Then be less of the bad and improve on the good.

[badboy666]

Well, I was 24, so you aren't too far off that. I'd stick with hobby/social groups and try to find a woman who has something in common with you and go from there.

[Gommers]

When you ask that question, yeah you are. Learn to stop judging yourself based on how other people perceive you, or what milestones you've crossed. You'll get there. I'm sure your parents are lame, mine are, most are; but somehow they got together and ended up popping out at least one kid.

[Someonesmartt]

Not if u come out and tell everyone you r a virgin

[Rafael59000]

No. Just a very unlucky guy. It was not your fault, neither the girls.

[Anonymous]

I'm 27, although I have been on dates and some physical experience with girls, I still officially haven't had a girlfriend yet, I will admit, the lack of a dating life/sex life has made it very difficult for me to focus on and excel in other areas of my life