Girls, Are small girls uncomfortable having sex with 'big' guys?

The girl I just started seeing is really small (4'11" and 100 pounds). My equipment is well above average in size, and I'm worried that sex with her might be uncomfortable or even painful for her. I've never had sex with a girl this small. I've only had three sex partners, and the smallest one was 5'7" and 140 lbs. All of them handled sex with me like champs, though I still had to be careful in certain positions. My question is, are small girls proportionally able to only handle smaller dicks? She's Filipina, and Filipino guys have a reputation for being smaller to begin with. I really want things to work out with her so I'd like to do what I can to minimize the awkwardness of our first time.
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  • I'm really short and little myself. I get called tiny a lot. I understand your worry lol.
    Be sure to reassure her if she looks tense or becomes worried about any pain, that you will stop if whenever she needs you to, and that you're there for her.
    I would suggest foreplay. Doesn't have to be crazy (But you should totally ask her what she's into and go for it if it is crazy. Pretty fun stuff haha.) Just make her feel special, wanted, to reassure that you care for her wellbeing, by small things like caressing her hair and skin. Run your fingers along her head, to neck, breasts, stomach, to vagina. That mixed with clitoral stimulation will ease the tension in her vaginal muscles to reduce chances of pain due to penetration, as that is typically the best area a woman receives stimulation from. Use a natural based lube so that you make getting inside easier. Go slow with your body movement when penetrating. Look at her face as you do it, if possible, to see if she makes a sour face from any sudden pain..
    If she's not a fragile-like gal in person with a good amount of ego, make sure not to show a bunch of worry or ask if she's okay every 20 seconds. It could ruin the mood or make her feel pathetic to you.
    I mean, I'm sure you know what to do for the most part. I'm just stating all of this because I was with a taller guy, and yeah it was also me losing my virginity, but even after the first time it was painful for me, since he was only focused on himself and didn't do anything that I just mentioned. Hell, I still need all of what I just said whenever I'm with someone way bigger than me. It can be pretty intimidating for a small chick, even if she has faith in herself, lol!

    • Great response, thanks! I'm just so much bigger than her that I wonder how it will work. My arms are literally bigger than her thighs (she measured lol). I outweigh her by like 150 lbs, but yet I'm so attracted to her it's crazy. We've had people comment on our size difference and I wonder if that's given her second thoughts about me. As far as not showing worry, I totally get what you're saying because most girls want guys to be aggressive and to brush off worries or doubts. I've killed a girl's attraction to me before by asking her if she liked my body and displaying a need for reassurance, so I don't do that anymore. I just go for it now. The problem is, aggressively going for it only works when the girl isn't scared at all. Bigger girls don't get seem to get scared when a big guy takes control, and they're not intimidated by big dicks. Smaller girls... I'm just not sure because I don't have any experience with them.

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  • I'd imagine so.

  • just be gentle.