Is blue balls a real thing?

Question

My boyfriend constantly says if I turn him on and don't do anything about it i'm giving him blue balls and tells me his balls with hurt afterwards. This always makes me feel bad and I always end up having to get him off everytime we are together if I turn him on. Don't get me wrong I enjoy doing sexual stuff, but I wouldn't make it such a damn priority if he didn't keep mentioning 'blue balls'. So is he being serious or just saying that to get lucky all the time?

burlen · Accepted Answer

It's like asking if menstrual cramps are real? Blue balls also call epididymal hypertension is a real condition. I suffer from blue balls when I go for days (usually 3 to 10 days) without sexual release (i. e. ejaculation).

Your boyfriend should never use blue balls as excuse to engage in sex against your will. I'm inclined to think he is using it as an excuse to have more sex, assuming if you both have sex say at least twice week.

That's not to suggest he doesn't experience blue balls. I'm tempted to categorise his blue ball pain in the mild category, again assuming if he has sexual release at least twice a week.

Guys who experience blue balls tend to have penile erection many times a day or week. If the penile erection is not followed by sexual release, it results to testicular and waistline pain, causing difficulty to walk or seat down. That is exactly my experience.

Like menstrual cramps, not all guys experience the condition, and the degree of pain, which ranges from mild to debilitating, varies from one guy to another.

I can only speak from my experience. Blue balls begins with a mild pain on my testicle within 2 to 3 days.

Beyond day 8 or 10, it extends to both testicles and waistline. The pain becomes debilitating, and I must take painkillers to numb the pain.

It's widely documented an active sex life or masturbation is a quick solution. The best cure to blue balls is to have no erection, which of course can be impossible.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

You haven't see the headlines on CNN: man dies from exploded prostate? Many fatalities reported among single, and some married, men who suffer from over arousal and under satisfaction.
LOL!!! It's very frustrating and uncomfortable and is damn sure a real thing. Quit torturing the poor guy. Give it up, Sister!!!

ClariceOwen23 · Accepted Answer

It's a real thing, but not just for guys. It can happen to women too. You don't have to take get him off if you don't want to though. He can do the job himself. A lot of guys do fake it to get women to get the job done.

I wrote a take about this: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22149-women-get-blue-balls-too

GingerBear · Accepted Answer

Unrelieved arousal can be uncomfortable, but it's not dangerous, and won't hurt him. He's guilting you into getting him off. If he's in that much discomfort, tell him to get himself off.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Let him have blue balls. He can solve it himself. He's manipulating you. Yeah, they're a thing. No, he won't die. Sure, it'll hurt. But he can get himself off and solve the problem.

tonymitchell · Answer

Yes, blue balls are a "real thing", but usually more of an annoying ache than agony. When I didn't release for a long time as a teen, it certainly was torture, but after almost 2 months without release getting turned on and not releasing was painful. I came in my pants while making out, and God that was a lot of sperm. Kind of collapsed on the floor spasming in orgasm. Yes, some guys use it to get lucky, and if you don't want to have sex you certainly shouldn't have to. But you might help him masturbate.

overthinkingmind · Answer

It is a real thing. But make sure your boyfriend is not taking advantage of it. He can take care of himself, too.

allahu_snackbar · Answer

Yeah they do hurt but they don't turn blue.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Yeah it's a real thing  BEHOLD science

SamuelB · Answer

Yes, they do ache when that happens.

LoveSpurts · Answer

Blue Balls are a term we use when our balls are full of semen and they start to hurt when we can't cum. It is a real condition. It's not "life threatening" or anything like that, but if your boyfriend is a young man, his balls fill pretty much every few hours. So keep his nuts happy and keep them empty.

singlebee · Answer

Listen to me ! Don't turn a man on if you ain't gonaa do anything about it!! Do yes blue balls are bad... its the worst feeling! Getting turned on and then not having sex LOL 😁

Bowshots86 · Answer

No its an actual thing caused by the buildup in pressure of sperm. You see when a guy is turned on he gets a spike in testosterone wich amps up sperm production. If nothing is done with all of this sperm then preassure increases and causes pain. Now eventually the body breaks down some of these sperm and gets everything back to normal but it takes a while and definitely hurts.

larry69 · Answer

Yes if you get turned on and no sexual release it hurts like hell

Jessicocoa · Answer

Yes, it's real. Tell him to go jack off. That should fix it. He shouldn't be using that to guilt trip you.

OpenWine · Answer

I got blue balls too jk

handyman129 · Answer

Yes it is a real thing but he knows he can take care of it on his own if he wants. Tell him that you like it when he has blue balls lol

Jack32 · Answer

It's a real thing, though it sounds as though he's being manipulating. It actually takes several arousals in a short period before the fellas start to kind of hurt.

jmmmfi2 · Answer

Very real and very painful

Anonymous · Answer

It's a myth.

Anonymous · Answer

Yea it's real but he can also jerk off. I get turned on by talking to nice girls I'm friends with sometimes. I don't ask them to jerk me off. I do it later. But yes it's real and sucky. It can result in a rupture in the epididymis (testicle part). Feels like horrible cramps and gas but in the balls.