Conflicted on whether I have a foot fetish?
Sorry.
You're right, feet are gross. But you don't have to want to suck/lick them to consider yourself a foot fetishist. You can just enjoy looking or rubbing or what have you.
My advice, ignore social stigma. If you're feeling as self-conscious about it as I am, then just wait until you meet a partner that you are comfortable with, and drop hints to see how she feels about her feet and the fetish. There really is no need to rush into dating. If you narrow down your pool, you will actually be happy when you do start dating. You know that you won't have to hide yourself and pretend you are something you're not. If someone is so ignorant and shallow that they will dump someone over a harmless fetish, then they're not for you.
TL;DR most girls won't care, I used to suck on my ex's toes. Foot fetishes are really not that oddball. There are way crazier fetishes to be had. And I have some of them.
Also conflicted on whether you should tell a girl very early on or wait and ease into it as the relationship progresses. The downside to the former is that you'll lose a lot of dating potential. The downside to the latter is that you will have emotionally invested a lot into the relationship, so that will hurt much more and waste a lot of time (instead had she known from the beginning). I've heard people supporting both sides. And you know, I hope what you're saying is true because I've heard people say that they were dumped by every girlfriend they had because of this very thing, so... and if you look at polls online, around 80% of girls hate the idea of foot fetish.
Don't act like its some condition and they will be cool with it. Just start with a foot massage before sex and work your way up. If you don't put a label on it then she won't either. She will just assume that you really like her feet. When you come forward and say shit like "hey babe, I have a foot fetish" it makes it look like something went terribly wrong in your childhood, but if you just let it happen, no one will say a word.
Would you ask to give a foot massage or just do it?
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Yes, you do have a foot fetish.
But what should I do about it? That's really what I'm conflicted over then, as you can see above.
Enjoy it! I've had one for years!!!
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