Are you absolutely positive you want to lose your virginity to this 30 year old? I made a mistake similar to this-yes I called it a mistake.
He was quite older, but I did it because I didn't want any attachment and I had no feelings for him. He never knew that I was a virgin (there was no need for it) and I never found out that he took mine away.
In your case, you like him and trust him. It might be a good thing to do. Do not push yourself into having sex with him. You should have spoken about this before to be honest with you. Maybe wait it out, tell him, and then hear his side of the story. Go with no expectations. Good luck :)2 0 0 0Here's the problem; since you're a virgin, there is a chance that you will bleed after penetration and it is going to be painful. If you don't let him know, the experience could not only be uncomfortable and hurt more since he wouldn't be taking his time, but he could get a bloody surprise when you're both finished. I think if this guy cares about you, he would be able to handle the knowledge of you being a virgin.
1 0 0 0Um, you've been dating him all this time and he still doesn't know that about you? That's usually something you share with a person you really care about when you want them to really care about you. Be honest with the guy, he deserves that.
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Guys tend to be a little bit more gentle with women who have no sexual experience than they are with women who have a lot of sexual experience. Also, don't put out in order to compete with "older women (close to his age) [who are] after him". Have sex because you want to.
2 1 0 0Let him know. First time my errr hurt abit and there might be some herm ''bleeding'' abit too. Just tell him so he will know to be ''gentle'' :)
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4 10You should probably tell him. Because it might hurt and you don't want him to hurt you. So be sure to communicate with him what you like/dislike.
2 0 0 0You should let him know.
0 0 0 0He has to know. He would hate to get a sore penis after that out of a surprise.
0 0 0 0Yeah, tell him. And besides, if he's with you he would prefer younger women. He deserves to know your a virgin, I would want to know, you need to treat a first time differently.
0 0 0 0You shold tell him so tyhat he knows to be gentle with you first time it goes in otherwise it will hurt a lot
0 0 0 0Do or don't, it's really superfluous information unless you really, really know absolutely nothing about sex and you need his help.
0 0 0 1Let him know so he can be more gentle and accommodate you.
1 0 0 0when u has 17 years he was 28... fuckin sick.
He don't love you, he only want to use you for sex1 0 2 1Its better if you tell him to go smoothly n not more hurting first time.
0 0 0 0casual sex in 3,2,1...
0 0 0 0Tell him so he knows what to expect
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Yeah. But don't do it yet. Try to wait until marriage.
0 0 0 0Sex really isn't supposed to be planned. Just let it happen naturally
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