Fuck buddies v. s friends with benefits? Confuse?

[Anonymous]

So I have a fuck buddy for about a year on and off. I broke it off about 3 weeks or so but recently he been talking to me and would put the other girl he been sleeping with down saying she not as tight or doesn't give good head. But i wasn't going to go back i told him we dont mesh well. But then the next day we were talking and I explained to him how I dont want a fuck buddy at all I prefer friends with benefits even tho feelings are more likely to happen and I can get hurt. But I prefer having emotion in sex and caring and bonding etc. My ex fuck buddy said we are friends tho bc we do talk and stuff i never thought we were friends bc we only talk about are we are, school, work otherwise just about sex. He has tho let me vent and he heard me out and i have let him vent to me once when he was upset and we have talked rarly about stuff. He has also i think in his own way try to cheer me up when i was hurt over a guy he would never send me naked pic pr vid of himself but he did i figure it was only bc he wanted sex and i ended it. Plus he seems to do fine with getting girls he has had 3 other girls all ended while we were on and off. And he supposly really like those girls. When i told him what I prefer and he said we are friends it threw me off and I explained how it was not the same to what I have had with a friend I told him how i would be able to chill have fun we would talk about anything have sex and cuddle and make out etc and care about each other and each other feelings. And after that he said just to just come over. We did have sex but he did show he cared since he felt bad he didn't last as long as I wanted and then we did talk somewhat before I left it was nice but does that mean we are friends with benefits now? Or is this still a fuck buddy thing?

[HandsomeRaj]

It's all the same, well almost the same. If you want to get into the root of what and why the different terms when they are the same, here goes ;) :D

1. A friends with benefits is also a friend while a FB is just for sex
2. A friends with benefits will ask you how are you, how's work, how's your health etc from time to time while a FB will text / call you (and you will too the same way) when either of you wants sex
3. A friends with benefits will plan based on mutual convenience while FB will text / call you asking if you are free in an hour or few
4. You will enjoy a drink or a cup of tea pre or post sex with FB you guys will probably just walk out after sex
5. A friends with benefits will know a few things about you like something about your family, work etc while FB won't bother with those as you will not too (keeping it clean)
6. etc (I have a lot more of this lol)

[Asker]

Oh ok. didn't know that. I figure fuck buddy it ok to say hi how are you once in a blue but it always about sex only and that the only reason to contact the person. While a friends with benefits you can chill and go out and know more about each other. I wouldn't call a fuck buddy a friend at all.

[HandsomeRaj]

Thank you for the up vote young lady :) Yes very much as you perceive it but with friends with benefits forget the latter part of 'getting to know each other' etc it's friends less and sex more, nothing more than that. The moment you try to cozy up the other person will disappear :)

[Asker]

Your very welcome it was helpful. Oh then I guess Im confuse bc I had two guys in between the breaks with this guy. But I dont get with the other two i was more friends with one then the other but we chilled and cuddle and talked about personal and had deep convo and well i enjoy that we did other things and talked sure sex did happen but I also had fun with them it felt more of what I wanted and they seemed fine with it as well.

[Asker]

I never told them this is what I wanted. It just happened the way that I prefer it to be.

[HandsomeRaj]

Ah well then this guy is friends with benefits if you guys haven't developed feelings and stuff thus making it formal. The others can well be defined as FBs :)

[HandsomeRaj]

Thank you for your kind and generous gesture of selecting my opinion the MH young lady :)

[Anonymous]

They are the same thing.. Difference are idealistic and don't translate into reality

[Asker]

Oh ok. I guess it just depends on the person. It felt diff and more to my liking when I was with a friend compared to him. Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

Women tend to be able to distinguish between the two. For men it's all about ducking. Not into the friendship

[Asker]

Oh lol ok i see.

[kiler1000]

all seems pointless to me.

[kiler1000]

no difference.