Girls, Orgasming, and Oral Sex? Feeling too intense for my girlfriend? (Girls Help Please)

[Anonymous]

I'm the only guy my girlfriend has ever been with sexually,although she does masturbate,I'm not a virgin.So,before we have sex,there's foreplay right,and we include oral sex as part of foreplay and we always go down on each other before sex.She orgasms when she masturbates,and when we have vaginal sex,although she says the vaginal orgasms aren't that strong.But,when I go down on her,i when she's just about to orgasm,she pushes my head away.She says the feeling is too intense and strong.I've told her it'll feel really weird the first time and that I just have to continue and she'll get over the feeling,but she always pushes me away.Like she starts trembling and moving a lot(Keep in mind,this is clitoral stimulation),moaning and whatnot,but right before she orgasms,she'll push me away and say it was getting to be too much.What should I or we do?

[rainydaydreamaway]

Ever use sex toys?

Go shopping together for one. (Also get some good lube!) Find one that is designed for clitoral stimulation and has multiple settings. Let her use it on herself as many times as she wants without you there, but tell her you want to watch her bring herself off with it some time soon. Then watch her movements with it, pay attention to the speeds/settings she uses and see what she does to get herself past that point and make herself come.

Hopefully, she will find the magical motion that gets her off on her own, and it will be a lot easier for you to get past that point when you go down on her. Good luck and good vibes!

[graceh326]

That used to happen to me when I was younger. The feeling of that kind of climax is VERY intense...to the point where it used to "hurt." My boyfriend at the time would get really frustrated, because he could tell I was about to come, but would push him away. As I got more used to orgasming though, I figured out exactly how to breathe so I could "take" that intensity.

I think it's really her own issue that she will figure out once she gets more experience. Until then, I would keep it up, keep going until she resists a little, because you want to push her a tiny bit out of her comfort zone, but then back off. And just start having sex.

[ambermarie]

wow I hav the same prob lolz wen my man goes down on me he always goes straight for my clit and I have the same problem, it is a very intense feeling.. and sometimes it does like almost hurt!finger her while your doing it and also don't lick too hard because there's is a lot of nurves there if she pushes you away don't feel rejected just start lickin her pussy

[daveyjones]

Build her up slowly. You can obviously get her to the stage where she is close to orgasming so perhaps it might be worth doing something drastic. Bring a little bondage into play, tie her hands and go down on her. She won't be able to push you away and might end up having an intense orgasm but like you say, it will get her over the fear of wondering what it will be like.

I'm not a girl though, so if it was really really uncomfortable in any way, then perhaps you shouldn't do this! Good luck

[rainydaydreamaway]

I think the bondage could be fun AFTER she's had a couple of experiences orgasming and knowing it's safe and not going to hurt. But for some women it really does feel too intense, and bondage might be scary. I told a partner I wanted him to hold me down and keep going even if I tried to push him away, and he did... for a long time! and it was great! But I had that choice.

[Anonymous]

take longer to build it up, then back off, repeat and repeat and repeat until the tension is almost unbearable then really give it to her without backing off. If she pushes your head away then just start f***ing her. Make sure you're not hitting her cervix but then once its in balls deep really f***er her hard and fast. At least this works for me. Maybe for you too.

[Lee85]

Haha I actually got really turned on reading this answer (and I have an issue with a sensitive clitoris as well) so he's definitely right. Also when you're inside, girls don't always feel a lot of it, so if you are on top use one of your hands to push down on her lower stomach as you have sex... it will intensify the orgasm. and have her back arched, helps for some reason.

[princesstigerlily]

I don`t know. I think you had the right idea. Sometimes that happens to me, and I have to just keep going.

You could try being gentler, making sure there`s enough lubrication, and making sure that her clit`s hood is covering her clit to protect it.

[Lee85]

Also... try using your hand. I cannot stand tongue but I love when he kisses me and uses his hand to get me off. Total bliss.