I think the best way to address your "v-card issue" is to try and put yourself out there more. Enlist a good friend's help if that would be useful to you. Being a virgin isn't a huge issue anyway. Sex isn't rocket science, nor is inexperience a deal breaker, and you'll pick it up easy if you pay attention and care about pleasuring your partner.
The thing is, sex with a prostitute is probably not going to change much. In fact, I think based on what you've written here it might even make you feel worse. You view going to a prostitute as desperate and pathetic - imagine how you'll feel if you actually go through with it.
What you're trying to do is address a symptom (lack of sexual experience), while neglecting to work on the cause and root problem (shyness, isolation), and that's why you're not going to find a satisfactory solution going down this route.0 0 0 0Yes because being a virgin is such a terrible thing. Just because you do it once with a prostitute, it doesn't mean you're going to magically have all the sex you want. Most likely you still won't get sex unless you pay for it. Is that the life you want? Good luck
0 0 0 0Ugh please don't. I'd rather date a 25 year old virgin than a guy that slept with a prostitute. What's the rush? It'll happen for you. Just get yourself out there.
0 0 0 0Yes, that's easy to say when you're not a male in his position.
You do realize that you're the minority?
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Well, maybe therapy could help with the social anxiety, I'm not too much of an expert on that. I used to be shy around women until I started working out and changed my diet, etc. etc... Eventually it increased my testosterone so much that I was just horny all the time and wasn't scared to talk to women anymore. When you do meet a girl to sleep with, don't tell her you're a virgin, just play it straight. The best thing to do is just study, study, study sex. Go to your local bookstore and find some books, I would highly recommend some on cunnilingus because that's what the ladies loveeeee. The first time I did cunnilingus I knew what I was doing because I read up on it so much, but don't limit yourself to just that. Try to figure out as much about sex as you can.
0 0 0 0Take a trip to Bangkok, Prague, San Juan, Manila, Kiev, Singapore, Cartegena, any number of places, depending on your taste and budget.
You could go to the bars look for a girl that suits you, you can find someone who is very sweet and looks like a virgin (but don't get fooled). Find one at a mall (many non-prostitutes in places like Bangkok and Manila will accept money for sex), or hire a local to help find one for you (either a pimp at an escort company or most any regular gay guy). Hire her for a few days for the GFE. Be careful not to get ripped off though. If decide to go to the Philippines, there is a good chance your bargirl would marry you if you asked.0 0 0 0
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3 13Personally I don't think you should be ashamed of either. Everyone is different.
There are people who rape, abuse, hurt, bully, mock, belittle, harass, stalk and/or cheat on others people. These are people who should be ashamed. Not you.
If you want to lose your virginity with a prostitute, do it for sexual confidence, not because you're ashamed of being a virgin.0 0 0 0How will a prostitute help you?
0 0 0 0Stop, relax, the more you stress on it the worse it gets. If you think that you need to do this to move on with your life. Then do it, if it's because you are being pressured by outside influences then stop trying to make them happy.
0 0 0 0Nah man. Socially it won't help you. Women will in fact be more turned off if they find out that you lost it to a prostitute.
You should get therapy or counseling man.0 0 0 0Why not waiting for your true love instead of a prostitute?
0 0 0 2When you get with women just don't tell them you're a virgin. Most guys lie about their virginity and say they lost it. They aren't entitled to your sexual past. If they ask just say you don't like to kiss and tell.
0 0 0 0My brother lost it to a hooker at 26. Worst decision of his life, he says.
1 1 0 0Why?
well because it was shitty. i don´t know. i never had sex with a hooker so i don´t know. he said it´s shit when she´s obviously not into it.
yea... when you die everything on earth won't matter any ways.
0 0 0 1losing it to a tree via tree hole has more dignity than losing it to a prostitute
0 0 0 0Sleeping with a prostitute won't help you develop the social skills necessary to get a girlfriend. You won't be a virgin anymore but you might end up regretting it.
0 0 0 0Why not loose it to 2?
0 0 0 0i'd rather hook up with a guy like this than a guy who lost it to a hooker
0 0 0 0I would say why not
0 0 0 0Look for a girlfriend.
0 0 0 1Man i would say gone ahead in do the prostituion thing I a lot of guys do it than you think I look good but i still did it i dont care what other people think
0 0 0 0Embarssed by being a good man in a place where filth are everywhere I hate being in the west
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