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My boyfriends best friend raped me. Should I tell him?

My boyfriend was throwing a party last night for his birthday at his house. We were having a fun time with all of his friends loud music and everything. I got really drunk and sick so i went to my boyfriends room to go lay down. After about an hour of throwing up and hovering over the toilet i hear the door open i thought it was my boyfriend coming to check up on me so I got up and when I turned around his best friend was standing in the doorway. Trying to clear my head i asked him what he was doing here and told him that i was fine. He came up behind me and started touching me and kissing my neck. I pushed him away and told him to stop but he kept doing it. He pushed me on the bed and got on top of me forcing himself on me putting his hands up my skirt. I kept trying to push him off but it was like my arms were not strong enough and I kept passing out. He was taking off his pants I told him to stop and I remeber i kept grabbing his belt trying to stop him. He grabbed my hands and pinned me down continuing what he was doing. I started screaming for my boyfriend as loud as I could but he put his hand over my mouth and raped me. He told me that if i told my boyfriend that he would say that I seduced him Advice
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  • I'm so sorry. Yes I would definitely tell him because if not now then it will come up later. I was raped and didn't want to tell my boyfriend and some things happened and I was forced to tell him so it would explain some things about how I am and how I handle things. When you talk with him because basically your putting him in position to pick between you and his friend so maybe if you don't want things to go bad just explain what happened and that you don't wanna be around him and prefer that when they hang out your not around. I do agree with pressing charges, it sucks to have to do but if not he's gonna get away with it and think it's fine to continue doing it. That will also help things with your boyfriend I think, some men think women lie and if he's that type of guy if your serious enough to go to the police then something obviously happened. Not saying anyone won't believe it happened but as it is his friend and this will be proof for him. Your boyfriend didn't see what happened and it will be hard for him to accept that his friend did something like this to his girlfriend. So go to the police and get a police report and maybe if you don't feel safe get a restraining order against him and talk with your boyfriend about what happened. He should be there for you and be supportive, my boyfriend wanted to go to the guys house after I told him what happened and that wasn't what I expected at all.

  • If I were you, I'd tell him, yes. It's incredibly important that you get emotional support after something like that, and your boyfriend is one of the most important people for you to get it from. If he's worth it, then he'll be there for you. Just tell him honestly what happened. It'll hurt him, but he should believe you over his best friend when he hears you. It's important that people know about what the best friend did so that he's not able to do that to anyone else.

  • Let your boyfriend go. I know how painful it is to break up with your boyfriend at the lowest point of your life, but if he can’t cope with the rape, you have to let him go. A great way to heal from being raped and from the break up is to reach out to other survivors.

    Good luck, girl.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Tell you boyfriend asap, AND file rape charges against him. Such scum need to be punished real bad.

  • You should tell him and the police. Get a rape kit if it's still viable.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Name and shame the fucker! tell everyone what he did. That is not ON!

    • If she was older & wiser, I would find it most satisfying & justice IF she could manage a relationship with Mr. R (apist) to gain his confidence long enough to record him talking about his rape or her, with details. THEN present this to the police, who will then most credibly explain to boyfriend what a jerk his "friend" is and how he will become a prisoner for a looooong time.

  • You should have immediately reported it to the police. Why haven't you already done so?

  • I think you should tell the police what happened.

  • Tell him, call the cops, and tell everyone else so they can steer clear of that rapist.

  • Tell the police, soon. You have evidence on you that is decaying.

    After you get a kit done, then tell your boyfriend.

  • Tell it the cops AND tell it your boyfriend.

    • You owe it to all the other girls he will rape after this.

    • This, nothing else to say.

  • tell the police and also your boyfriend

  • this happened?

    • Yea I was thinking troll myself

    • @tattooedhandfet i was thinking maybe she just wanted to see what people would say. or she had some weird fantasy or something. sounds like something right out of a lifetime movie https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yfcj1skRi9g

    • Men are terrible and they will hurt uou😂😂😂😂bwhahahahha

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  • Tell your boyfriend what happened in its all honesty.
    there is two sides for every event, His story, your story and then there is the truth. can you prove your side? Have you got people who can justify what you say, or proof such as marks on your body caused by his force when he pin you down, etc? If so go to police with your proof.
    Does he have anything for proof when he says he seduces you?
    Be truthful and tell what really happened to you boyfriend.

  • Call a rape center and ask them what to do.

    • About any clinic or hospital should be able to handle rape. In case of rape, go to a clinic/hospital ER straight away, BEFORE going home, before washing and changing clothes, before going to the cops.

  • Yes, You should also press charges.
    If your boyfriend loves you he will support you, If not you are beter off breaking up with him and looking for someone who will actually love you.

  • I would tell him right away, I'd tell the police, parents etc

  • Tell your boyfriend and get the police to charge him

  • Yes. Tell him right away

  • make another situation like that, but only pretend to drink, then if he tries it again make sure your boyfriend is near were he can see but his friend can't see him

  • Report that Mother fucker to the police and your boy friend! He fucking deserves a sentence. It was not your fault so your boyfriend should be ok.

  • Not only tell him but inform the local authorities as well.

  • www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1700182-why-is-it-when-a-girl-is-drunk-comes-on-to-a-guy-he-does-the-right

    Read that, and answer

    • by the way, your question is basically just softcore porn, you're not actually asking a question

  • Tell everyone + police ASAP
    The End

    • Hey, what WAS your boyfriend doing while NOT caring for your illness?

  • Go straight to the police and get that evidence preserved pronto, most important step to get this bastard locked away. Now in terms of telling your boyfriend, I would tell him but perhaps do it with your parents so that you have someone to talk sense into him if he decides he wants to go and kill/seriously harm his friend. Sometimes raw emotion can take over and on your own you may not be able to stop him from doing something he may later regret.

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