Girls, Did you know that shy guys who can't ask women out have almost a 0% chance of getting a girlfriend?

Does that bother you that you are, in part, responsible for this tragedy. Nevermind the fact that shy, quiet guys dont have a lot of guy friends to begin with, or that they dont have a lot of self confidence. Nevermind the fact that they are in great need of help socially, society as a whole does not support them. The whole dating scene is geared against them. In recent polls I have seen, between 70 and 80 percent of men have never been asked out by women, and between 80 and 90% of men have only been asked out less then twice in their life. This means that if 75%(the average) of guys want a girlfriend, they have to do the asking, and if they dont then they will stay single. isn't this sad that because of their gender these guys are forced to be confident, outgoing, and risk rejection, in order to get a girlfriend? isn't it sad that if they are too shy to do this, they will likely spend every weekend alone in their room playing world of warcraft because they can't change their personality in order to get a girlfriend? isn't it sad that they have to change their personality to get a girlfriend to begin with? If a guy is shy and quiet why should he have to change to get a girlfriend? Why shouldn't an outgoing girl ask out a shy guy? Instead society has it be the other way around. In another poll I saw 91% of men wished girls asked them out more, and only 9% didn't want women to ask them out. The overwhelming majority of guys want women to ask them out, gender shouldn't matter at all in asking out. Unfortunately right now if you are born with a penis then you have to risk rejection, pretend to be confident, and initiate everything in a relationship, and if you are born with a vagina its ok if you never ask a guy out in your life, because society doesn't expect you to. Just flip your role for a minute and imagine being expected by everyone to ask a guy out, and feign confidence or stay single for your life. How would you feel? Horrible? Because thats how shy guys feel,
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Most Helpful Girls

  • "Shy guys who can't ask women out"? CAN'T? Physically CAN'T? Says who? Shyness is only a mental thing. To overcome it, all you have to do is step out of your comfort zone. You CAN ask women out, you just don't WANT TO.
    To ask a girl out, all you need to do is open your mouth and ask. Can't open your mouth because it's sewn shut? Send her a note. She will probably think it's cute.
    I wouldn't feel bad if it was expected of me to ask a guy out. Because you know what? I don't care. I don't care if guys reject me. It's so much easier to just get it over than done with, instead of writing 10 pages online on why I "can't" do it or why it's "so much easier" for the opposite gender because they can just (supposedly) sit back and have everyone ask them out for them.
    I've asked out/confessed to guys at least 4 times in my life. I've liked/felt attraction towards maybe a total of 6 guys. So the majority, I've confessed my feelings to or asked out. Got rejected every single time. I've been asked out by a guy once, when I was 15. Since then, nothing. I've been single my entire life. But you know what? I don't give a shit because I'm not some whiny bitch ass who expects everything to soar down from the sky to me on a silver plate. I make shit happen. And if I can't make it happen, big deal. I'll get another chance with another guy one day. If not, I'll just get a shit load of bunnies and be the crazy bunny lady.

    • get it over and done with*

  • Never had that problem. know why? because my husband was that shy guy and that worked out perfect for me. I never had to worry about another woman touching my property, I got to play the role of the seductress, I was the dominant one in the beginning, I got to build up his confidence and then later after we got married, he took control on the night we first had sex and he DOMINATED me and used me as HIS slutty little whore sex toy and made me HIS. Made me feel like a woman should feel and I made him feel like a man. my shy guy is the best. he tried so hard to keep me happy because I gave him a chance and he still does. so I'm not one of those girls who contributed to that problem.

  • You are absolutely right. Men are expected to "chase" potential partners while women remain passive. Girls who would love to go out with cute guys who are shy are told they'll look desperate or slutty if they do the asking, it's ridiculous. It's 2015, why is it even a thing that someone could be considered weird for asking out the person they like just because of their genders? Let us smash the patriarchy and do away with these ridiculous gender roles!

    If this is venting because you're sad, I'm sorry that you're not having a good day and I hope you feel better soon <3

    And now I'm going to give you hugs and get my feminist cooties all over you *virtual hugs*

    • I think it's obvious that the patriarchy has already been smashed for decades.

    • Clearly not, we still have unequal gender roles

Most Helpful Guys

  • First, please use more spaces... this wall of text is overwhelming ^^
    Second, the problem here is that you see yourself as the victim.
    Thing is you aren't, shy people choose to stay alone, they choose to not have many friends. Mostly because they feel uncomfortable in those crowded social situations. They rather stay at home and enjoy there alone-time.
    You have 0% to get a girlfriend because you choose to. With a little bit of effort and a tiny bit of courage you can throw yourself out there and start meeting people, start making friends, start developing social skills, finding a girlfriend, dating, etc.
    Of course it's gonna be hard, but if you choose not to do all of this, then you are not the victim but the perpetrator of your own misery.
    I was very shy a few years ago aswell, but at the moment i am building up my self-confidence by weight-lifting and developing my social skills by meeting-up with people from my university.
    But i can tell you It'l be worth the effort once you start trying
    Good Luck :)

  • I am ashamed that you are a member of my gender. You have a problem and you try to blame women for it? How pathetic. This is why you don't have a girlfriend. If a girl did ask you out, why would she ever go on a second date with someone who acts so whiney and so much like a victim?

    Or are you a troll?

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  • That's not true some girls go after what they want.

    • Do they

    • @moose2coolvargas Yes they do but that is not guaranteeing what they want is you.

  • "Does that bother you that you are, in part, responsible for this tragedy"

    I have zero responsibility for your life. The sooner you realise that YOU are the only one responsible the better your life will be. How do you have the audacity to sit there and accuse women, as a gender, of not pampering to you because you're shy? You're not just shy, your dumb too. What a smashing combination! No wonder you're single...

    • This

  • They don't even care dude.

  • Booo woooo

  • I've learned to just accept it. No point fussing over it.

  • It isn't like shy girls have a lot of activity either.

  • Is this for real? If you want a girlfriend, then go talk to girls. You are too afraid of rejection to pursue a girl, yet you want them to pursue you and risk rejection.

    There are lots of ways to overcome shyness. Shyness is not some sort of incurable affliction. The main problem is that the guys who complain about this would rather sit in their rooms playing world of Warcraft rather than put themselves out there.

  • This post is tainted with misogyny. It's people like you who give actual nice and shy guys a bad reputation.

    Start looking in the mirror when you point that finger, bro.

  • Fuck man don't have to rub it in can't help it dosn't mean I won't get a girlfriend in time I don't talk but I've had 6 girls ask me out last year at my school to shy to say anything so they asked for sex and that made it even worse but I won't let that happen again thanks for the poll lets them know what it's like for us and always being alone

  • Why should they care, The current standard works great for them. Plus shy, and socially awkward symbolizes low social status, which is just unattractive to the female. That's never going to change, They have evolved over time to seek out the highest status individual as possible