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I offered to give him a blowjob on the second date, and day after I haven't heard from him all day. did I do this too soon?

i have been talking to this guy this semester and we text sometimes for days at a time and have hung out twice. i see him regularly in school as well. since i've met him, i've usually been the one initiating conversations, hanging out, etc. he has a couple of times. we made plans last Thursday to hang out on Saturday night. i didn't talk to him all day Friday, then on Saturday he texted me and asked if we were still hanging out. i said yes and we hung out that night. we ended up hooking up for the first time. we made out and fooled around and he carried me to the other room to get more comfortable i guess? i asked him if he wanted a blowjob, i don't know why i asked i know that's awkward but i did. i attempted to and he didn't stay hard, so i stopped and we continued other things. we stopped and laid for a little, fell asleep and then i left. he texted me making sure i got home okay. this was last night and i haven't heard from him all day. did i mess this up by asking to give him a blowjob too soon? or was he not interested from the beginning? did he just assume i was a hook up? i'm so confused, he is giving me mixed signals. if you are really interested in a girl do you text her first? or do you let her do it? i don't know if he is interested and just used to me initiating or if i should just back off.
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  • For a guy not to get hard is kinda weird especially a early to mid 20's and especially especially during getting head lol.. he's probably embarrassed he couldn't keep it up and that's why the slight distancing.. Most all guys get hard as fuck just from slight feeling each other up and kissing.. I will tell you do not bring it up to him, like I said he's probably embarrassed and doesn't want to talk about it.. Hard hard into drugs is he if at all? There certain drugs like coke that will give you a limp dick but other than that kinda weird to hear a 20 something year old can't get his dick hard..

    • I agree with Raydonovan... Perhaps there is a reason like drugs, alcohol, or even prescription drugs that might cause impotence... Though this could be he has low testosterone issues... But for a guy in his twenties, it certainly is not common, especially while receiving a blowjob... I bet he was extremely embarassed.

  • I think it was way too soon. I didn't even have my first kiss with my girlfriend until 6 months of dating...
    The sexual things are really fun when you start, but it's a lot better to slowly start getting more intimate.

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  • Did you bit his... Just curious

  • You didn't mess up. You offered him a BJ. If he wants it, he'll come to you. If not he won't. My guess is that you'll have is dick in your mouth lickety split.

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