My little sister fucked a random tinder douche without condom. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My sister just turned 18 and started her first year at the university and we live together in an appartment. She used to be really shy and she is the sweetest girl ever, as in often too good for this world. She is extremely pretty, not really skinny, but big and firm in the right places. She had a boyfriend for a year but since she suddenly gets all the guys' attention at uni she wanted to break up, but it's really unclear and to her is as good as over, but he thinks it's still on (teens...). She said she's on tinder just to laugh, nothing more. Yesterday I entered the kitchen and walked in on her on her knees with her naked butt out, moaning gagging and blowing a guy like there's no tomorrow, and the guy is sitting there, fist full of her hair, drinking a beer and finishing the last of his meal. I know the guy. He's 27, lives a couple blocks away, arogant asshole, muscular but has a hairy beerbelly and a dumb stare on his face. Apparently typical alpha douche (he did some of my friends). She was to busy to even notice me but he did and just laughed and encouraged her in a pretty degrading way. I went out. Tried talking with her today and she said it was just fooling around, they matched on tinder and things just happened, but she really had an amazing time, which shocks me after what I've seen. I told her to break up with her boyfriend, for real now. No excuses or I'd tell him what I saw. I did snoop through her phone though and found a message that no one wants to see from their little sister. I recreated it as exactly as possible.

What the hell should I say to her? and "snot"? Really?

[ThreeMonkeys]

Your sister sounds really immature. It's a pity. Not a surprise given the way things are today however. She definitely needs help... because the path she is on is very destructive. Cheating? I would notify the boyfriend immediately out of respect for him although it could cause turmoil. Maybe its best advised if he learns of the situation but just avoids your sister instead of officially breaking up with her... until you properly make her understand.

I believe the best ones to correct adolescent or immature behavior are people these young folks admire. They are more likely to listen to things coming from them... instead of shutting them of.

In regards to your friends that this guy has had sex with; do any of them regret it? Have any of them changed and learned from their experiences? If so, you should try to look for more advice from them. Perhaps they themselves or someone they know can help influence your sister's mind. Do you have any great guy friends who are awesome relationship material... maybe you should expose your sister to an environment in which she can see how these guy live and behave so she sees the appeal in it and understand the mistake she is making?

I am not sure how much influence your parents have on your sister but I am guessing its not much. I would still try to incorporate them into working a solution to best help your sister.

[Asker]

We have great parents but when it comes to sex, they don't know anything. They're very non-sexual people. My friends that had a hookup with that guy, say he just an ass but since they have a serious sexual urge for these typical alpha types, he's a good hookup. He's really confident, has apparently a large member and knows how to give it to a girl. Maybe I should ask them if they know whether he's clean.

[ThreeMonkeys]

I think your friend's priorities in a guy are incorrect. If such is the atmosphere around your university... your sister does not stand a chance. She is not good because she is innocent. Good means knowing the vices but having the conscious, discipline and wisdom not to elect them.

[jacquesvol]

No protection?
If it's less than 72 hrs ago, get and mahe her take the morning after pill.
Other brands here: www.plannedparenthood.org/.../...ry_and_Access.pdf

Ella (Ellaone/ Ulipristal) is FDA approved on prescription and works 5 days

Otherwise,
Wait 2 weeks after unprotected sex and make her take a urine test. Whatever it says, repeat it a week later, for confirmation.

All 'symptoms' of a starting pregnancy can also be caused by fear or by stressing about it. Only tests can be trusted. Urine tests are quite good to confirm a pregnancy, less good to prove a negative. That's why one should wait longer than the ads promise and take a confirmation test.
Blood tests by a doctor after 1 week are 100%.

She may need PP: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/

[jacquesvol]

What to say? It looks like someone forgot to give her 'the talk'. If you feel capable of doing it, it's the moment. Otherwise you'll have to find and give her books about pregnancy and STDs

[MaskedSanity]

Your sister is kind of a hoe.😂

But seriously, she's head over heels for this guy. She doesn't seem to notice assholish behaviour and even when she does, she's laughing it off.

But really, there's nothing much you can do. She's her own person making her own dumb decisions. You can tell her what you think and what her best course of action should be, but she will ultimately make whatever choice she wants.

You can tell the boyfriend, but you can't control her.

[Hidden_P]

Wow.
Your sister is really full of herself ain't she.

To be honest, it's none of your business. I would tell her you saw her to encourage her not to do it in the kitchen or other family areas, but your sister sounds immature and out of touch. The only way she will learn is the hard way with dicks like him. I'm sorry I can't help you more :/

[jessicorn]

its mean... but eventually its her life... and when you tell someone to not do it, that person will still do it... and even worse than before to take revenge... so I don't know just tell her its dangerous and stuff... just talk normally without going all psycho and stuff

[teawrecks]

"Snot" what the fuckkkk.

She's an adult, legally. She's past the stage of someone mothering her. Let it be. Not everyone stays innocent, it's a fact of life.

[Asker]

I googled it and apparently sperm is sometimes called ball snot or cock snot. Euw

[Tdieseler]

Not much you can do. If you threaten, she will only become defensive and do more, just out of spite. If you try to talk nicely, it will still be the same. All you can do is hope...

[OlderAndWiser]

As you get older, you will realize that most people must make their own mistakes. Most mistakenly think that they are significantly different than the rest of the population, so all the rules, guidelines, accumulated wisdom, and good advice that applies to other people really doesn't apply to them. I think there is actually a bit of arrogance submerged in that attitude. Some people must learn a few lessons the very hard way before they will listen to advice, and some people will never listen.

The most you can do is to tell your sister that she is free to make whatever choices she wants to make and you know you can't interfere with that, but you have lost respect for her. Perhaps that will get her attention. But don't abandon her in any way; she needs you now more than ever!

[Darlingman]

Sit her down, and have a heart to heart talk about this with her. It seems to me that she is beginning to discover her sexuality, and all you can really do is give her advice, share your concerns (calmly and with consideration), and tell her that you love her, and that there needs to be guidelines that she should follow.
Don't try and mother her, don't try and restrict or shame her, give her advice, share your experience with her; work with her, not against her.
I know of the things that you want to save her from, but all you can do is advise her and share as much knowledge with her as possible, cause if you try to do it the opposite way, you will just upset her, push her away, and make her enact even more risky behaviour just to spite you. It's her body, and her life, and her lessons to learn.
Good luck, I hope i've helped.

[mr90skid]

"snot in my pussy" Well god damn lmao
Not much you can do.. all I can think of is snitching on her to your parents and shaming her like there's no tomorrow

[M_A_X]

Nothing you can do now. Should have set a better example before this shit happened.

Hindsight sucks

[PockyPanic]

Just approch her and say, so how did ya like

[James0]

She needs to get checked right away, better safe then sorry

[Theshaft169]

Say nothing. Leave the dirty slut alone. It doesn't have anything to do with you.
Like u have never had some fun.
I bet you have no clue. She's hooked now.
Just wait. She's on the pill and ready to get filled right up !

That's hot by the way. Didn't u get turned on seeing her giving that Bj like no tomorrow? Maybe she can teach you some techniques.

[TripleAce]

Hahahah 'snot'

Randomly show up, they might drag you in with them though

[tenchu11]

your sister sounds very classy

[ChocEyes]

All you can do is to advise her to get checked and use protection next time. Aside from that, I don't think you should do anything else. It's her life.

[Bandit74]

say nothing, it's her life. If she wants to gag on Jimmie "dick snot" then that's her choice

[tyber1]

Rat her out to the boyfriend.

[JSmuve]

Hahahahahaha snot in your pussy! Well the sweetest girl ever has some mouth on her (in more ways than one).

Guys, take note on how quickly the guy escalated. Don't drag your heels trying to feel her out. Be unashamedly forward.

And girls, please never say "I usually never do this" because we all know its a flat out lie.

[GreatnessPersonified]

You should really make sure that she's protecting herself with either condoms or the pill.
Remind her that AIDS still exists.
Other than that, there is not much you can do. She going to do what she likes.

[COCOCHANEL]

snot ! wow that's... avantgarde

[Asker]

I googled it and apparently sperm is sometimes called ball snot or cock snot. Euw

[Ihav2fart]

If she wants to explore and experience then leave her be.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

lmao your sister is a fucking moron. she will most likely end up in a trailer park

[OrangeBoy]

She need to get the first delusion to learn for herself.

But... she trusts a guys that says it's clean. Now that's problematic.

[chrisbigman]

Talk to her. Strongly encourage her to stop seeing him if she still is.