My crush asked me for nudes?

[Anonymous]

Hi, so basically my crush asked me for nudes. I've liked him for agesssss and I talk to him quite a bit. Recently he's been snapchatting me (he's always the one to snapchat first), and the other day he sent me one saying send me nudes? I was kinda confused and so I talked to him for a while but eventually I did give In and send him one of me but I wasn't completely topless. He was literally begging me to send him more and then the other day he asked again for nudes. Don't really know why he was doing this as I didn't think he was this ahem well *bold*, but anyway this time I didn't send another as he was with his mates and I told him If I sent one I didn't want him showing everyone. So I guess my question Is do you think he's just using me? Or likes me? He's always been kinda loud but nice as a person but as I say he is extremely attractive and I have liked him for ages so i dont know if I should just send him more or what? Thanks x

[singeress]

No, no, no, no, no. You're about to learn this the hard way. Sex (or I guess sexting) won't make a guy stay for a relationship. If anything, he's going to respect you even less than he did before.

I don't blame for doing that; I mean, some of my crushes are really tempting. But you need to realize, that that's basically saying that he doesn't have to commit, or talk to you, take you out on dates, spend time with you, or even court you because you'll give yourself up to him regardless. He may escalate contact now, but once the actual sex is out of the way, he's gone.

No matter how much you like a guy, you're body is something worth earning.

Now, since you do like the guy, I guess you could come up with a cute way to get out of sending more nudes to him. I'm pretty sure google will have plenty of cute phrases.

[xXiTacoXx]

How can you be in your age range and this fucking stupid? He's obviously using you. He doesn't like you and he doesn't give one single fuck about you. If he did instead of asking you for nudes he'd ask you on a date. Hell, I bet you he has asked other chicks to send him their nudes too. If a person likes someone instead of asking for nudes, they would ask them out instead. The dude's using you as fap material. Nothing more, and nothing less. He won't commit to you just because you do this for him, and if he's showing his friends (which is more than likely happening) you'll without a doubt be viewed as easy.

[Goldie757]

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He has mostly shown that photo to his friends. There is a way of saving snaps without you knowing.

I've I had a friend show me a nude a girl sent. I told him off saying it's only for him. He said it's okay because she is just a slut and that she probably sends lots if pics to other guys. You are just some slut to him. He does not care or respect you.

Hello he asked for a pic when he was with his friends, he was clearly trying to show off to his friends.

[ginnyweasley]

he knows you like him and is taking advantage of that. I dont think he likes you either way he is an ass for taking advantage of you. But you won't listen because he is soooo dreamy and apparently nice (no he's not) Dont ever send any guy nudes. he will show his friends and if you're less lucky they will end up on the internet. And that will affect you trying to get a job.

[Lovelinefan]

Nah, don't do it if he's just a crush and if you don't want them all over the internet. If you were in a long term committed relationship, fine... or if the idea of thousands of guys all over the world seeing them on some porn site doesn't bother you... go for it.
But it's one of those things that you can't take back once the pic is out of your control.

And for god sake, if you do send him pics and don't want to be seen all over the internet (well, in the porn section of the internet pie), don't take pics with your face in them... at least then if they do get leaked (or intentionally posted), you won't feel so embarrassed or ashamed, because nobody will really be able to tell who it is...

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I was literally about to say the same thing., Hell to the no

[archiz]

Yes but if it s just on snapchat it won t get leaked becauee if he scrennshots one she ll know. The only downside if this is him showing it to his friends.

[Lovelinefan]

@archiz I get the concept of snapchat, but as someone who's a (former) computer geek, there are ALWAYS ways to get around things. If the picture exists ANYWHERE in any form, assume that it's not going to ever disappear. A super simple, though very basic way to keep the picture without snapchat alerting her that he took a screenshot would be to take a picture of the screen with another device. Besides, what if he DID take a screenshot, she would know but what could she do to stop him from posting it online or sending it to his friends, or just saving it and maybe doing something with it later on? Just saying, if she doesn't want it out there, it's better not to take the picture in the first place.

[archiz]

Oups I just noticed how many typo mistakes I did 🙈 No you re right actually, I just brought it up because recently I guy asked me for nudes and I said no so he suggested snapchat as argument. I didn t comply, and you ve given me more so reasons not to.👌

[Lovelinefan]

@archiz Awesome. I'm totally not against porn or nude pics, believe me. But go into it knowing exactly what the possibilities are.

[archiz]

Hahha yea I believe you. Yes indeed thank you :)

[Frost_Byt3]

I could tell you right here right now that he is using you, but you aren't going to listen to me since he is oh so attractive and oh so dreamy.

But I'll happily answer a "Why did he use me for sex? I'm so confused!" Question on G@G in a couple weeks that i suspect will be written by none other than yourself.

[kaylaS91]

Why don't you just ask him if he's interested in more to lower your chances of possibly being used just for nudes? It could go either way, otherwise.

[SolitaireBond]

You surely know that if you give in and do it, before you know it your pictures will be all over the net.. Am sure that is something you don't wish to happen.

Please take care and stay safe.

[LaikaFreefall]

Does he get a lot of girls? In other words, could this guy be a player?
He COULD be using you even if he's not a player. But if he is a player, then he's PROBABLY using you... see the difference?

[Red_Arrow]

What has he done to show that he likes you, the person inside? You mention nothing about that. Just that he wants nudes. So look at your question, "do you think he's just using me? Or likes me?" All we have seen is that he is using you for nudes. give in to that and they will probably get to other people, and either way, he does not seem to really care about you that much.

[Curmudgeon]

Have you actually done the deed with him? If not, I'd stop now.

[Prilee1992]

RULE NO1: Only send nudes when you've already engaged sexual encounter with him/her

[HookingSwan]

you should stop

he isn't your boyfriend and if the 1st thing he asks for is naked pictures, then u surely can see what he has in his mind

He doesn't seem to care about you that much

Save yourself from the grief and don't send him anything else. And probably stop texting him too. I don't know which kind of guy you want for yourself, but I don't think this is the right kind.

[JustAnotherPassenger]

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO.

Sources: How to Internet 101, Chapter 1.

[JuicyBrain]

You are a random girl to whom he asked for nudes and she gave him. So why not ask for more? You can be sure this guy showed them to his friends. You are being naive.

[Thor696]

I'm going to go search for your nudes on Tumblr now... because I'm sure they're there or will be showing up very soon.

Send a "crush" a nude? Uhm no... maybe send someone you LOVE a nude - after you know they also LOVE you and you have that kind of trust between you.

[Red_Arrow]

Well, if you are looking for nudes belonging to "Anonymous", you will probably find many. Hoope you know that does not mean they are her. lol

[jessicorn]

he knows you have a crush on him... and is using you to get off

[jessicorn]

so basically drop his ass

[bmarthinusen]

Don't send anymore, he must have respect for and for him to even ask you when he's with his mates.. No he's dumb

[ElissaDido]

Doesn't sound good... He'll probably show them to his friends and he's using you...

[teawrecks]

Next time he asks, tell him to send a picture of his dick first.

[KHaskins]

From what you've said, it's clear he doesn't love you, doesn't care for you and giving in won't "win him over." Expect anything you send him to be smeared across the net within twenty-four hours.

[nileve]

if you want him to see you nude i suggest you just show him in person rather through pictures giving him the pictures is just stupid even if on snap chat those pictures on there on not erase

[dogenaut]

He is taking advantage of you (I know because experience). I once fell for a guy a couple years ago and he also started asking me for nudes. I never sent him any but he always insisted I do. He would send me some when I didn't ask. I eventually found out he did the same with 30 other girls who were in my position. Sure, the "begging" and "sweet talk" you get from them is nice but it does not equal mutual feelings. I wish you the best of luck, friend.

[Dragonstarterplus]

Well your crush sounds like an ass but you'll probably just ignore that

[Kaylove96]

He's using you, he doesn't like you, and he just wants to show them to his friends. Don't send him any more! I'd stop now! It's like someone who only wants sex in a way. Nobody else should be seeing anything. And you can actually get in trouble for nude pics so I'd be really careful. You can become a registered sex offender.

[rjroy3]

He just wants pictures to show off to others. Don't send them. If he liked you, you would already know by this point and wouldn't have to ask us. Yes he is using you.