Girls, I gave my best (guy) friend a blowjob last night. What now? I'm so confused?

[Anonymous]

We were just chiliing out. Then I stole his phone, as a joke, he chased me around and we ended up wrestling. Then I kissed him, spur of the moment? I don't know? And he kissed me back. We made out for a while then I rolled him over and went down on him - my first blowjob! I enjoyed it and so did he. He came in my mouth and I swallowed. The question is. What happened? I am and always have been attracted to girls, I've always had gay curiosity, but never once been atracted to a guy. And I still feel the same. But, I did enjoy last night. What should I do now? I don't to be awkward with my best mate..

[roxyreigns]

well, you learned you were bisexual, right? there must be some truth to it - you enjoyed a blowjob with another man.

it's incredibly normal, almost typical really, for people to go through their entire life without thinking much about any random "oh, that might be a little gay of me" because they're mostly attracted to girls/guys or whatever, because basically, everyone thinks "straight = normal", in a sense. you just assume you're straight, because it seems like the default, and if you've got enough evidence for that (i. e. you like the opposite sex and haven't thought much about your own sex), you'll just go with it. it's not until it's demonstrated to you that maybe you aren't straight that you might think about not being straight. and not realizing until something strongly triggers it, but having no reason to think about it until then, isn't just common - frankly, it might as well be the norm.

as for where to go with your mate though... well, would you want to take things further? or would you want to just leave it there? i mean, if this was happening with a girl who was your friend, what would you want to do - think about taking it further, maybe ending up in a relationship, or maybe just having sex more often, or would you just want things to 'stay as they were'? it's tough to answer - there's not a lot anyone can tell about the dynamic with your mate there just from what you've given, because all we know is that you made out with each other and had sex.

[Asker]

If I'm really honest, then yes, I do want to take things further. It was really hot and sensual. I actually found it romantic. The dynamic with my mate has always been sort of flirty in a non sexual way, and the more I think about it after last night, there has always been kind of an elephant in the room, sexual tension, maybe? I do get excited by the idea of taking it further with him, and having full sex.

[moistycakes]

Just have a casual chat to him :) Nothing wrong with what happened, and hey maybe you can figure whatever this is out together in a best mate kind of way. Attraction is weird that way.

[Asker]

Thanks. Very sensible advice. I think that's the only thing we can do now... might be a bit awkward though!!

[moistycakes]

This kind of thing is how I found out I was bisexual. So if you want feel free to message me with questions :) It can get a tad awkward I'll admit.

[Asker]

Thanks, but I can't send messages yet, unfortunately. The more I think about what happened the more I want it to happen again and even go further with him..

[imanf7]

u kissed a guy and had oral sex , so i will assume you are bisexual

[Asker]

That was the first time I've ever felt any kind of attraction to a guy though? Surely I'd have felt attracted to other guys too if I was bisexual?

[imanf7]

it can happen , talk to him and see how it goes

[Asker]

Ok, I will bite the awkward dust.. thank you for your advice.

[Anonymous]

This has got to be a gross troll question

[Asker]

Why?