Guys, Why is my boyfriend faking his orgasm?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. He's 29, me 24. At first just like any relationship are sex life was great. Lists of making out, foreplay, cuddling an amazing sex. now as a year has came and went, we never make out, he never initates, there is no foreplay on his part and sex only happens every week or so and most time longer. Im constantly asked to give him head, and I usually do and when I don't it's followed by more asking and then him finally Saying fine, wanna fuck? And he will never look at me and closes his eyes and shit like that. This makes me feel super ugly, gross, sad, hurt amongst many other feeling. He has also said I always want sex, which I don't. So I've completely backed off and stopped even expressing the way I feel because nothing changes. But this morning he finally initated and I was reluctant as this puts me again at a vulnerable position and I feel he is only doing it to appease me... after about 3 minutes he "came" and at first I thought at least he still can get off by me.. but sadly no, he faked it.. Admitted it after I confronted him and we haven't brought it up since. I'm wondering why after him initating would he fake it? Is he not sexually attracted to me? Was he in the mood then once it began realized he wasn't as he can't even look at me when we do have sex? I'm just so confused and hurt. I have many guys telling me how pretty and sexy I am, but is it that I just am not to him? Why would you guys do this, if you have it would? I should also note, he watches porn, masturbates just like any other guy, ogles over girls on Instagram and fb, liking photos, commenting on them, friend requesting etc. I am not overweight or ugly. Has he just lost interest? And the pic is for people saying you probably gained weight etc, as I've seen that before.

[Napoleonica]

I'm honestly stumped. Your picture is really sexy, so if was into you physically at first I can't imagine why that would have changed.

Is there a chance there's someone else he's interested in sexually, and he is trying to convince himself otherwise because he wants to stay with you? That could explain why he initiates even though he can't get off.

[Asker]

There's a girl on Facebook and Instagram he always checks up on, follows her whe he knew it would upset me... I'd say a bit obsessed, but they don't know each other and we live in different states. When she changes her hair he wants me to do the same, wants me to buy things she has worn... he obviously didn't know I knew why he was asking and telling me to do these things but I knew. Even telling me to go into the same profession as her. It's not a coincidence.. he has admitted these things.

[Gman1]

@asker Yep... It's time to let his ass go, seriously... The dude has some mental issues and you don't need to involve yourself in his sickness any further... Plenty of guys would be gaga over you... trying to get you to dress up or change your style to look like someone he fantasizes over? Let this one go!

[Asker]

@Gman1 I've told that to him many times.. I've said, I can't be anybody by me. Stop trying to change me and he assures me he's not.. Am I being dramatic? I'm just sick of feeling so ugly and unwanted, because I use to be super confident. I once said I wanted to get pink streaks in my hair he asked me how old i was? And that's was for teenagers.. and I suppose I agreed. Skip 3 weeks later, this fb chick gets blue in her hair and he comes running telling me how hot it would be, and telling me to buy leather legging... just like the pic of her with blue streaks and black leather legging.

[detlef]

Sorry to hear about that. Behavior like your boyfriend's is surprisingly common. Lots of young men have little or no libido--or sense.

My advice? Dump his ass. You will have no trouble finding a young man who can and will deliver, with a smile, and who will by no means be faking it.

Good luck and take care.

[detlef]

Thanks sister!

[FakeName123]

gr8 b8 m8 !

[Asker]

What?

[tony72722]

I faked it a couple times with my ex. It just took me forever to always cum and she really wasn't doing it for me anymore.

[Asker]

Why wasn't she doing it for you? Familiarity?

[tony72722]

Things just got old. She would lay there like a dead fish.

[Asker]

Well I can assure you, I do not. I love to give and will even give up my own orgasm to please him. I've tried playing coy, being dominate, be nasty, being sweet. Everything. But one thing is, is im never not into it. I moan I talk dirty, the things I'd normally do.. I want passion and he's not with it. Is it him or is it me? Is he not into me sexually anymore? As a guy what would you assume.

[tony72722]

I mean you look good in your pictures i don't know how he couldn't be aroused. Maybe he just has some psychological issues going on?

[dbookin]

It could be one of to things,
Maybe he can't feel anything and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I have met many hot looking women like you but in the bed they couldnt get me off. or maybe your boyfriend is gay and is coming to terms with it.

[SlightlyCrazy]

That is so sad. Leave him, that type of behavior is disgusting. You should never treat someone you love the way he treats you. You sound like such a generous caring person and he makes you feel less than your worth. If I had someone like you I would do anything to make them happy. Find better for yourself. Your worth it. By the way, if that's you, you've seriously got the whole being hot thing down. Damn.

[Asker]

I try to be a good girlfriend. I rub his back and feet and play with his hair thinking this will make him love me more.. and that's me, I want to do those things. When I see nothing changes I become standoffish and confident, bitchy even thinking that will work. Nothing does. Is he asexual?

[SlightlyCrazy]

Look your a good girlfriend. I would kill for someone like you. But you can't make someone love you. Love comes from within. Is he asexual, probably not, I've known asexual people. He's just cold, callus and miserable. Don't drag yourself down, let him go.

[Asker]

I just feel what the point right? I'm 24, I should not be settling for this shit. He lives up in the mountains and I feel he's only keeping me around cause he fears he'll find nobody else... all while knowing I "just don't do it for him" his word when he was drunk. Would you do this to someone, or do you think he's invested someway just not sexually attracted to me?

[SlightlyCrazy]

I can't believe he said that. You don't need that. He's a dead end. I feel so bad, I wish I could hug you. Please better your life, there's so much left of it live

[rmkh98]

Hey listen! You're so fucking hot and any guy who wouldn't be attracted to you must be fucking retarted... i'm sorry for this but maybe he's not into you anymore. Maybe he's still not attracted to you.. and that girl you talked about, the girl he keeps cheking on, maybe they do know each other and he asks you to do everything she does just to feel like she's around. Cause you said she lives in another state. I know that's a little bit sick but maybe after all that's the truth.
Any guy dreams to have sex with a blonde hot girl who has a body like yours. So if he's not into you anymore, then you need to dumb him...
Trust me, you're gonna find a guy who appreciates you and loves you the way you do. I guess you already know that. 😂 Take care 😍

[Anonymous]

cheating guilt? too tired from work? psychological or physiological problems? could be anything

[Asker]

He's definitely not cheating. I live with him, and he works from home.

[Asker]

What kind of problems?

[Opinion Owner]

google it baby. everyone has become a doctor today with google. well heart issues could be one cause

[Opinion Owner]

sad thing is you are indeed a hottie. maybe he has to fast a bit on the whole porn and masturbation thing? if you see reverse gangbangs with pornstars all day long and who knows what else, well a real life experience with a real woman won't do much for you... .

[Asker]

I suppose he was single for eight years before me and only had one real girlfriend so probably relied a lot on porn during those days he was single.. he'd even tell me when we were just friends about how much he masturbates.. Am j w No doe thinking he is totally desensitized to a real women and only loves the girp of his hand? He has also gotten hookers in the past and things of that sort.

[Opinion Owner]

no, i've been a porn addict too. its not about hands. you get desensitised to the chemicals secreted in your brain. overuse of heavy porn can completely desensitise you. porn was designed for this shit. porn is freaking scientifically designed for male brain stimulation. you can look at things that just can't happen in reality and get all overblown on these chemicals and fuck up your brain synapses, that has a consequence in your life.

[Asker]

Can things change? Or is the brain somehow forever changed?

[Opinion Owner]

yes he has to cut this thing off, and begin a normal life. and he'll see a great improvement. but you just dont go to a junkie and say "cut drugs off!" that shit just won't work. its a delicant situation that requires knowledge, discretion and subtlety? maybe seek a professional's health?