Guys, Why is it so hard for my boyfriend to stay hard and cum? I'm sick of being on top of a half soft dick for 1-2 hours trying to make him cum?

[Anonymous]

With other guys I usually like to fuck for 20-30 mins or so, after that the passion is gone for me. Most guys only need a few mins or so to cum anyway. This guy's favourite position is me on top but is my least favourite. I have to be on top doing all the work cos that's the position he can stay the hardest with (even though it's still not fully hard). We tried a new brand of condoms which he said felt so much better and he stayed hard for about 10 minutes then went half soft again without cumming. I was on top for about an hour not even getting any pleasure myself, trying to make him cum. He stays hard when I give head but never cums even if I do it for half an hour or more. It's getting exhausting when I'm doing all the work purely to try and make him cum and feeling no pleasure from his half soft dick. I don't know what to do but I feel like I shouldn't have to make this enormous amount of effort for nothing I mean it's his problem if he can't cum right? Or is there something else I should be doing?

[Knuckles77]

Here's a list of a few things that could be causing the problem:
1. He's not that into you. Finds you somewhat unattractive. Nothing for nothing listening to you complain about having to blow him for a half hour or have sex with him for 20 min + killed any hard on I would have gotten today. If you love him and are sexually attracted to him 20-30 min of sex is normal and blow jobs are to be expected. They're not just for anniversaries. A half hour blow job is nothing (although I'm surprised he didn't cum and way before 30 min.) Sex isn't a race. Well some times it is. Sometimes I like to slap that ass and hit it hard and fast, sometimes I take my time and enjoy. But I digress from my point. You sound a little selfish. I get your sexually frustrated, my condolences for that, but take it easy.
2. He's beginning to get erectical dysfunction. (ED), become impotent.
3. Medications. SSRIs (Zoloft, Prozac etc.) routienly cause anorgasma (can't cum) and frequently erectical dysfunction while taking them.
5. Performance anxiety. He's so freaked out about being good in bed he can't just relax and have fun.
6. You might suck in bed and he's frustrated. You might be very loose, and/or your technique might suck so bad he can't get into it. Ask him what he needs. I actually had this problem once. A chick I was banging couldn't give a blow job to save her life and she was sooooooo loose it was like throwing a hotdog down a hallway. NO friction. Couldn't nut. Eventually got frustrated and couldn't keep it up. Happened multiple times with only her. Needless to say I fired her after too long.
7. Porn induced erectile dysfunction. If he watches tuns of porn he's having trouble staying hard, and being mentally stimulated enough to cum. He needs his porn and/or you to be way more kinky. Yes, this is a real condition amongst porn addicts. Don't believe me? Look it up for yourself.
8. Alcohol. Yeah, it makes you horny, but too much causes wiskey d*ck. (Can't cum) Alcohol dulls the senses. A punk band you might have heard of called the Dead Kennedy's put out an album called Too Drunk To F*ck describing this problem. I had this happen when I was 22, drank a fifth and a half of Jack Daniels and plowed away for 1hr. and couldn't nut. No difficulty maintaining a hard on, but couldn't get off to save my life. This lead to blue balls. Needless to say, upon waking I tapped that ass good again and finished the job right. Then popped 2 Advil, rolled over, and went back to sleep till noon.

[AustinMan]

There's more to this than just semi impotence. Find a good couple's therapist and you should see it resolved in pretty short order.

[zShikiz]

It could be a problem with him or you. For him, he may have trouble staying hard and may have a serious problem. In your case, you may just be failing at pleasuring him...

To find out, speak with him about it and see what the issue is.

[dakraziest]

Go to a doc something is wrong with him

[almightyshaq]

Maybe he not attracted to you.

[Dexamethasone]

Not every man is the same but in this case it's more likely that your boy has the problem. It's way long time and any man is supposed to finish.
You should try a different technique and if it still happens it's definitely his problem.

[Laowai]

Condoms are pretty desensitizing. You could try a different form of birth control

[26ukdude]

condoms, ugh

[Intraluminal]

How old is this guy?

[Asker]

25 why?

[Intraluminal]

Well, you never said how old he was, and sometimes guys in their 60s will have this problem. If that's not the problem, and he's not on any medications, then the next thing to do is see if he has "morning wood." If he has morning wood, then the problem is almost always psychological. If he doesn't get morning wood it's probably health-related.

[Asker]

He doesn't get morning wood. He actually gets hard many times at random moments when we aren't even doing anything sexual but as soon as we start getting intimate the erection doesn't last.

[Intraluminal]

Might be a health problem then. Time to go to the nurse practitioner.

[Transigence]

How much of his penis is missing?

[Questionsweask]

sounds like he is hitting it alone a lot. , or has such deep fantasy in his head nothing else does it for him. My guess is he is beating it often.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Sucks that unhealthy lifestyles are mainstream now, doesn't it?

[Asker]

What do you mean