My boyfriend has a PORN fetish which is "babysitters". If we have kids & need a babysitter should I be extra careful?

[Carmenblondey]

ONE DAY I ASKED HIM what TYPE OF PORN DO U LIKE AND HE REPLIED " nurses, babysitters, ect". Then I started thinking of wen we get married & have kids and we hire a nanny who is ok looking will he have a fetish and fantasies about fucking Her ? Omg guys I have strange porn things that I watch like much older men but I never would act on it. I'm scared now I don't no how that situation would be with kids An hiring a babysitter. Shit she going to be ugly and gross looking lol.

[AustinMan]

Porn is about fantasy and convenience, not real life. This may help...

Why Men Watch Porn and Look at Other Women

Okay. Let's take a major step back and try to not make this all about you, shall we? When a man engages in sex with a woman, it's a complicated affair, pun intended. He has to take into account her needs, boundaries, stated preferences, feelings and a host of other factors. All this before he even gets to the part about his needs and trying to achieve the closeness he seeks. You wouldn't have it any other way. You want a considerate, caring lover, no doubt.

When he watches porn, it's all about two things: fantasy and convenience. If you really, honestly expect him t never lust after another woman in his head, you sadly mistaken. He was a girl watcher when he found you and finding you, no matter how satisfying, doesn't kill that desire to look. There's an old saw that is absolutely true: when a guy's through looking, he's through. He is, to put a point on it, NEVER going to stop looking at other women. Nor do you want him to.

It's that sexual desire that's the engine of your intimate relationship. Nor do you stop looking at attractive men nor does he want you to for the same reason. That he looks at other women and porn says nothing about how he feels about you.

So porn is about him fantasizing. It's also where he likely finds new ideas to bring to your conjugal bed that you'll hopefully find very entertaining.

The other reason men watch porn is convenience. He doesn't have to take all those factors I mentioned into consideration. It's just him and his dick.

Bottom line: fear not!! Just relax and enjoy the man in your life and ignore the porn. Or better yet, offer to watch it with him. It makes a great warm up.

[meowcow]

At it's core, your man will be attracted to young, pretty females.
If you are worried that you cannot trust him with a young attractive babysitter, you should also not trust him with ANY young attractive girl, regardless of their job.

A sexual fetish is just that... a fetish. Some people like to have sex in diapers, or have the girl call him "daddy". That does not mean they like to have sex with infants, or want to engage in incest.

The allure of babysitter sex is simply that the girl is usually young, innocent and wanting to explore the sexual realm (at least that's how porn portrays it). The girl often acts like a dumb, sexually repressed and horny girl - which feeds a man's fantasy. Other preferences like nurses... cater to men who want to be "taken care of" by their girl in every way.

[Cmasterson]

Haha I don't think so, it's just a fantasy really, anyhow usually in porn they show young "hot" babysitters, by the time you two have children, most likely your "baby sitter" will be young and underage. And if you have a nanny, just don't hire a young hot one haha. I use to be a nanny, and even though I felt a slight attraction it would be unprofessional and I wouldn't feed into their fantasy if they had one.

[redeyemindtricks]

Alert level: zero.

As you tell it, you didn't have to gather this intelligence yourself-- he just freely told it to you.

If this is true, there is even less of an issue than if he'd said nothing at all!
The one thing common to ALL these nutso sexual pathologies is that people try to HIDE them.

Relax, enjoy the ride. Oh, and, I have a couple dress-up ideas for you for his next birthday. (;

[Carmenblondey]

Haha yes I should dress up. Great advice thank u so much !!!:)

[BuchitaBuchys]

Even if she's ugly and gross, if his urges are strong enough, that won't stop him. Do you really think men only have sex with women they find attractive? Lol no.

Regardless, it's not good to assume he has no control if he hasn't given you a reason to doubt him.

[EarthToKepler]

I don't think he'd act upon it with you... To satisfy him could try roleplay pretend you're a babysitter

But don't worry about it seeiously

[NJ_Casanova]

If that's really you in the profile picture... you have Nothing to worry about;-)

[TazWax]

Just get a ugly nanny

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Hahaha don't worry too much. Fetishes are. It that serious. Some can give up on them to please their partners. I'd give up on my DP fantasy if my partner wouldn't want to do it.

[James0]

Or old like 60 Xc there solved

[Koji8123]

Are you joking?

[Entity]

Just don't have kids.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

lmaoooooo
don't get your nickers in a knot. There we are at defcon 5 with this meaning its peacetime. No need to be threatened by the idea

[chnapo]

Babysitters are very different from the ones in porn.. I think you don´t have to worry just be aware.

[clampfan101]

Not unless the babysitter/nurse/etc. look to be feeling horny around him.

[ArtDent]

No, by the time you have kids he'll have moved on to another fetish.

[ArtDent]

And based on your reaction to his telling you this, he might be far less likely to share with you his fantasies. Good job.

[jakeofalltrades]

like you said you would never act on it. most guys watch porn and will never act on it either

[thotramuss]

well, i would go for babysitters. just kidding. yes be aware of that.

[Zanecyber]

hahahahaha

[creamylover]

try roleplaying with him to make his fantasy come true..

n if ever you hire a nanny, hire an old ugly one.. hahaha

[jmmmfi2]

Girls like you I swear. What happens if he goes to the doctor? Should he only have ugly nurses?

[Anonymous]

it doesn't mean he would act on it. porn fetishes don't always manifest into real life.

[Anonymous]

He should get attracted but if he is faithful and really loves you, he doesn't do any stupid things to hurt you.

Try to get to know real him more before being careful with that.

[Carmenblondey]

How do I get to no the real him?

[Opinion Owner]

There is no particular way... Ask for advice form his close friends or just ask him like "Do you want to fuck babysitters in real life?" And don't miss the sign that he implied but try not to be suspicious in front of him.