What does it mean if a guy has sex with you in ONLY one position for UNDER 3mins? What if he acts very nonchalant during the sex and after?

[Randomnumbers]

Let me start by saying before I had sex with this guy I was going 3 years strong being sex free. I honestly was very horny that night hanging out with him. I was reluctant considering there is a new girl in his apartment every couple of days literally. We've hung out before, this last time we hung out, in the mist of the conversation I just start caressing my nipple. I truly forgot I was with someone new. He REFUSED to drop the subject. I tried to change the subject in a flirty way by saying I accidently did something but he kept asking "what did you do"? I KNOW HE SAW ME LOL. I wanted him to be more aggressive and just say he saw me so it would lead to sex. DUHH. I left very quickly after he wouldn't drop it. So I'm at home... horny...(clear sign from the nipple touching) and I decide I have to make the move. I call and tell him I want to have sex. He agreed. I go over his place, and he led me to his room by hand. He does the usual boob licking, crotch touching, little fingering (30sec tops. Smh) then he takes his shorts off, lays me on my back in missionary and we have for lack of better words: lack luster, UNINTERESTED, boring sex. I felt very unwanted even with him on top of me. He didn't kiss my neck or dirty talk... he just... pumped me. That's what it kind of felt like. He changed the pace a bit but not nearly enough. He whimpers yeah a couple of times then he just gets up, and goes to the restroom to take the condom off. I put my dress on and head for the door, he follows asking did I cum.. I tell him the truth... uhmmmm no. He says he would go again if he could go get condoms. I didn't want to wait so I went to my apartment before he could leave and found a condom. I go back to his room and wait for what seems like forever watching tv while he smokes and looks at himself in the mirror, then he puts the condom on, (no 4play), acts like he's going for doggystyle, rubs himself on my lady bits then turns me over again and does

[TheHooptyMiata]

He's just a shit fuck. Nothing more or less, he's just crap in bed. If he's a fellow player, it doesn't make a difference to him if you enjoy it or not because once you walk out the door, he never sees you again. I personally like to get the girl off a couple times at least, but some guys don't give a shit.

[Randomnumbers]

That makes a lot of sense. I think I came on too strong considering I asked him to have sex. He wanted it too but I think they could have taken some of the "hunt" out for him. I don't know like you said he could have just been "shit in bed" LMAO.

[Randomnumbers]

That*

[TheHooptyMiata]

For me, the fact of manipulating a girl into sleeping with me is part of the fun of it, so you're right. It's less fun if she was DTF from the start, it's more of an ego boost if she initially wouldn't touch you with a 10 foot pole and you, through your charm and lies, get her to fuck you. That wouldn't decrease sexual performance though. As I said, he just doesn't care if you like it, he can discard you and get a new girl - you say he has a new girl in his apartment every couple days. Chances are the reason for that is he fucks them once and then they don't come back. It's a silly way to play, really, because if you're good you can booty call them again. I know guys that do this 'I came so who cares' routine and it confuses me.

[Randomnumbers]

I didn't give him any play in the beginning of knowing each other. I was just horny that day and tired of waiting in him to make his move. But I see what your saying. I'm back celibate so I doubt it'll be hard next time making the guy "hunt" me down lol. Thanks for advice.

[AustinMan]

If he's worth the effort, talk to him. If not, move on.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

[redeyemindtricks]

"I was going 3 years strong being sex free..."

You write this ^^ as though it's some sort of accomplishment. What's the backstory there?

[Randomnumbers]

Well it kind of is for me. I've been celibate for this reason... people don't truly even care about making the sex good let alone having a commitment. I wasn't promiscuous. So in all honesty... my vuh Jay Jay was probably very nice for him considering it had been so long lol.

[redeyemindtricks]

Well, okay, "I've been waiting for someone who's serious about commitment / who will be a good lover" is one thing, but that isn't the words you wrote. You wrote that you were "going sex-free". Those words imply that you were "on strike", even when YOU ACTUALLY WANTED to have sex. That you were... denying yourself pleasure for the sake of your pleasure. I think you'll find this wasn't a very sensible course of action. Truth be told, it sounds like it was fueled by bitterness toward earlier lovers. Mmhmm? Looking backward isn't a great way to live. (You'll crash into things and drop yr phone.)

[Randomnumbers]

I don't like your opinion but your entitled to it so... thanks, but no thanks.

[broadsword]

He thinks he's a player and women love him but he sounds very immature and more interested in his own pleasure.
There are some men that think this is all there is to sex unfortunately.
Sorry to hear of your poor experience.

[Randomnumbers]

Thanks for your advice. This is what I get for breaking my celibacy... a good reason to go back celibate lol haha haha. I would hope at a certain age men don't think like that but I know that's not always the majority.

[broadsword]

Iam sorry sex can be such a wonderful thing but horrible if used in this way or even worse far more casually. Please don't give up on men just because of this experience.

[Randomnumbers]

The only thing I can think of at the moment is how fast can I go to the doctor/clinic. I live next to him so I see all the women he may/may not/probably is having sex with lol. It just makes me want to start back celibate and never have sex again until married. Because if that's what dating is in 2016, casually having sex, 10-20 partners in less than 6 months. ... No thanks. I'll just watch porn hahahaha

[broadsword]

You said he used a condom if so you should be fine. It's not all like that. He probably needs all these women because he can't keep a relationship due to being so poor in bed. lol Please feel free to private message me if you want to chat.

[Tellytubby]

He's totally shit at sex. I think that's it...

He might just not be interested and thought he was just doing you a service or a public duty sort of thing - but he should really have shown more interest than that...

So probably that's just what he considers sex to be...

[Randomnumbers]

I'm starting to think this is the correct thought to have. I did ask him. He was making s move on me but very slow and I didn't really want to play games. It could have been any guy, he wasn't special at all. Funny he could be thinking he's doing me a public service. Lol. I had a guy friend tell me that men who are only children tend to be a bit more selfish than others... Just a thought.. thanks for the advice.

[NerdInDenial]

I guess that is the male equivalent of the female dead fish. Maybe, you should tell him to try different positions.

[Randomnumbers]

I honestly thought to do this but he's not my boyfriend. Considering the sex and everything surrounding it, I'd say it was a one night stand. Should I call and let him know what I think if the while situation or leave it at us ignoring and avoiding each other? Lol

[Jmikey118]

Wow really seems like he just cared to get himself off

[Randomnumbers]

Thanks for the advice. I'm starting to think that the more women I see come in and out lol

[Jmikey118]

Lol yea just a douchebag

[Randomnumbers]

A major one lmao. I just hoped that I was not the problem. Maybe this is a normal thing for him. I wonder now do the other women have this problem with him... Did I dodge the bullet?

[Jmikey118]

Lol Well it definitely doesn't sound like u would be benefiting an anyway so

[tyber1]

He is bad at sex, that's the long and short of it

[Randomnumbers]

Sometimes life is simple like this. Hahaha

[tyber1]

Lmao let it be some other poor girls problem/regret. You can do better.

[Polocrew]

Lol if you ever had sex with someone other than him you'd know 3-5 mins in pretty average time OP but yea not in same position

[Randomnumbers]

I've had sex before. 3 minutes is not normal in my opinion. I will say I've been spoiled sexually in the past so to me 3 minutes is not normal unless it's a quickie. And it literally wasn't even 3 minutes... More like 2. No joking. But yeah the same position thing is what made me realize it was such a short time lol.

[BobTrees]

Did his size feel good at all? Or the actual pumping?

[Anonymous]

and does?

Missionary again? Is there more to this story?

[Randomnumbers]

He did the exact same missionary position with not even the bare minimum enthusiasm. I almost feel like I forced him to have sex again. He then tells me that he stopped because he thought I came. Some excuse...

[Opinion Owner]

I guess he's just selfish, if he's able to get a different women every night (and he doesn't really care about them) I guess he's never had to worry about pleasing them or being attentive. I can only speculate... what you've described isn't something I've ever done with a girl...