Why does my boyfriend take so long to finish?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, mostly. We're in a long distance relationship so we only see each other about once a month, usually for a couple days at a time. My boyfriend has such a high sex drive that when we do see each other all he wants is sex the whole time. The sex is great, although we only use about four positions on a consistent basis, and he has no trouble getting me to climax several times fairly quickly. However, when it comes to him, he takes absolutely forever. We usually go at it for an hour to an hour and a half before he maybe finishes vaginally, but most of the time ends up getting it done orally. Giving him a blowjob results in my jaw and hands getting tired way before he finishes (and I know for a fact that it's not my technique that's the problem). By the time he finishes, I am so sore all over and don't want sex again for the days, although I usually give in due to our time restraints. Sometimes it gets to the point where I'm lightheaded, dizzy, and feel like shit, but he's not finished yet so I struggle through. But unlike most guys, as soon as he finishes he's ready to go again and I'm the one who just can't handle it and needs recovery time. We've talked about this before and he says it's gonna take time and practice but I don't want "longevity practice." I want a normal sex life where I enjoy every minute, not the first 45 minutes and look at the clock or let my thoughts wander for the next 45. Sometimes I just want a quickie before we grab lunch or something! What do I do?

[broadsword]

This is not easy to discuss and your very brave bring it up. Lots of women love the quickey. It shows desire and passion. One I used to love was a girlfriend licked being taken over the Kitchen sink as she was trying to do the dishes with the gloves on. She loved the desperation of it.

Is your guy circumcised if not then he may of trained himself to hold back but that's unlikely as you have spoken to him.

[AustinMan]

Are you doing lots, meaning hundreds, of Kegels each day? If you'll develop your vaginal muscles so you can squeeze him and do some other tricks, that should help.

How about anal? Is that something you'd do? Has he brought it up? That's where I finish the easiest. Maybe he's the same way but is afraid to ask for it.

[Asker]

Because we are in a LDR, my vaginal muscles are always tight for him because I don't do anything on my own time. We have tried anal successfully before, but (after that) I was abused by a guy at a college party once and though I have tried for him, I just can't do it again.

[SarahsSummer]

Even though you've given an extensive amount of blow jobs in your life, he may require a different technique. Hold his balls, finger his bum, go deep, fast, slow, just mouth, mouth and hand, mouth and two hands, hum into it ask him to face fuck you. etc. They all require different things.