Why do men objectify women?

Question

Like, what if you're a nice person and good girl but men keep objectifying you? 
Why do men choose to see some girls as objects for sex and not people? 
I dont know if im wronge, but i feel like when a guy objectfies me and gets upset or angry that im not returning his sexual advances, that he doesn't care about me as a person. When a guy imapatiently seeks sex from me its the hugest turn off, and he looks at me like a object. 
Am I wronge for feeling this way? I can't tell if a man likes me as a person anymore, like in working situations or if they just look to get laid and want to toss you away. I hate it because some women are ok with that and im obviously not but they still seek me out. I just want a boyfriend :(

Calex · Accepted Answer

Just because a guy wants to have sex with you, does not mean he is using you as a sex object. Sex is an instinct in many animals and humans.

Well, if you don't show signs of caring about him, he'll be upset. Anyone would, right? It's not just sex. If he asks you to feed his cat or dog, and you did not, he'll be upset.

Prove that he looks at you like an object. Does he tell you "Hey, you look like an object in my eyes right now" - It could be as simpe as this: He wants to have sex with you as a human being.

If he wanted to have sex with an object, wouldn't he just have to buy a sex toy? It's very simple. I'm not sure why you wouldn't understand this.

What makes you think that just because a guy will have sex with you, he will toss you away? Are you sure about this? Has this happened to you? Perhaps he will, you know, have sex with you and then stay with you?

Women use men to be protected? Protected from what, and why? Didn't you just rant about how you hate that men use you for sex, but yet think it's okay to use men to be protected, or for money even?

If he can't help her have a good family life most will leave? Okay, what if men would leave if you could not help his sex life?

Equality is a no brainer. I don't think you want equality, though, judging from your post.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

When a woman rejects me sexually I feel rejected as a man. She sees me as a helper object or a listen-to-her-problems object. She doesn't really want -me-

If a guy who hasn't gone on a date with you wants sex and is upset you say no he's just frustrated and acting odd. He only wanted sex.

But even a boyfriend focused guy who is interested in dating you will take outright sexual rejection hard. Deferment - you saying you want him but it's too soon - is a different scenario. At least for s while.

BellePepper · Accepted Answer

Some of it is societal and some of it is personal. There have been several studies that show people objectify women. Like one shows that when people look at a random man the part of their brain that recognizes people lights up, but when they look at a random woman the part of the brain that recognizes objects lights up. Very discouraging.

And as you can see from the comments the personal choices of the men overflow into this problem as well.

You are not wrong for valuing yourself as a person. The men who are treating you as less than a person are wrong.

I think that everyone sort of struggles with discerning the motives of people when they want to date. You just have to learn from your past and do your best in the future.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

... oh sorry what? Why do some men choose to see some girls as objects for sex and not people? Same reason some women do the same to men. Boost to the ego, a bit of fun. Personal gains. If the right boys aren't seeking you out, what's stopping you from stepping up to the plate?

pr3ttybr0wn · Accepted Answer

Some guys prefer to seek out good girls for sex it's more of a challenge than a woman who is already promiscuous. Sadly there's nothing you can do about it except keep your guard up and hope you pick the right guy.

AustinMan · Answer

When you lust after a person, anyone's natural tendency is to objectify them in some ways. I believe that you have scoped out the physical attributes of men in the same way men check out the ladies. The animal in us that takes over as we get nearer and nearer to sex is just a consequence of being human.

Men are very, very visual. This really can't be overstated. It's genetic and instinctual. We are turned on by what we see. That leads naturally to some objectification.

Do I like it? Yea. I'm a guy it's what we do but I feel like men should get the benefit of the doubt and given a chance to show that we see beyond the pretty face and the nice rack.

Berethor · Answer

You can be almost sure about one thing, at lest they are attracted to you, on the physical level. Men who are looking for one night stand, almost don't care about the women personality.

Dargil · Answer

It is how we are wired.,,.. reproductive strategy.
Girls lean toward situations and feelings leading up to sexual encounters. Its why so many of your questions ask what something "means".
Guys lean toward sexual attractiveness... attitude, body language and physical assets as prerequisites to sexual encounters, This does not mean we both don't have a mix of both but it is where we start from. First impressions: "She's Hot!" "He's sweet!" The challenge is to fill out a successful relationship from these starting points.
Two undeniable, eternal truths. We moderns try to say the equation is different now, but it is only because we are forcing them. Once we get away from artificial mass media and social influences, these things are true,
1. Women will give sex to get intimacy.
2. Men will give intimacy to get sex.
3. Sex is something women possess and men want.

rjroy3 · Answer

Objectification is going to happen. How it's done is the only thing that differs.

So. Why does it happen? Guys have dicks and find you sexually appealing. Why do you seem to only run into the guys who are obnoxious about it? Probably something to do with the places you go out to party.

The thing about Objectification, it's not that they don't see you as a person. It's that they're appreciating the physical aspects of who you are.. something that's very human and healthy to do in a relationship. Great for the self esteem

NerdInDenial · Answer

Why do you need a boyfriend?

Eugene · Answer

We're attracted to looks. Looks is the very first thing we notice.

CasaNorba · Answer

humanitarian instincts, it been going on since the beginning of time. dont know if you seen any ancient Greek, Egyptian, Persian, Roman statues or any of their hieroglyphics. the majority of them have women with their breast hanging out and beyond.

anyways, women do this too just so you know. and you best believe i'm talking from experience

genericname85 · Answer

It's totally normal to somewhat objectifie in sexual relationships. I mean you can't physically have sex with her character.

badboy666 · Answer

I think men see woman as objects, sure. I see my girlfriend as a sex object. And as a hiking object. And as a cuddling object. And as a chatting object. And as a sharing object.

Just because a guy sees you as someone to have sex with, doesn't mean he doesn't see you in other ways too. Though I suppose it does not mean he does.

TheHooptyMiata · Answer

I don't objectify women. I fuck them and toss them away after, yes, but that's not objectifying you, that's just being promiscuous.

WhyLieHonestGuy · Answer

Because they want to look cool to their guy friends. I don't know if the same goes for other guys, but I personally find an actual relationship just as fulfilling as sex, and generally enjoy being alone with the one I'm with regardless of what we're doing. In fact, I'd say I get off on their getting off. I can't even enjoy an intimate relationship if the other involved party isn't happy.

takumii · Answer

Because women are okay with it in most instances.

ThisAndThat · Answer

I'll speak for myself. I wouldn't go for a girl for sex if there wasn't anything beyond sex. She has to be attractive enough for keeps or no deal. However on the other hand on the flip side there's plenty of women who objectify men too especially when it comes down to money fame or success.

ArtDent · Answer

That's cool. Women don't like men at all. It's all about what we can do for them.

Polocrew · Answer

So when you see a hot tall jacked athletic guy, sex don't pop up once in your mind? Not once? Don't fraud Op

MarkTwain · Answer

See you have to understand that sex is the ultimate goal, in any relationship for the guy. I feel like you want to be needed but not just for sex, I think most women feel the same way. Just start telling people you are waiting to have sex till marriage, that will weed out some, than when you know for sure he is into to. be like well you know I lied about one thing, let e show you

TotallyAlmost · Answer

This is ridiculous. Women objectify women much more so than men. Look at the magazine rack. So many of you are in a race to tart yourselves up it's just silly.