Really it is up to you
If you plan on telling him remember that for the next 18+ years the EX will be very involved in your life, pretty much deciding everything you can do.
Even saying how far away from him that you can live (even putting legal restrictions on living with in X miles)
He can or can not come to a financial support agreement
If you don't want any of that you and a lawyer can bring legal documents
One he signs where you are wanting his support in raising a kid , and he won't put any restrictions on your future living arrangements or locations
The second he signs saying he will not be required to provide any support and you do not want him in the future (removing him from all obligation)
or the abortion option, you don't need his permission
Can you imagine how it feels to be a guy and to never be told about something like this until it is too late?
What could he do anyways? Nothing. Better off not knowing.
@Matchmaker7072 Obviously, you have never been in the position to discover, after the fact, that you had fathered a child that had been aborted. She says, " I don't want a child and he probably won't either." That means she has no idea how he feels about this child. "What could he do?" He could talk to her, try to persuade her to have the child, perhaps he has relatives who would adopt the child. Every woman who ever has an abortion says, beforehand, "I don't want a child." Do you know how many women live with guilt the remainder of their lives because they had an abortion? We are talking about a human life and this decision should not be made with such cavalier attitudes!
You misunderstand. I agree with you. If you read what she has to say she is clearly the type that doesn't give a rats ass what he has to say. If there was the smallest chance that she would reconsider I'd say talk to him about it.
You're not dating anymore, and since you're getting an abortion, there won't be a baby to consider. Plus, you don't have a good relationship with him, and that could make things stressful. That's the last thing you need while dealing with an unplanned pregnancy. I don't see any reason why you are obligated to tell him. If you feel like it's the right thing to do, go ahead, but if you don't feel right telling him, don't do it.
Look, its up to you, but abortions cost money! You shouldn't have to pay for an abortion on your own, he played a role in getting you pregnant he should help pay the cost of taking care of it.
If you're in a toxic relationship and no longer have any relation, then no. However If you feel like he should know and he wouldn't try to change your decision then sure tell him.
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Yeah, it's only fair that you tell him, but also get the hell out of that toxic relationship.
What makes it "only fair"? She's getting an abortion so he won't be affected by the situation one way or another.
@samhradh_leannan It's his child...
@TheHooptyMiata But it's not going to be a child. Is there really any point getting him involved?
Yes you should.
But, why are you in a toxic relstionship?
Get outtt
You should tell him, be honest. Just inform him that you're having an abortion. Don't keep the conversation long though.
It is not up to your family, it is up to you.
You have made your choice, stick to your guns.
Using abortion as birth control is wrong in my opinion.
Yes tell him
It is his child and he should have the right to know. All you have to do is try. If he isn't interested in meeting up and talking about it it is his loss and you tried. Don't do it online or over text.
Up to you to decide. You're a free woman. Get and stay out of toxic relationships.
Just tell him! He can't control your decision especially with how politics are today
I'd figure so, he may be your ex, but it's his kid growin in ya.
Yes, you should tell him. That baby is a part of him whether you like it or not. I suppose it really depends on your character
Tell him after. He has nothing beneficial to offer in this situation Last thing you need is a toxic guy manipulating you to consider otherwise.
yes especially if you plan on having an abortion... dont hide something that serious no matter if its your ex or not.
If you are planning to end a life that came. from him, the least you owe him is to let him know.
Nope. It's not his decision and you've made the choice.
What's your family's motivation? To make your ex feel like shit? To cause him pain?
If you are already planning on getting an abortion his opinion clearly doesn't mean anything. I say just do it...
By that I mean what you were planning on doing and move on.
don't tell him
yes tell him cause if you kill his kid without him knowing he might kill you when he does find out better off telling him
There's no reason for him to know, since you're having the termination anyway. Your family are idiots and you can tell them I said so.
i agree
What's the point? Neither of you care about murdering a baby will telling him change that?
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