Wife cheated, got pregnant, got abortion now wants to get back?

I have been having this problem with my wife for over four months now. My wife had an affair with this black guy and when she found out she was pregnant she left me and moved in with the black guy. When I found out she cheated on me with a black guy and got pregnant I was a little surprised. The reason being we are both Latin's and she told me when we first met that she preferred light skin latinos to dark ones. Also, on Facebook she has pictures of our daughter showing off her blue eyes and fair hair. My wife and her boyfriend only lived together like a week but they eventually broke up. We never got a divorce because I kept begging her to take me back. When I finally accepted that we were over she became more friendly and even told me she got an abortion. A week ago she told me we should not get a divorce and get back together. She told me my daughter wants me to live with them again. Now that time has pass, I think I want a divorce. I feel I would humuliare myself going back to a woman that cheated on me. Also, sex would feel painful. I will constantly wonder if the black guy is bigger than me. What should I do?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Forget about the other guy and what is endowments. Plus you kept mentioning he was black. I wasn't sure what was up with that.

    For her being a partner that ship has sailed. Clearly her ability to make good choices is about zero. Not only did she cheat on you, she did not use adequate birth control and probably no condom which could have put you at risk for STDs (you better get checked). Then she gets pregnant and aborts an innocent child when she could have avoided getting pregnant in the first place.

    Basically she is at this moment in a morally corrupt place. This requires major therapy even if she doesn't get back together. At this point your concern should be is she in a good place to take care of your daughter.

    You all can do couples counseling but I don't think it will get you any where except the therapist is going to tell her she needs extended therapy. The best thing you can do for your daughter is go get therapy for yourself so you can get your head on straight to be a good day.

    Worry about the size of his penis is the least of your worries. I think what is in your head is him hitting in hard with your wife. One she did that she became a memory in your past.

    • I have a typo in the middle.

    • Probably if you do get back together you will fight a lot. My marriage ended not because of cheating. Toward the end we were fighting a lot which neither us like to do. After our break up my daughter saw something on my phone about a divorce support group. I hadn't made the decision to divorce even though we were separated. She told me you both are adults so you can do what you want to do but I think it is in both of your best interests not to get back together again. She was 14. If you decide to end the marriage just reassure your daughter that you will be there for her and back it up with actions. Our kids are not privy to our problems with our spouses and they shouldn't be. They don't know how bad things get nor sometimes their parent's dirty secrets. You can't stay together because your daughter wants it. Your wife made a choice without you to implode your marriage. She didn't come to you and say I'm attracted to another man and I am afraid I'm going to cross the line. In in instant she acted as if she was a single person. She wasn't thinking about you and clearly not thinking about your daughter. What keeps many people from crossing that line is envisioning the looks of pain on their husband's face and the face of their children.

  • Dont get back with her. She cheated on you. That is enough to end things. The only thing I would consider is the child but if your daughter is old enough to know what is going on then It is alright. But just dont. She probably only wants you for security in money and a house. Divorce her and file for custody of the child. DONT GET BACK WITH HER. she cheated.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Nope, not chance would I take her back. Move on to a happier life. She will cheat again and you deserve better.

  • Stop talking about how he's black and your Spanish that dont matter never get back with cheater

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  • Simple. Divorce her.

  • Do whats best for the both of you...

  • Divorce her

  • In my opinion I would not get back with her based on what I read, but at the end of the day you have to go with your gut

  • Divorce.

  • lol basic bitch dude leave her in the dust

  • Don't be a cuck.

  • Don't be a pushover.