Why he wants Anal so badly?

[Anonymous]

Right i met this hot guy off tinder and we kind of arranged a casual friends with benefits realtionship between us before meeting as we both agreed on having casual sex and established the fact that we are not particularly looking for a relationship right now... He took me out for drinks the first time and after that he invited me to his and we had amazing sex all night, probably 4 times total and he made me come twice and really hard (unlike many other guys i met) and he let me stay the night at his and in the morning he was very nice to me and i left... then he was really excited about meeting me again and after a couple of days he asked me to go to his place and have sex, which i did! I went to his place and we had sex again all night and he put the effort again and made me come many times and in the morning he was all nice and we also spent a lot of time talking, getting to know each other, asking personal questions and cuddling in the night... then the third time we met, again a few days later he invited me to his and then we had sex and he asked me if i want to do anal, to which i refused and i said no... after i left, few days later he texted me and asked me if i want to go to his place and to have sex, but this time we would have to do anal and he even told me that there's no other way around it and he wouldn't change his mind on this... He said he wouldn't want to have sex with me anymore unless i let him try anal once... i completely refused and told him that i have no desire to try anal and he has been texting me almost every day since then trying to convince me and change my mind... Why is it such a big deal? Why he is willing to sacrifice our casual relationship just to have his anal? Its so weird...

[OrionRose]

I would never do anal (or any kind of sex for that matter) with someone who I did not trust to respect my boundaries. For many guys, it's a trust and control thing. As the receiver, you're in an extremely vulnerable position. So vulnerable that because of the nature of anal, you can get physically hurt if your partner is not respectful of your feelings and boundaries. This guy does not sound respectful at all.

The reason why so many women wait to do anal until their in a committed relationship is because it is a sex act that takes patience, trust and care. What is shown in porn had completely misconstrued the practice in the minds of many men. I have read articles and interviews from current and ex porn actresses and actors talking about the job related injuries surrounding anal. Not something a guy thinks about when he's jacking off but those people are professionals and injury (sometimes long term) is a risk of a job they're getting paid for.

I would not engage this man. He is using you with little to no consideration of your needs. If you only want a fuck buddy, find one that respects the buddy part

[Wanderingheartbeat]

What a fucken twit.
Don't let someone force you to do something you dont want.
Tell him your ass hole is precious and made of gold and if he put his dick in there he's gonna fucken ruin it.
He wants to do anal so badly because he's just into that kind of "shit." (No pun intended)
Text him,
"The sex was great. But not " that" great. Bye."
And never message him again.
And a way a guy seduces a woman into doing shit for him is by being super sweet.
He kept doing all that awesome stuff to you so he can fuck your asshole forcefully.

[Asker]

he is such piece of shit! i told him i have never had anal sex and i would keep it for someone special, like long term boyfriend or husband... yes i am guessing he was performing well in bed and was being sweet to me so he can get me to have anal sex with him... maybe he is just using me because he has never tried anal before? i am really upset about this whole thing and never had a guy saying anal or no sex at all...

[Wanderingheartbeat]

Yeah; most guys who do hookups are fucken using you. That's why I don't do hookups. Sexis great but in the end it's empty, its a disaster because the person you had that intimate relationship with doesn't even cafe about you. Save that for someone who you trust; someone who you know will cuddle you and love you and want to have fucken kids with you and get old and wrinkly together. Screw him!

[Wanderingheartbeat]

Even care about you*

[Asker]

yes he doesn't deserve it at all!!! he doesn't appreciate the things i do for him and the fact that i am one of the few girls that are willing to have just casual sex without expecting anything in return or even a relationship... I think he is just a user and wants to see what he can get out of this... because he would fuck me in the ass and eventually disappear and i would live with regrets and these horrible memories and feel used... i would definitely save it up for someone that i love and thats what i said to him...

[Wanderingheartbeat]

Good job sister. Amen to that. High freaken to the five! Ditch his ass!

[Asker]

yes i told him to go fuck himself...

[Wanderingheartbeat]

Tell him to stick his dick up his own asshole! :D

[Asker]

hahahah good one sista~! i love this one

[Wanderingheartbeat]

Take care!!

[Asker]

thank you, just sad that most men are assholes now days and all they want is use and abuse :(

[Wanderingheartbeat]

Yeah I feel yah; most guys just wanna fuck. But honestly not all guys. I know really good men. My brother is one of em.

[Asker]

i know but its very difficult to find a decent men... i am honestly fed up... your brother is one in a million case...

[Wanderingheartbeat]

Just like we are living in a time to find good women. :( One thing I learned growing up and is very important to my beliefs is that, "Good men are for good women, and bad men are for bad women." People get what hey deserve. So strive to be a good hearted person and goodness will come to you. What you seek is seeking you.

[Cmasterson]

"we would have to do anal and he even told me that there's no other way around it and he wouldn't change his mind on this" I would say bye and never contact him again, he can't respect your boundaries then he's not worth it. I'd tell him that him telling me I have to is screwed up, that it's not mutual, perhaps you'd be more open to it on your own time but now even vaginal sex would seem scary solely because I think he would try to stick it in your ass without your consent. If he's holding sex against you he's definitely not worth it.

[Anonymous]

i think he just wants it real bad since the beginning but he just held back to not make u run away, i dunno what to say... if you want to keep that relationship maybe you could do it, i mean i don't think it's that bad i never tried coz i am virgin but i just know some girls love it so much, i mean he seems to be a nice guy i suppose, maybe to please him i dunno

[timbergag]

You are right and everyone else is right that he should just get the idea that you don't want it, and be OK with that.

However... you seem to have sexual chemistry with him. You say he makes you cum. You say he puts in the effort.

If you're not completely opposed anal, maybe you should try it with him? Not because he wants to, but because maybe he knows what he's doing and can show you how great anal sex is.

He would have to go slow, though, use lots of lube, and make you feel comfortable about it.

[Asker]

yes unlike many other guys, i do have a strong sexual chemistry with him and most of the time i wouldn't even come if its a one night stand, with him i am able to come many times and we do get along and talk a lot, plus he is not sleeping around and hasn't been an asshole to me really except the anal part. I am willing to try but i am afraid what if he disappears after that? like he got what he wanted and then he is off to find someone else or just simply lose interested in me...

[timbergag]

There are never any guarantees. You can never make anyone stay. He might not be interested in you anymore if you don't try anal with him; or you might do it, and like you say, then he might disappear because he got everything he wanted. So, you need to get out of this what you want for yourself. This could be sticking to not trying anal; or it could be exploring with someone. But think of yourself first, and don't be afraid.

[mar47]

I think a guy shouldn't beg a girl especially for sex because it makes him seem needy as fuck. And I don't think you should ever ask a girl for anal. I believe it's one of those things that you just try to do gradually without mentioning. Like trying fingering and if she enjoys it take it from there. I think he fucked up because he's practically begging you.

[Asker]

yes you are absolutely right! he definitely fucked up by asking me too soon and he is literally beginning me almost every day and hoping that i changed my mind... i would be up for anal if his approach was different and if he really put the effort into pleasing me, not ask for it on our 3rd fuck date. he doesn't appreciate the fact that i am having sex with him without any obligations or expectations because not many girls would do that...

[AustinMan]

It's a fetish of his. Why are you so adamantly opposed?

[Asker]

i am not against it i just dont think its appropriate to ask a woman so early, its been 3 fuck dates only plus anal is mostly for couples and long term relationships and it requires patience because it takes time to practice and to make anal go well...

[AustinMan]

I suggest you tell him just that though I don't know that it's restricted in the ways you mentioned. Once you learn the skill, it's transferable. Here're some tips in case it's new to you or hasn't gone well before:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a6855-comfortable-anal-sex-for-beginners-a-guide-to-the-first-time

[KawaiiPie67]

I'd only do anal if a guy let me use a strap on on him. srsly.

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 To each her own. That makes it sound like essentially you don't want to do it so don't but sex isn't a tit for tat game.

[KawaiiPie67]

Y shouldn't he know what it feels like too? The anus isn't self lubricating like the vagina, so it'd probably take a lot of work and lube just for him to be able to penetrate. Sex isn't tit for tat, which is why guys should be more understanding. If he wouldn't do it, don't ask me to.

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 You just contradicted yourself, saying another way it is tit for tat. If you don't want to do it, just say so. Don't put a condition on it.

[KawaiiPie67]

Yep. I'd totally tell him I wouldn't.

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 Just out of curiosity, why?

[KawaiiPie67]

Honestly, I like the idea of anal, since it's in porn so much. It does look hot. But... I don't like how he'd demand it, or how it'd all be for his pleasure. Those things R really annoying to me. Like I'd have to use all this lube, get all the practice, all 4 his dick?

[KawaiiPie67]

Like basically, what makes him think I should go 2 that extent all 4 him? Just comes off as a selfish guy, esp. since he wouldn't want to be fucked that way himself.

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 I fully understand. He's a cad for trying to leverage you the way he did. I lost sight of that but now that you've pointed it out, I finally see your point and how you chose to make it. Sorry for being so dull.

Just in case you decide to try it, here're some tips. I am an anal fanatic and my ladies all love it.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a6855-comfortable-anal-sex-for-beginners-a-guide-to-the-first-time

[KawaiiPie67]

A cad lol. I bet U leverage the women U fuck as much as possible. I bet U do xxx rated dirty talk with them and everything. Not that they're not willing; I bet U even get them to flat out ask U to do all that stuff, like even beg for it. I'm curious too, why do U say that guy is inconsiderate, when U make women ur bitches all the time? I can tell from how U wrote this u aren't lying.

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 What I do is fulfill the fantasies of women I'm with and they fulfill mine, willingly and joyfully. It's a win-win situation. It sounds like you may be a little envious. ;)

[KawaiiPie67]

Envious? I've nvr been with a guy into rough stuff b4, so to try would be interesting I guess. U ever fantasized about women dominating U?

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 Not really. I know it's not for me. One of my all time biggest fantasies is to subdue a Domme and make her pay for trying to dominate me and pay she would, long and hard.

[KawaiiPie67]

I thought u might, since u said guys shouldn't take advantage. it came off as a little like wanting femdom.

[KawaiiPie67]

But if u really don't like it, do U get most of your pleasure out of pleasuring the women, or out of dominating them?

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 It's probably 60-40 dominance/sadism and pleasing them.

[KawaiiPie67]

U like causing pain? S' why I don't like rough stuff. I hate pain.

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 Because different kinks for different folks. A lot of women like it all gentle and passionate but some like it rough and a bit painful.

[KawaiiPie67]

Have u ever been with women who like gentle stuff only? U sound serious about the kink thing.

[AustinMan]

@KawaiiPie67 Those women and I are not attracted to each other. I'm messaging with a little more on this topic.

[AustinMan]

Please follow me.

[coolbreeze]

He wants to have anal sex with you so that way he doesn't have to wear a condom.

[Asker]

well he never wore a condom from the beginning... i let him have sex without protection

[coolbreeze]

Thank you very much for the upvote. It just sucks he keeps trying to make you want to try anal. No means no. Also I do agree he is throwing away a good casual relationship. I don't think most guys would complain. I wouldn't.

[Sara413]

You let from random guy you met on tinder fuck you without a condom? That's super risky behaviour.. I would strongly recommend against that in future... I'm not one to shame a person for what they choose to do with their body - hell I've had my fair share of casual sex and one night stands - but do it safely ffs!

[coolbreeze]

Oh ok. My bad. He is throwing away a good thing. Maybe he likes anal better. It could be a fetish thing.

[Asker]

You are welcome! :) yes it sucks and he messages me almost every day trying to convince me to do it... and he said oh please let me try for at least 5 min and i promise i will be very gentle and i will ask to do it only once... i never met a guy who have complained about anal and i have been with lots of players and they would still want to meet me and use me for sex, but this one just shocked me... maybe cause he has other options or?

[Asker]

Well, i dont believe he has any diseases as he showed me his recent std results from the hospital and they were all negative and i am on the pill so i am not at risk... i wouldn't do it with anyone i haven't used protection with a few guys and also this guy is not a player and doesn't sleep around so i dont believe he would have any diseases

[coolbreeze]

Wow he asks everyday. Yeah it must be what he is in to. But still he should never had given you an ultimatum. Like do anal sex or else type of thing. Tbh I don't think he has to many options because why call you everyday and beg. If he had other options he would go and have anal sex with them.

[Asker]

yes even today he messaged me after i cut him off and yesterday he asked me 3 times and we spent like good 2 hours talking about anal and him trying to convince me... he is not a very social person and doesn't go out much, so maybe there's no other girls involved in the background and i dont believe he sleeps around... i told him go fuck someone else in the ass who loves anal, even i offered to find him a girl that would let him try but he refused... he said even if he has anal sex with someone else then he would stll want to fuck me in the ass

[coolbreeze]

Yeah he is being to eager and very persistent about it. I think it's making him want you more because you won't let him have anal sex. And your nice to him offereing to find a girl that is into it. Not a lot if girls would be so helpful. He is trying hard to convince you. And it's like man she already said no and it's like drop it. It has to be a fetish thing and something he likes to do. Having regular sex is way better then anal sex. I dont think he will drop the anal sex topic with you

[Asker]

Do you think he has tried it before? he already had the lube at home first time we met and kind of hinted we should try anal but then the third time he was super persistent about it and even convinced me to finger me to which i agreed... he told he he never tried it before but i dont know if i can believe this if he already had the lube at home... i offered to find another girl because i have no feelings for him and cause it would make more sense to find someone for him who enjoys anal as much as he does, but then he cut me off... i really dont understand why is it such a big deal and he would ask me every day...

[coolbreeze]

I think he figured he could convince you since you was already their. And you allowing him to finger you gave him hope that he might convince you to try it. If he said he never tried it, I don't believe him. I think he had to try it before like you said the lube was out. Maybe it's a fantasy thing to as well as fetish thing to have anal sex. He should had let you find a girl who likes it. At least you was trying to be helpful

[Asker]

yes he probably thought i was easy because i had sex with him on the first date and he probably thought i was really easy and he can use me for whatever he wants... Yes i was trying to be nice and offered him a friend of mine who would do anal but he said no thanks and said even if i fuck a girl in the ass i still want to fuck you in the ass... i dont believe he has other options as he keeps messaging me every day about it... i dont know if its a fetish or fantasy as he told he has never done it.. but even if its a fantasy and i clearly said no then why he keeps trying to convince me... if it was a different guy, he would have moved on already and deleted me off FB

[coolbreeze]

Yeah that is true. He probably did think you was very easy and that he could do anything he wanted with you sexually. True most guys would had moved on and delete your number and take you off facebook, etc. Wow you was even nice enough to offer him one of your friends and he still turned all that down. Shaking my head. I think in his mind he feels he can convince you some way and change your mind. He has to realize when a girl says no the first time then no will never change to yes. Lol I feel he will never let this anal thing go and he will keep asking you and begging you for it.

[KawaiiPie67]

Oh. pls. He's just as 'easy' as asker was... I think he sounds psycho.

[coolbreeze]

@KawaiiPie67. I don't think the point is about being easy or being psycho. When a girl says no. No means no. I would never force a girl to do anything she didn't want to do or something she felt uncomfortable with.

[Asker]

@KawaiiPie67 well strange now he has been messaging me a lot lately and he stopped demanding anal sex and told me that i dont have to do anal anymore for him if i am not comfortable with it... he said he is happy just witht vaginal sex... do u think he is playing some game with me? he said he wants to meet me asap

[KawaiiPie67]

@Asker I think that's exactly what he's doing. I'd stay away from him if I were U.

[coolbreeze]

He sees his way didn't work. I guess its up to you if you still want to have sex with him. He wouldn't let that anal sex thing go. And he was being consistent with it. If you do have sex with him again he might ask you to do something else you may not like.

[kat_gran]

@KawaiiPie67 lol... You make a really good point. He may indeed be a psycho. But hey, if 'asker' is having fun, enjoy it! :D ahha just be careful that he is indeed a psycho. Great sexual chemistry is hard to find. ;)

[Sara413]

He's an asshole and he's trying to see what he can get you to do. It's a game for him.

[Asker]

yes i think he is a classic user and expects me to do everything for him and he is trying to see how much he can use me...

[davidpossey]

lol thats pretty fucking weird its not a guy thing by the way lol thats just his preference this shit was hilarious tho lmao

[Asker]

yes its so weird... something doesn't add up... is he trying to degrade/ humiliate me? he said i should make sacrifices for him...

[davidpossey]

i dont think its a degrading thing because anal sex isn't degrading it might be because he thinks that anal sx is this magical thing and he really wants to experience it if you let him do it once he probably won't want to do it again that bad he would be chill about it or it might be a dominance thing like he wants to dominate you completley

[Asker]

do u think i should let him try then? I am curious about it but i am afraid it would really hurt and then he might just disappear after i let him try anal with me... i think he is obsessed with it because he has never done it and wants to try and see whats like...

[davidpossey]

thats probably the case lol doing it is your choice as a straight guy can't really offer you experince advice but if you are also curious about it you could try it but in your own terms make sure he knows that im betting that shit really hurts so get lots of lube

[Asker]

yes he has the lube already at home and he had it there from the first day we had sex... his penis is quite big so i am guessing it would really hurt and i dont understand why he insist on trying with me cause i told him to go find someone else who enjoys anal and he said even if he fucks someone else he would still want to fuck me in the ass... why me?

[davidpossey]

ok this things is getting creepier lol dam well i have no fucking idea why you maybe he really likes you or he is obssesed with you maybe he made a bet with his friends that he will fuck you in the ass could be tons of things lol before you make a choice tho really think about it if i was a girl i wouldn't let this dude put his dick in my ass lol

[Asker]

yes its so fucking weird, like i dont trust him at all... I am thinking he made a bet with his friends that he would fuck me in the ass or he got fixated on the idea of trying anal and he wants to do with the first girls he finds... maybe its some kind of fetish or? if he really liked me he wouldn't have approached me this way

[davidpossey]

ya dudes sounds pretty creepy lol good luck with that

[Asker]

hhahaha all my friends thnk he is a creepy asshole... whatever the reasons are i wouldn't do it with him... he just wants to use me

[davidpossey]

guess you gonna have to find another guy that makes you cum hard lol

[Asker]

its not so easy... i just really like him and he knows what he is doing... he is one of the few that would make me come so many times.. and i am fed up of sleeping around

[davidpossey]

probably gonna be hard to find a guy with experience but its either that or anal with him

[Asker]

yes and most guys i meet aren't great in bed or interested in trying to be good in bed or would disappear eventually and i know he woulnt sleep around or disappear... i fed up of the process of going on more dates, sleeping around more until i find a guy like him who knows me sexually well...

[davidpossey]

then i guess your gonna let me do it in the butt hole lol

[Asker]

you?

[davidpossey]

lol i meant him

[Asker]

i think it really hurts and i am afraid then he will disappear because he got what he wanted

[davidpossey]

i guess your gonna have to take that risk

[Asker]

maybe... i am still considering it...

[davidpossey]

what ever choice you choose you are gonna learn from it

[Asker]

well u think he is creepy and my friends think the same, so i dont see the point to do it...

[davidpossey]

sleep on it

[Asker]

the whole situation and ultimatum just sucks

[NJ_Casanova]

If he wants it so bad... break out the strap-on and give it to him;-P

[Asker]

hahhaah i actually i said to him it would be fair if i use a strap on him and he told me that i should submit myself to him and put up with the pain and make sacrifices... dont know if he is playing some mind games

[KawaiiPie67]

@Asker he sounds psycho a little.

[NJ_Casanova]

@KawaiiPie67 Me or her BF/husband?

[KawaiiPie67]

Her boyfriend. I agree about the strap on lol

[kat_gran]

@KawaiiPie67 LMAO, kawaii, your comments are cracking me up! lmaoo hahaha I would totally do the same actually! I actually just had sex with this guy - who I ALSO met on Tinder and I was on my period, he then asked me to do Anal and I was like No. Hahah But then we stopped... Next time I see him, I should ask him if will he let me do anal to him! Then if he agrees, maybe i'll agree to be open and try anal with him... But doubt it - cuz Im not really interested in it and it'd have to be someone awesome and great for me to have that type of sex with them... like godly worthy :)

[kat_gran]

He does sound a little psycho too.. I wonder how it went afterwards... Asker, are you guys still 'dating'/'fucking'?

[likelyOK]

That fact that he says your doing it and there is not way around it makes him sound rapey and creepy as fuck. Since he did not respect your answer doing it would only show no respect for yourself

[Supergirl0812]

Cause it feels great and some guys like it more

[Asker]

he told me has never tried it, but why is he willing not to see me anymore just to get his anal sex?

[Supergirl0812]

Honey dump him that's obvious... Trust me lots of guys in the sea or on tinder lol I've probably dated 10 guys from tinder.. You have to do what feels good for you. I'm not gonna lie anal feels great but you have to be open to it and I would suggest you research and try things alone on yourself before letting a guy do anything. He's a waste a time and any guy would kill for causal sex... Move on... Bye next!

[Asker]

yes! You are absolutely right there's plenty of fish in the sea and i have been on so many tinder dates myself and i know how easy it is to get a date... i would do anal if the guy respected me and if his approach was different not literally say to me: anal or u dont see me anymore... like as if i am piece of trash or something... certainly i had more respect from other one night stands and no one has ever been so demanding... time to move on and to meet someone else!!! Bye fucker!

[Supergirl0812]

You are hot shit and if he doesn't get that then he's done. The power lies with the girl always! We have the pussy we make the rules, don't wanna follow it that's okay there are thousands of other guys who will... So next!

[Asker]

yes pussy rules the world and all the men ad if he doesn't appreciate the fact that i give him my pussy then he can fuck off... and he will be all alone and downgrading to some sluts probably

[Supergirl0812]

Yes!

[foxrider77]

You should tell him the only anal you’ll do is pegging him. I’d let you do that. I would get so excited.

[orateagain]

Your friend watches too much porn too. Anal sex should really only be for two who really desire it.

[Asker]

do u think porn is the problem here?

[Intraluminal]

He's weird?

[Thatguy321]

Anal isn't anything great.. you gotta go ducking slow.. I mean yeah it's right but.. Nothing great at all

[Asker]

yes exactly i told him and he said that i should make the sacrifice for him only once...

[Thatguy321]

Fuck that.. sacrifice for letting him fuck you? That's funny.. tell him you wanna try anal too and send him a pic of a strap on, tell him him first and then he can do whatever he wants

[Asker]

yes! he said i dont understand why you making such a big deal about it, i want to do it only once and only for 5 min and i would ever ask again... i just dont understand his motives behind this... i told him that i should fuck him in the ass too with a dildo and he say no no i am not gay

[Thatguy321]

If he can't take no for no then I'd say leave him.. I heard of a girl who told her boyfriend no and he did it when she was drunk and passed out

[Asker]

well he told me that he won't change his mind on this and i have a feeling he might be sneaky about it and might try it when i am drunk... i can't believe he would refuse sex with me unless i let him try anal... so his whole intention from the beginning was to have anal sex with me?

[Thatguy321]

I don't know, if I was him I'd just be trying to get off, he's the one complicating it by "needing" it. I'd say forget him and get back out there looking for someone else

[Asker]

yes he doesn't deserve it at all! i think thats all he wanted from the beginning and i even offered a friend of men who is into anal and i said that he should sleep with her if he is really into anal but then he said even if he has anal with someone else he would still want to have anal with me... persistent motherfucker...

[Thatguy321]

That's creepy.. get away from him

[Asker]

it is creepy... he already had the lube there the first time we met and he was joking that he should get me drunk and have anal with me... but then the last time he was super persistent about it and keeps going on about it every day and told me i should make the sacrifice and let him try only once...

[Thatguy321]

That sounds raperish to be that persistent and not have any control.. maybe he was raped in prison or some shit and this is his way at getting back

[Asker]

yes sounds so weird... he has never been to prison but he keeps going on about it almost every day and he asked me like 3 times yesterday and once today and yesterday he spent 2 hours talking me into it and trying to convince me... maybe he hates women? or wants to treat women like whores and use them? no one has ever been so persistent i even offered to find a girl for him who would be interested in anal sex, but he said even if he has anal with other girls he wants anal from me too

[johnanamoly]

Its not a big deal and he should respect your boundaries. Some women can have amazing orgasms from it, but if you are not into it, then don't do it. Its your body, your choice.

[Asker]

Indeed, i think thats what he was looking for from the beginning and i think if he really respected me he should have given me the time to consider it, like he could have suggested it but not make it a deal breaker... i think he has no respect for me

[BigDog1989]

friends with benefits is for pathetic loser with no lives

also, look up "p-spot". You'll actulaly learn something

[Elliot0_07]

He took the effort to make you cum multiple times, and all he asked for is anal sex and you still denied him? Let him have some goddam anal and stop complaining it!

[Anonymous]

The thing is that you don't have a relationship to risk. He gets to have sex without an relationship and it sounds like he even gets boyfriend benefits like cuddling and talking but again there is no relationship so there isn't anything to risk. He wants anal sex and he can ask for anal sex. If you say no never then he has the right to walk away if he wants.

I personally won't ever do it so if that's a deal breaker for a man that's fine. I'm not going to be convinced to change my mind on that.

[Opinion Owner]

Reading your post you need to go get std tests especially for HIV. Wear a condom.

[Anonymous]

Because if you're not doing anal he might as well move to another girl who will. He had options. He's not gonna spend time on one that doesn't let him fuck her ass

[Asker]

so u think the whole thing about meeting me was to try anal because he is gettingsex from elsewhere and he has options? do u think he was meeting me from the beginning so he can have anal with me?

[Opinion Owner]

On the first part... Depends how fast you had sex second time. Maybe not of it was quick. Yes he wanted everything from the start. Not saying he only likes anal but he wanted to ass fuck you from the start.

[Asker]

second time as great as the first time and he took a lot of time into making me orgasm but he had the lube there already at hoe the first time we met. so i guess all he was hoping to get was anal from the beginning...

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know if anal is the only thing he's hoping to get. But it's one of them. And he's saying its a dealbreaker.

[Asker]

yes he told me he wants to try it only once and he wouldn't make me do it again... i dont understand why is it such a deal breaker for him... he is definitely not a relationship material because he wouldn't ask for it so soon... he said he wouldn't want to meet again unless i let him try once... WEIRD!!!

[Opinion Owner]

You already established this was casual. Why keep seeing a sexual partner you're not Compatible with? He's either never had anal or he's lying. Perhaps both. If he wants to keep seeing you he's going to want to keep doing it some of the time

[Asker]

cause he is really handsome and he fucks me properly and wants to fully satisfy me and i rarely find a guy who is as seal as me and who fucks me the way i expect... i have a quite high sex drive and he does as well...

[Opinion Owner]

I meant why would he keep seeing you if you're not compatible with his desires.

[Opinion Owner]

by the way though I think he may never have had anal. And he's really wanting to try. So he's not going to be monogamous with someone who won't try. He is gonna keep looking till he gets it.

[Asker]

thats what i said to him but he begged me to just let him try once and he said then we would only meet up for normal sex

[Asker]

so u think he is so desperate about this because he has never tried it before and won't stop until he gets it? so if i let him try he wouldn't ask to do it more than once?

[Opinion Owner]

That may all be BS If it's true it depends. If it's really disappointing maybe he will be fine with not having it. If e likes it he's going to want it again.

[Asker]

yes if he likes it he would ask me to do it again and make it a deal breaker again... i dont know if i should really try with him or should i just leave it for someone special?

[Opinion Owner]

Up to you. Depends how interested you are in the idea. Read austinman's mytske on it either way.

[Asker]

i am interested but not as much as him and i feel like i wouldn't enjoy it and he would ask me to do it again in the future... i believe if he wants my ass, he should work hard for it

[Opinion Owner]

Sex shouldn't really be a reward. Buuuuuut I don't disagree with your conversation below n it would be one thing to do this with a guy who you cared about and vice versa A oure hookup is only worth it if you are compatible. He's anal obsessed you're anal-not-too-keen. So it's not gonna work for both of you.

[Asker]

yes thats what i said to him that we both want different things and he kept on insisting ohhhh please just let me do it once and i would never ask u again... to let him try once its not really a big deal but i am not sure if he deserves it, i feel like i am dropping my standards for someone who doesn't deserve it and therefore degrading myself... i really dont get his obsession about this...

[Anonymous]

He wants to feel powerful and probably to brag to his bros. What a twerp...

[Asker]

yes i feel like he is trying to manipulate me into doing stuff that he knows i have never done before... so he can feel special and brag to his mates