I had a threesome with my boyfriend and a friend and now I'm secretly seeing this guy. What should I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I had a threesome with a guy (he told me to decide who was the second guy and I picked up a guy suo hitted on me in the past and whom I had refused because of my boyfriend). 
We had sex and it was mind-blowing. I asked my boyfriend to do it again but he refused. He said he couldn't handle another man with me again.
So I began sleeping with this guy. I know it's wrong, but I couldn't help it. I just wish we could be together, alla three of us. What should I do?

Dragon09 · Accepted Answer

You gotta decide what you really want.

If its your boyfriend... fine break up with the other guy and NEVER EVER mention it all.

If you're longing for this other guy tho you gotta break up with you boyfriend... there is absoluately no reason to tell your boyfriend the whole story. Nobody want to here that.

Pick another reason...
1. "Honey, I'm getting more unhappy in this relationship... I need to finish this."
2. "Honey, I've tried to keep this to myself for a while, I've tried to get past it but I can't. You just don't satisfy me like you used to."
3. "Honey, We need to finish this, I really don't see a future together, I'm sorry."
4. "I'm sick and tired of always having to cook and clear up after you. You say you're a modern man but jeeez, I'm not your mother."

Pick one, or make up your own.

Good luck,

Helpmeplease44 · Accepted Answer

break up with your boyfriend or tell him you cheated and have him dump you, whichever you're more comfortable with.

you're in a relationship - and when he said he didn't want to do the threesome again, you should have respected that instead of deciding oh well, let me just go fuck that guy instead.

So either dump your boyfriend and go date the new guy, or tell him you cheated but express your wishes ( lol ).

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kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

I don't understand why so many posts will give a detailed write-up of how badly they fucked up, then ask what the appropriate next step should be.

Being 'appropriate' was thrown out the window the minute you agreed to let the other guy stick his dick inside of your without running it by your boyfriend first. Whether you knew it was wrong or not is irrelevant because you obviously didn't feel like it was wrong enough to make it stop you from going forth with it.

What you should do? Hmm.. tell your boyfriend that you cheated then ask if he'd be okay in a poly-relationship with this guy who's dick leaves you with zero self-control.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

You Have Opened a smelly can of worms with Including a Fifth Wheel who Now has Turned into a Big... Deal and Ordeal.
You Feel for another Fella and you Really have Two choices, Not "Three"... Either stay with your Honey and no more Funny Or Give your Honey his Walking papers and find out that it Might Not be so Green on the other side of the Frolicking fence.
It just goes to Show one when a couple ends up doing a Threesome, That... Three is not always a Crowd Pleaser and Two is Best from the Rest... Company.
Good luck. xx

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

You couldn't help it?

Yeah its so hard to keep your legs closed.

I would have taken you seriously if you stood on both feet and took responsibility for your actions, by saying you couldn't help it sounds like you're painting yourself as the victim.

Just be honest with your boyfriend.
You did not respect your relationship with him at all.
You decided mind blowing sex was worth risking it all.

I think you should come clean.
It's up to your boyfriend to decide how he wants to move forward

peachblossomluck · Accepted Answer

You need to break up with your boyfriend. He was a dumbass for agreeing to the threesome in the first place. Clearly you aren't satisfied with only him and that is only going to hurt him. So you need to set him free to find someone interested in a monogamous relationship.

dreamspear · Answer

You need to tell your boyfriend that you ignored his wishes and cheating on him. He'll most likely want to break up with you. If it was the other way around and it was your boyfriend sleeping with another girl - how would you react?

There's no real way to make it up to him. You could offer a threesome with another girl, but I doubt that would make a difference - he's still going to feel betrayed. He'd probably, quite understandably, want to break up with you afterwards anyway.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

Break up with your boyfriend. Cheating is wrong, and he would probably break up with you if he knew this was going on.

heywat · Answer

Be with whoever makes you happier. just remember everything you put into your relationship. Good sex can get old and it doesn't always mean you're loved

AustinMan · Answer

Whatever you want to do.

GingerBear · Answer

What you should do is drop the excuses, own up to being a cheating bitch, tell your boyfriend the truth, and don't be surprised when he dumps your untrustworthy ass.
I don't know what you expected people to tell you. Are you hoping people are gonna help you justify what you did? They're not. What you did is awful, you've totally betrayed your boyfriend, and you've shown that you're the sort of person that should stay alone until you can think about someone other than yourself.

SexyStudent · Answer

You should drop your boyfriend because obviously his hold on you is not strong enough for you to have a monogamous relationship

Sara413 · Answer

You're gonna have to choose. You can't just keep sleeping with this guy behind your bf's back.

hellionthesage · Answer

First and foremost you can help it, don't ever try to make excuses for your actions you can help it and you are choosing not to. Second this is why you don't do threesomes. As for what you should do admit to your boyfriend that your cheating on him and then break up with him because you don't deserve to be in a relationship with him (and quite frankly anybody).

LaurenGrace · Answer

Oml.. so boyfriend got jealous and you caught feelings for the other guy and couldnt help but do some sneeking around.
Big no no sweety. youve broken his trust only way from here is to tell him and let him decide your future but i wouldn't keep seeing guy unless boyfriend kicks ends it with you

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You should be honest with your boyfriend about what you are doing.

soberpiper · Answer

If you'd rather keep it that way then go with him... You can also suggest a threeway relationship

DocRim · Answer

I feel so bad for your current boyfriend. Break up with him it's simple.

fauchelevent · Answer

Either tell your boyfriend, break up with the other guy and hope your boyfriend doesn't dump you for being a cheating bitch oooooor break up with your boyfriend and go off with your new prince charming.

Oladeji12 · Answer

better tell him now cause if he finds out from someone else then things are gonna get a little messy

stevie123 · Answer

It sounds like you like sex with the other guy better. Think hard about which one you want, and stay with that one guy. Choose the one that likes threeways.

Spermdumster666 · Answer

Forget them both as any future relationship with either of them is doomed because of your infidelity and also would you really want to be with a guy who thinks so little of himself and you that he has sex with you while your boyfriend watches or a guy who love you so little and is such a magina cuckold that he willingly shares you with another man?