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Would you have an MMF threesome in exchange for a FFM threesome?

My girlfriend knows my #1 fantasy, as most guys, is 2 girl threesome. She is bisexual and has done this type of thing in the past, but I never have. She has been in MFF, and FFF threesomes. I may be a little jealous that she has experienced this and not me, but I would love for this to happen. We have talked about it several times. At first she said she would be open too it, then later changed her answer to say that only if we did a MMF threesome too. Which kind of ruins it for me. I get it, it's hypocritical of me to ask her for another woman to join us, and not be down with another guy, but I can't help it. I am completely straight, and I wouldn't enjoy anything about it. Maybe if I didn't see it, but even then I don't know... The thing is, it is kind of different experience for the two of us. She likes girls, is attracted to them, and has been with them sexually, and she would enjoy another woman just as much as I would. It would be more like us both having sex with the same girl. I would even be willing to avoid penetration. The thing about another guy is I would hate everything about it, where as she would get to enjoy both of us, but I would find no thrill in another guy being there. And with another guy, penetration is really the only option. She has had threesomes with past boyfriends. Why am I different? I am completely fine with only her for the rest of my life, but the thing is she has a lot of kinks, and I try really hard to fufill them whatever they may be, but this is really my only "thing". I'm not very kinky. Sure I enjoy the stuff she asks me to do to her, but it's not my kink, it's hers. This is the number one thing I have always wanted. Am I being selfish? And idiot? Or maybe even mature about all of this? What do you guys/girls think?
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  • I would never do that. That reminds me. One of my first girlfriends when I was 15, and we were all drunk, said that she would make out with her best friend girl, if I would make out with my best friend guy. Just typing the words makes me uncomfortable. But, naturally, no fucking way. I say because that's sorta similar. Doing something pretty gay in order to do something awesome.

    I really don't think it's hypocritical dude. Maybe it would be if she wasn't into girls, and if she had the same aversion to doing things sexually with girls as you do with guys. But she loves girls. It's kinda fucked up for her to admit that she's had a MFF threesome before, then that the only way she would have one with you is if you also had a MMF one. in my opinion, that's the hypocritical part. I don't understand why she would be averse to it only with you, but had several in the past.

    There is no reason a bisexual woman who has had a threesome before and also loves women would give you that kind of alternative. Only reason I can think of is that she really doesn't want one--for some reason with you, perhaps she values you more than her past boyfriends and doesn't want to take the chance that you'll hit it off with the girl--and she's giving you an impossible means to get a MFF as a means to basically just say "no'. I'm not sure. That's weird to me.

    Literally every single thing anyone does is selfish. We can only approach reality from the self. Even things done that are so-called "selfless" are not "selfless". The only reason anyone does anything is to receive a benefit of some sort. For instance. If you actually did go through with an evil threesome, but you absolutely hated it and really didn't want to do it, but decided to do it for her--it would be a selfish thing to do, because.

    People tend to use "selfish" as a synonym for "bad". Selfishness is not all bad. There are a lot of good selfish actions. So yes. You're being selfish. But so is she. The question is which one of you is being unfair. And that all depends on her real feelings on a threesome with you and another girl, in my opinion.

  • I wouldn't want to spoil the memory of the two sisters...

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  • I would not be interested in participating in a MMF of MFM threesome. I'mt not overly keen to have to deal with two dicks at once, plus my boyfriend has expressed feelings similar to your own. That he doesn't like the idea of there being another dick around him, nor one other than his own being inside of me or my mouth.

    You're not being selfish or an idiot. It's something you're simply not interested in, for one reason or another.

    That's true that agreeing to participate in something you're not truly into only under the conditions that she do something for you. Especially in circumstances like threesome, where it could very well end up being a dealbreaker and lead to fights/potential break-up.

    • Yeah, I might just have to get over it... :( Guess I just thought that might be one of the perks of a bisexual girlfriend. I could care less if she wanted to fuck another woman, but I don't think I could handle another guy. Would you be open to a FFM threesome with your guy? Or maybe have you already?

    • mhmm. I don't think you should settle on something as big as a threesome that you're either not interested in for yourself, or bothered about how your girlfriend will participate with the others in it. That's a huge thing to meet in the middle on. I'd be open to a FFM threesome with my boyfriend. We haven't done it yet, but it has come up in discussion. When he said that he'd be hesitant with a MFM or MMF threesome because he's not into dicks, plus doesn't want another guy inside of me. He's fine with FFM, though I wouldn't want him going into another girl or even going down on her. So... I think threesomes of any sorts are just not in the cards for us. :P

    • Yeah, I'm not really that dead set on it. Just thought I might try to make it happen before i get married and what not... but I'm fine without it. I love her. And hey, she will at least take me out to the strip club so that's more than other dudes girl's would do for them. I understand her reasons for not wanting to do it. She has tried with BF's in the past, but said she cares about me a lot more than her exes, and doesn't really like the idea of sharing me with another girl. Maybe I can just convince her to hook up with another girl and let me watch. That might be cool, and who knows could lead to more... ;) I will not keep my hopes up though, ha!

  • Although i am open-minded... a threesome has NEVER been a fantasy of mine. ONE man is enough for me, not just any man though. Only the guy i love !

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  • MMF has to be something you are on board with and prepared for. I have done MMMF with my husband and two other guys. My husband insisted that there be zero male-male contact, but enjoyed seeing me get pleasure from multiple men. How we did it was spit roast style and I also rode my husband while jerking and sucking two of his buddies. We finished with all three of them cumming on my boobs. I want to do it again and would also do a FFM, but don’t need anything in return.

  • I had been bi for many years. Once in a chatroom called "Find your threesome," I saw a feminine user name. I asked what's a "NAME" doing in a bi married men's forum? She replied, "Looking for a man for my husband." That was exciting. We met and I moved in with them in 1998. We stayed together 4 years until her husband, "our" husband, cheated on us with gay guys. We stayed together as a couple. He's now half of an M/M couple.

    Since the swinging days, I've always loved the bi threesome. I've had one-on-ones with men (even our husband when we were home alone and horny) but my greatest pleasure is in the MMF threesome. I love sloppy seconds, sharing a cock with her, licking her clit as she's being fucked, guiding a well endowed man into her pussy and sucking a cock while I'm balls deep in her. I don't seek a guy for single sex. We've been together since 1998 - 22 years now.

    So, we're not always in a threesome. I like the extra excitement I feel when we share past experiences as we have couples sex. We had a well endowed black friend for many years. To help me get off, I ask her to tell me how it felt taking his much larger cock.

    I think my story just illustrates how different we all can be. My "bi" is different from the next guy.

    Hope all goes well with you and thank you to all the other bi guys who commented.

  • I miiiight would do MFM to get FFM, but it wouldn't be with my girlfriend.

    • yeah, that is kind of how I am feeling about the whole situation.

    • Yeah I couldn't do it. Even if me and my girlfriend was in a open relationship I just couldn't watch her bang another dude. Now if it's just some chick then yeah sure.

    • Yeah, I have contemplated a compromise where I get my FFM and she can sleep with 1 guy/girl as long as I never know about it, hear about it, or see it. But I still think that might not work out. I think I would always "know" about it, and it would fuck me up. Guess, I'll just have to be a one woman man.

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  • No. I'm strictly monogamous.

  • Yeh I might consider that.

  • No, because I'm just not particularly interested in having a threesome, regardless of the sexes of both partners.

  • I would do a mmm, mfm, fmf three somes because I am bi

  • I might.

    • I mean, it sounds like a fair trade.

  • Agree to the MMF is she promises to someday do a ffm. I've done both of them with my wife.

    • Fug that. I would only do the FFM first. Not having her back out last minute... ha! That being said. Were you into the idea of a MMF before? Did you feel jealous? Was the dude bigger than you? Did you go in with reservations and come out saying that wasn't so bad... Also, how did she react to both the MMF and FFM. I am just curious on your experience with both of these. Feel free to give me as much detail as you feel like sharing.

  • Mfm..

  • nope!

  • I personally don't want a MMF nor a MFF threesome.

  • yes I would and have

  • 1. ". . . my #1 fantasy, as most guys, is 2 girl threesome." I don't think that 51% or more of all guys want a threesome.

    2. "She likes girls, is attracted to them. . ." So maybe she is not ready to settle down to just you.

    3. "I would even be willing to avoid penetration." Promises now are meaningless.

    4. "And with another guy, penetration is really the only option." She could give him a hand job, oral, or anal sex.

    5. "She has had threesomes with past boyfriends. Why am I different?" You want her to treat you just like all the previous boyfriends? Didn't they all end up in the garbage can?

    6. "I am completely fine with only her for the rest of my life." Then drop it, because this won't end well.

    7. Yes, you are in danger of looking like a total idiot.

  • to be honest MMF is always the better choice, girls can never get along with other girls, it always becomes a "situation"

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