As we all know... "Just sex" in girl-land isn't really the same as "just sex" in boy-land. At least not when it's one on one. Right?
Like, even if it's a thing that only lasts for a night, there's still SOME kind of connection that happens, there. Transient connection, sure -- and that sort of thing's fine, in general, for more sexually unrestricted girls (like me), if nothing deeper is present.
But, still... a connection. Still, in some sense, a "relationship", even if it only lasts a few hours. (This is why we don't get all wet from just seeing hot boys, no matter how perfect they are.)
Now, see, what's interesting about situations like MFM, is that they cross that line. They cross into the realm of REALLY being "just sex" -- in more the way that boys think of. Dissociated. No "relationship", there. Fundamentally different from anything that could happen in a 1-1 encounter.
(Disclaimer: Drunk sex might be different. I've never been drunk or anywhere close to it, so, I can't say.)
THAT is what you've gotta think about. You need to think about how that will affect you, and yr relationship (if you have one).
I remember the first time I did MFM.
I was with this boy I liked, and his roommate walked in on us, in flagrante. Right behind me, while I was pretty much in classic spit-roast position, as luck would have it.
Well, yeah, I just kinda arched my back a little bit, and gave roommate the green-light gesture. Fuck it, let's do this. LOL
I mean, I could actually FEEL the line being crossed, at that point.
The whole backstory/interaction thing just disappeared, and was replaced by raw, emotionally dissociated sex, with absolutely no emotional strings of any kind at all.
I mean, I don't think that could even be a thing, in a 1-1 situation. Don't even think it would be possible.
That sort of thing would leave a lot of girls feeling used, worthless, etc. A lot of girls wouldn't be ready for that. I had fun, but I'm also well into the tail of the bell curve when it comes to sociosexuality / uninhibitedness / sexual aggression.
So, you'd have to think about how that would feel. That could be absolutely anywhere from exhilarating to soul-shattering. Depending on you.
AND, you'd have to think about how it would affect yr relationship with yr boyfriend (if there's a boyfriend). Would yr emotional bond survive completely non-emotional sex? I don't know. You probably don't, either.
I heard them called "Soul-Ties". Very unhealthy. Couldn't agree more.
I've tried a threesome and it wasn't as bad as I feared it would be :p
It was with my friend with benefits, who was asking me for quite some time to do it (I always said no) and another girl he was seeing at the time. The other girl was pretty and extremely enthousiastic, but I found her annoying as hell. It wasn't the threesome part that bothered me, it was her screaming (there were other people in the house, have some decency) and... crazy behavior (she'd go from furious to lovey dovey to sad to chatty to furious again in 10 minutes). Besides, afterwards I found out she actually had feelings for the guy and was quite jealous at me which kind of spoiled the experience.
Id do it again, but only with two people Id both want to have sex with apart from each other and trust won't make a mess of feelings.
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Life is not like porn , It can be the total opposite of what u think , u may be curious but thats just more harmful than fun. Because god created us to marry a man and have sex with him , he will make u feel great and loved , not a sex object. Personally i do not like those things sex is supposed to be between two lovers otherwise the two people r like animals. :)
"God created us to marry a man" You must be fun at parties
@MrNameless i dont go to parties. And it's not your problem how i live and my choices in life :)
I think you'll find the question asked was have you tried a threesome and what was it like, not please come in and moralise about the wrongs of enjoying sex. Why post if you have with to bring to the discussion? And why read the question if you're opposed to everything it's asking? It's not your problem how other people choose to live their lives. Stop gate-crashing and sucking the life out of online parties if you won't even go to real ones.
1. I've experienced and awesomely so I may say.
2. 'Try / tried it' is a term I however, choose not to use sounds more like a lab experiment in which case lol
3. Well at least initially for me it happened w/o much ado or so much so as pre discussing it for that matter
4. it went off naturally and in smooth flow which is what mattered :)
5. End of the day like any other situation may it be an ONS or a relationship, even here chemistry (sexual in this case) between the partners (all 3 or more) that matters
6. I've been in orgies too and I've well noticed that when that chemistry doesn't exist even when the booze and stuff is sky high some people just don't mingle with certain other people. It goes on great alright though :)
7. Whichever way it goes, it's not something that should be done as a task.
8. Being intrigued about it is a good thing so long as you enjoy it :) No harm in trying it out with those that are compatible and open to that thought :)
9. I'd infer that it's an amazing and pleasurable experience. Good bonding too and that's my experience
I've had some great ones... but with one exception, they were NOT with people I was in a committed relationship with. *Most* people can't handle a threesome with someone they are in a relationship with - someone gets jealous.
There ARE exceptions, though, and so, very rarely, you can find someone you CAN be in a relationship with and still have a successful threesome. It was HER idea in fact, and I resisted it for a while until she convinced me that, yes, she really did want it and would be okay with it. We did break up, but it was a year later and due to changes in our individual circumstances that had nothing to do with sex at all.
You are absolutely 100% right. I've been in 2 threesomes in the past both MFF, and both times the girls became somewhat jealous of one another. The scenario where I wasn't dating either of the girls was spectacular. However, the one where I was dating one of the girls was not an enjoyable end. As she became bitter, angry, and jealous over the next couple of weeks after. Even though it was her idea. Unless you're an extremely rare breed, threesomes are not meant for the masses who are committed.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I've never had one, but two of my girl friends have, and they both regret them. One had done both FFM and MMF. She said the FFM was better, but still wished she hadn't tried either. The other only tried FFM and has so much regret over it she can't even discuss it most of the time.
Sounds awful
what has gone wrong for them?
@chriz34 nothing noteworthy, they just refer to it as a degrading or shameful part of their past. One was with her husband and they're now divorced. The other tried it before she met her now long term boyfriend, and while he doesn't judge her at at all, she is extremely ashamed about it and won't even talk about it. She had one night stands that don't bother her, and her boyfriend has had a three some as well, but something about it really bothered her.
Um, no.
I've never tried that before.
And never will.
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Yes it was ok
But I've known my friends to be involved in some for themselves and their relationships buckled from it...
I did an MMF threesome with my boyfriend and his best friend this summer. It was fun in the moment, but my boyfriend got terribly jealous the next day and I thought for sure he was going to break up with me. He kept saying that it felt like I cheated on him, even though he knows that's not the case and that it was his idea anyway. I'm never getting mixed up in threesomes again haha thankfully we're okay now, but the upset afterwards totally ruined the experience.
If possible, would you like to do it again?
I tried it it was OK but then again I had some drugs in me and lots of alcohol
A part of you will forever die. I have been in threesomes and while it is briefly exciting, in the end, your heart, and soul, are torn three ways, when you should belong to one person, and one person alone. You will forever be chasing the dragon in a way that being with your (hopefully) spouse will never fulfill by themselves. That's not saying it's good, or even more fun, but it twists your soul. Your best bet is to find a man who loves you enough to wait for your honeymoon to have sex, and invest all of who you are with him. Tell him your deepest, darkest fantasies, and explore HEALTHY ways of fulfilling them.
In the end, just because we are intrigued by something, does not mean it will be helpful to us. Many of the things that I found potentially exciting ended up being empty and horribly harmful to me.
WHAT HE SAID
"In the end, just because we are intrigued by something, does not mean it will be helpful to us. Many of the things that I found potentially exciting ended up being empty and horribly harmful to me." I bet a handful of women feel this way too, but they are just in denial. They always say s*** happens.
Wise advice :)
I've been in one. Consisted of me and 2 other girls. It was a little weird but it was fun.
Good for you! i have had a few as a lesbian gal... ;)
I've had ffm threesomes and wasn't a fan.. I don't like sharing hahah! Would definetly do a mmf threesome if the opportunity "arose" 😜 but I don't think my husband would be into it.
Ill have a word with him, leave it to me :op
By your comment i'd say he doesn't know your'e on this site? Obviously you are more adventurous than him? Would you ever consider asking him?
I has a couple threesomes myself. Very hot indeed, but you have to let go of hangups. Was with my last girlfriend who ended up finding another male friend who was interested. First MFM and we all hung out together had a couple drinks and some dinner and then we both began to start kissing, other touching and proceeded to get into the action which was awkward at first due to the fact this was another guy putting his hands and getting it on with her, but things normalized once we all got into it. Taking turns going at her until eventually I was the one who came a lot quicker then the other guy and yes, you'd have to be willing to see another guy with your girlfriend as I had to take a break from the action, they both continued to have sex. Just let go of hangups and jealousy as any sexual action between you and someone else shouldn't take away from your relationship, unless it's both a friends with benefits situation. Which was with my first FMF.
I've been the guy in two separate FFMs. They were a lot of fun, but it's kind of a lot to cover here.
If you want to send me a message, I can answer more specific questions for you.
I've never done it and wouldn't. I like having all the attention in intimate times. A few guys I know said it's not as great as they expected it to be, but one guy I know told me it's amazing.
Better than I thought. We are all married now, still in touch.
But not married to each other. The two sisters still giggle when I pinch them.
Will the Supreme Court ever allow threesomes to marry?
I had a ffm 3 some when I was 20 but I wasn't in a relationship. It happened frequently after the first time. Best times of my life. But I'm obsessed with the female body so the more females naked in front of me that want to fuck me makes me one happy man! But, I'm not sure how that would work in a serious relationship. I feel like the woman you are in a relationship would become insecure because guys want to fuck both women for the most part. Some will only fuck one while watching the other getting oral but that's not my style. So in a serious relationship I stay away from 3 somes. But yes they are amazing with the right people!
Im a regular mfm lady and have had many occassions with larger numbers of guys. each one has been diffrent in same way , whos involved, postions , who starts where, how the sex begins. like do i suck them or do they start the foreplay b
Glad your'e having fun :)
We have had FMF threesome a few times. They were exciting but I prefer just being with my hubby.
So would you consider yourself Bisexual? Have you had fun with the ladies or have both of you just shared him? You don't sound to keen about having them? Would you prefer another guy maybe?
@LanaH102 So would you consider yourself Bisexual? No, I don't consider myself Bi. Have you had fun with the ladies or have both of you just shared him? Have played with other ladies but was just to turn him on, he has lesbian fantasies but that's just how he is. You don't sound to keen about having them? Correct, not into girls/ladies but it doesn't gross me out either and it excites him. Would you prefer another guy maybe? No, would not want another guy. Would prefer just hubby and me, but I don't mind including another girl for him. He's a great dad and husband, loves our family very much and he does so much for me and the kids, that I don't mind indulging his fantasies every now and then.
I've never had a threesome. I've realized that every fantasy I have is not something that I want to actually experience. Perhaps I could handle it if I was not in a relationship and it was just casual sex with two female friends but I would never suggest this with a woman who was a partner in a relationship.
I have, with my ex boyfriend and another girl. I thought it would be great, but we were all very drunk. He couldn't get it up, and she was a very "bitch" lesbian and was way too rough on me. It pretty much sucked
Once. It wasn't planned. It was a party and i was pretty out of it but it was a fun experience with the guy I was dating and his hot friend. I doubt I'll do it again in real life though. My current one guy is enough.
Why would anyone think it would be great? If your in a relationship, and someone brings it up, it means your relationship is dead and they are trying to spice it up by fucking someone else.
if your single, well I guess to each their own. One woman is more then enough for me. I was propositioned for a 3some by 2 women when I was in tech school in the military, I turned them down. just not appealing in any way
Awesome, weird, call it what you want, I had several fun times with FFMs, MMFs, MMMFs and MMFFs when I was in my teens and early 20s. Some were planned in advance, some got started quickly. The first was when my girlfriend and I were 16 and we met a 14 year old girl who was really curious about our relationship, so we ended up showing her graphically how sex works. She had asked as how/when/where we met, if I'd given her a ring, etc., and what we did for fun. At the last question, I whispered into my girlfriend's ear "Tell her what we do for fun!" That led to a session of show-and-tell and another one of more involvement some days later and a couple more involving a foursome down the road. Hang-ups and jealousy just didn't seem to play a part in that stuff with us back in those days like they seem to with people nowadays. I just seem to have had a knack of hooking up with circles of people where such stuff happened quite innocently and happily.
God the should put u in jail and with a chasity lock too
@ceative__very you do know he's 41 years old right now. That was 25 years ago. He was 16. Judging someone for having sex 25 years ago seems pretty silly.
@Flotri66 Thank you. Glad somebody was using his brain.
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