Guy leaves condoms at my place?

[Anonymous]

I have this friends with benefits situation, the first time we are together i say i dont want to go all the way, he says he has condoms in his car and he can go and get them (but he knows i won't go back on my decision anyway). The next time we are together he says he doesn't know where to buy condoms (been 2 years single after a 2 yr relationship). So i say 'well, when you are with other girls don't you use them?' he says 'no, its all people i trust' (sounds like so much bullshit to me). Then he went to buy them and left them all at my place, and he knows he left them because they were nexto to his phone. I haven't been with anyone else since and after a few weeks he reaches out to me and asks if i still have them. And we were talking about having a threesome with another girl for a while and the strange thing is he never seems to find anyone to do it. Is it me just thinking this or these are signs he isn't seeing anyone else? we agreed to just have fun when we are together, no expectations but i feel guilty now to have sex with another guy, and i have had the chance several times.

[lumos]

No I don't think it means anything but the fact that 1) it's difficult to find someone you trust for a threesome and 2) he probably just doesn't want to carry around the condoms all the time.
There's no reason why you should feel guilty. Even if he's not hooking up with other girls it doesn't mean you should be exclusive or that that's what he wants. You're overthinking this.

[Asker]

we had only met three times ever when he suggested the threesome, and he was willing to go without a condom with me, blindly believing i didn't have anything (which i dont, i get tested regularly and dont hook up randomly and always with protection). And even though i think i'm subconsciously trying to romanticise the whole thing, i know the smart way to go is ditch him.. but since he came across as a player (saying he goes with lots of girls) wouldn't any of them be willing for a threesome? thats what's been bugging me. And I know I can't believe him because I don't really know him, and he can say anything he wants to come across as a big macho since I was the one suggesting we had this no strings thing...

[Asker]

I know I'm waaaaay overthinking this but i'm hoping for a few outsider opinions to help me see other perspectives

[lumos]

Surprisingly few people are actually into threesomes and if he doesn'y really actively search for any candidates, it's not surprising he hasn't found anyone. You're kind of basing your assumptions on very little here.

[Jojolicious]

It's his choice if he only need you :)
You are friends with benefits, so you can gove having "fun" with other guys.

[AmericanPoet]

And here is yet another example why this friends with benefits shit is nonsense. You're worried he is doing other girls, you won't hook up with others... he wants a three way but funny it isn't a mmf so you can have fun, it's all about him. Welcome to being a doormat.

[Asker]

I'll prbly end it because if i feel paranoid and believe him when he says he goes around without condoms, i dont know what kind of stds he might have. And I'm not sorry to say i love me more than a random dick

[tazman2908]

sounds like your falling for your friends with benefits and if that's the case u need to be honest with him or u will feel guilty being with another man and it wouldn't be fare to any of the parties involved as that's how people end up hurt

[Asker]

I normally am the one always getting hurt even in relationships, but i get over it. Not the problem there, i just want to figure out if this guy is bullshitting me because he has been creeping on the guys i flirt with recently and even adds them on facebook out of the blue. I do like him even though i can't imagine myself having a relationship with him...

[tazman2908]

well u need to figure out what u want with this guy as honestly u seem like u want him but u don't want him for a relationship

[TheGuyFromMiddleEast]

Well, the situation is not as complex as you think it is. He may not be seeing anyone else, that doesn't mean you shouldn't either. You are friends with benefits, and it's something you both agreed on.