It is not uncommon to not reach climax with PIV. The majority of women need direct clitoral stimulation. Either of you could provide this while PIV as an adjunct.
No, there's nothing wrong with you. On the contrary, the better you are at pleasuring yourself the better you can show your partner what you need and want.
Try having him bring you to climax a time or two in foreplay, before the PIV starts.
Frequency isn't a problem either. You've found something that feels good - there's nothing wrong with that. And no, you're not 'de-sensitized', you're re-sensitized.
Putting a dildo in your vagina is not going to make you cum. Likely his penis isn't going to either.0 0 0 0It is possible that you are desensitized down there because of the vibrators, you need harder and more stimulation to orgasm. It goes with porn stars, they ore they have sex, the more they need to make them orgasm, that was true with guys and girls.
2 0 0 0Yeah I figured and was afraid of that when it came to light. I always used it because I never thought about "desensitize" back then, all I thought was it was easy and felt good. Do you think it is possible if I leave it alone and try another method I can sensitize myself again?
John is right on with this. Same thing happened to my friend. She has her boyfriend use vib on here when they have sex. That solution seems to work for them.
Yes, as Samantha says, try to not use it as much, ween yourself off of it, my suggestion, and forgive me for being personal, instead of going for the goal of orgasming, use your fingers and get yourself close then stop and repeat this a few times, its supposed to enhance the orgasm, and take your time, don't rush it, maybe spend 30 minutes and explore your area's find other places where it feels good, maybe that will help... I am not an expert on a Womans anatomy but I dated a girl who never orgasmed and we came close a few times and I noticed the best things we did was to take our time.
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1 4wow i wish i have girl like you in my life. I would love to see sex toys in the bed room or her use one at all. I would have him use it on you or try buying different toys.
He should do more for-play and finger you or lick you more. Buy a new toy and invited him into using it with you. A new toy together might be away to get you to climax, and he will enjoy have fun with you.0 0 0 0Haha trust me, they are out there, more then you think. And yeah we are looking up some toys to try where while having sex I can also stimulate myself as well and see how that goes.
You should used the vibrated when having sex, easy if you laying down, dose he know that you don't climax or is that a secret.
Probably buy a bullet toy? Yeah something that vibrates is probably a must for me and no it's not a secret he knows, he says the reason I can't O in sex is cause I am addicted to the massager haha. He's willing to try other toys to see what can get me to that O point during sex.
Well not a lot of girls can orgasm or cum with just penetration alone i personally like to eat my girl out until she cums and orgasms first and then fuck she loves it way more when we have sex
0 0 0 0u should abstain from masturbation for a day or two and then try ur boyfriend
0 0 0 0It's hard for me to be abstinence for one to two days but I will give it a shot, but I have to hide my massager or something haha.
i dont think any other way will help u
Why not try a vibrating cock ring?
I have a serious question from you...
With these conditions and awareness of addiction, if you go back, will you use these devices again?
Don't you say in your subconscious that aaaaah I wish I had never experienced this damet tools?
So what is your advice to people who have not used these devices yet?0 1 0 0My girl is just like you - unable to orgasm without vibration. She has never seen porn and does not masturbate. Our solution is for me to stimulate her manually and position the vibrator (Hitachi's are the Hum-Vees of vibrators BTW) on the back of my hand. Occasionally I'll vibrate her directly and run the vibrator over her and on to the base of my penis (yes I like). What gets her off is my vibrating fingers on her and she seldom fails to finish.
0 0 0 0Thanks for the advice I will try it, I probably will have to buy something like a dildo or dildo vibrator to see if I can get off with vibrating inside. So far I feel I get off more if its the outside vibration or clit vibrating.
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