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Boyfriend with deformity "down there", I'm quite puzzled by it? What should I do?

We have been a couple for two months now, and despite having fooled around with him several times before, I recently noticed something odd about him "down there", which was that he only had one testicle. He is very insecure about it, and as a result he does not let me touch him down there because of it, and it gets quite annoying. I have several questions about him, which are 1) Is he less manly since 1 less ball = half the hormones? 2) Can he still make children? 3) How should I go about helping him get over it and letting me handle his stuff? The cause of him losing sounds traumatic to me. He did not answer any of these when I asked him.
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by the way, he lost his nut from getting kicked by some girl while they were teens because she thought it was funny. Adding to the irony, the two of them are still friends today.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • 1- in no way less of a man. My Dad has just one testicle (Thankyou mum for telling me about dads genitals) and the only thing that's less manly about him is that he has no idea what standing up for himself is. That's not even less manly though that's just my dad being a coward.
    2- My Dad has five kids to three different women. Yes your boyfriend can still have kids.
    3- why would you ask him the first question? Why do you think he's so ashamed of it? He's worried about what people will think of it. Look, just don't pay any attention to it, treat it like its normal (because it is) and quit asking the dude questions about it. Because there is nothing to know about it other than normal.

  • Omg what is wrong with you! You don't ask him that! He's insecure! It's like if you have an insecurity and someone picks away at it. He's not less manly! He can still have kids there's no reason why he can't.

    You need to make it clear to him that it doesn't bother you. Which will be difficult now because you asked him questions!

    • Well he might not have enough juice down there to make a girl pregnant, I don't know.. He lost it from getting kicked there very hard as a teen by one of his stupid female friends so he is very embarrassed about it

  • All things will be more normal, then an non-issue as you grow on him, the two of you become one, first as lovers then as married. None of those concerns apply, nature has taken care of all this.
    Agree it might have been an accident but why rule out birth defect?

    • Oh he told me how he lost it. Apparently one of his stupid friends kicked him while they were younger because she thought it would be funny. To add to my annoyance the two of them are still friends today.

    • One of them is not a friend, not ever. You have come across a dependent, even dom/sub relationship (not sexually) that may be impossible to break up yourself. You might want to keep your distance and wait for the day life, college, military, other separates them before moving forward with this guy. Make sure he knows it's NOT because of what's behind his zipper.

    • Umm what do you mean

  • 1) it does not make him any less of a man
    2) he CAN still make children
    3) just be sincere to him, tell him it doesn't bother you, and you like him regardless

    • Well he is a bit of a pushover at times, I wonder if it has anything to do with this. Yes, I do like him a lot but he makes it difficult for me in our intimate moments

    • He probably has low self esteem, and possibly in past relationships, could have gotten turned down because of it. Just have a serious talk with him, and tell him how you feel

Most Helpful Guys

  • Testosterone would be the same. As gar as i learnt, the body compensates and doubles what is produced.

    Odds of children do decease, but not by any serious amount.

    You can make him less self conscious by giving him bjs and not mentioning that its different. Now that he knows that you know, overtime he will come to see you dont really care

  • 1) No
    2) Absolutely assuming the remaining testicle is healthy.
    3) Maybe tell him how much you crave his junk and maybe drop to your knees and beg for it. Make a sort of game out of it. Make a bit of a private scene, so to speak.

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  • less manly? he's still a man. he still has an XY chromosomes so he's still a man.

    he can produce sperm to fertilize an egg if the remaining testicle is healthy

  • 1) no, men have two testicles because if one gets damaged the other can take over.
    2) yes he can have children.
    3) just reassure him and don't push too much, let him get comfortable with it with time

  • 1. No, they only make sperm.
    2. Yes, he still has the other one.
    3. Don't make a face when you see it, just let him know how much you like/want to touch him. Reassure him how sexy he is and if he brings it up.. let him know it doesn't bother you at all.

    • Testicles produce testosterone.

    • @Transigence and if one gets damaged the other is there to make up for the loss.

  • Hormonal levels will be normal. The other testicle will compensate. Slightly lower fertility.

  • You only need one. The other one is a spare.

  • 1) yes as he only has one ball he can only get it up half the time, it also stunted his oenis growth.

    2) did he loose his testical for making boy babies or girl babies?

    3) tie him to a chair and suck on his one nut while stroking his cock!

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    • are you serious -.-

  • 1) Is he less manly since 1 less ball = half the hormones? No.
    2) Can he still make children? He should be.
    3) How should I go about helping him get over it and letting me handle his stuff? Assure him that you know about it and that you're fine with it else you would've left already.

    "the two of them are still friends today."
    That's crazy... LOL.

  • My dad has one nut from a motorcycle accident he can't have kids.

    • In that case how did you get born

    • I'm just guessing here... but... and this is going to sound crazy, I know... ... The accident happened after his birth.

  • you're joking about the less manly thing right

    Yes most likley he can still have kids

    If you really wanna help him get over sit down and talk to him tell him it doesn't bother you and you wanna be able to pleasure him blah blah and make it clear that you want him to be comfortable about it with you

  • Why would you ask all already insecure guy who's got 1 nut off that makes him less manly? It could in turn make him feel as though he's failed at being a man.

  • it shouldn't effect him to much in the way of hormones and he can still have kids, that one testicle is still plenty to make babies. the best way to help him get over it is to let him know it doesn't bother you

  • of course he can have children. his hormones aren't affected dont say nonsense. the only problemis in his mind.

  • 1. Nope. Not really.
    2. Probably. As long as his other nut is healthy. Usually are.
    3. Over and over again let him know you don't care about that really, and that you bet he has the best nut in the world. It's an insecurity, insecurities are usually silly and should be treated as such. Enough positive reinforcement and we get past it.

  • please answer my last question

    • ? What

  • 1.) Is he doesn't let you touch down there that means whatever was the reason why he lost his testical is traumatic..

    2.) It could it because of anything- an accident, maybe cancer... Or something.

    3.) And yes I have heard that it's possible to make babies with one testical only..

    4.) Ask him what happened to him and calm him down when he gets nervous...

    • one if his friends thought it would be funny and kicked him in the testicles. She did it too hard apparently and he lost one because of it

  • Put Yourself In His Shoes, If You Only Had 1 Boob, Or Something Abnormal With Your Pussy, How Would You Feel, How Much Love, Support And Acceptance Would You Want?
    Be As Supporting As You Possibly Can, Assure Him Whole Heartedly This Does Not Bother You In The Least, Just Keep Reassuring Him, Slowly Try To Caress Him Down There, If You're Sincere He Should Open Up! The Key To His Self Esteem Is Do Not Give Up, Just Keep Trying.
    Also Provided His Remaining Nut Is Healthy It Should Have Enough Hormones And Sperm To Continue With A Healthy Sex Life As Well As Fertilize A Woman's Eggs And Produce Healthy Children. Only His Doctor Can Confirm His Remaining Nut To Be Healthy Enough For This, As Long As It Did Not Receive Damage Odds Are It Is Healthy Enough!

    • Is that the title to a book or a song or something?

  • Questioning his manhood because of it is the very reason he dosen't want to deal with it. You fucked up there.

  • This runs in my family. One of mine was slow to drop and another family member has one. The other stayed corn kernel sized.
    1. No. One is enough. The other is "redundancy"?
    2. Yes if functions normally, which it probably does.
    3. Tell him so long as he's got one on working order, no problem.

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