What would you do if you found out that your husband wants to cross dress?

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What would you do if you found out that your husband wants to cross dress and he is not gay?

Justabitstuck · Accepted Answer

So the first time I found out my boyfriend was a cross dresser I didn't know what to do. All sort of things went through my head "is he gay" "is he transgender" "what will my family think?" 'will i have to go out with him like that in public". In front of him i tried to keep a cool face but inside it was panicking.

The best advice I can give is give yourself some time to except it and begin to understand it. There are loads of websites out there that helped me get my head round what it all meant (https://www. lauras-playground. com/support_index. htm) and made me realise that their were a lot of misconceptions. When you think about it... a woman in guys clothes is a tomboy/ or making a statement, a guy in a dress is considered weird. Why is that? we have had this ingrained into our heads since birth and its not right.

Talk to your husband, explain to him how you feel and communicate with him, try to understand why he enjoys doing it. The best thing for me was telling my boyfriend we had to go at my pace, so far I have seen him in womens underwear and one of my dresses, its a slow progress and there are days where it still throws me off but i love him so much that to break up for such a minor thing seems ridiculous. If you love your husband surely that makes sense to you. Just know he's the same man you married, he just likes to put on a frock from time to time.

Message me if you want to talk further xx

LuvYouAll · Accepted Answer

Apparently most of the people who like to crossdress (I'm not talking about draq queens or kings) are actually straight so I'd probably be fine with it. I might even buy him some crossdressing equipment and help him with it because crossdressing is bit of a taboo. But yeah. If it's a thing he likes, I'm not going to judge. Most people have weird kinks (I know I have far too many myself) and if he had accepted all mine I should accept his kinks too.

cupcakes94 · Accepted Answer

Let him do it! My boyfriend has said that he enjoys crossdressing, but the only time he has done it was for Halloween (two different times now). He let me do his makeup and I helped him style his wig, and I actually thought he looked really great as a girl.

truthbeknown · Accepted Answer

I like to crossdress. Specifically I like to wear women's lingerie when I have sex sometimes. That is my kink/fetish. I like to wear stockings, panties and camisoles that are made of satin. I really love the feel of it. My wife is not really supportive. She would rather I didn't and cannot get into it with me. Therefore this is something I do only a few times a year, and even then it isn't really that enjoyable because she doesn't like it. She makes me feel like I have a problem or something is wrong with me. I do not dress to go out or anything like that. Bedroom only. She basically freaked the first time I showed her, (I had a pair of her panties on). She instantly associated it with being gay, or something a gay person would do. I have no idea how this is possible because I love everything about a woman and I love to wear women's lingerie sometimes. Everything has to with a woman. I don't see what is gay about it?

Intraluminal · Accepted Answer

It's really all about you. The majority of CDs are not gay, so it boils down to how it makes you feel. If his CDing is restricted to the bedroom and it doesn't make you feel badly, then it might be fine. On the other hand, if he wants to be out in public in CD it could affect you socially because most CDers are not convincing as women.

The reality is that you need to sit down with him and really talk about sex and sexuality and where this is going. What are his fantasies? What turns him on? Is he submissive? What other fantasies are rolling around in his head?

Then you need to examine yourself. What is your marriage worth to you?

samhradh_leannan · Answer

Personally, I wouldn't be okay with it. It might even be a dealbreaker for me, although I can't say for sure without actually being in the situation.

LittleSally · Answer

Not sure, but if it's leaning towards Catilyn Jenner, I'd leave him. No other way around it.

Sexualchrist · Answer

I'd obviously never have a husband but if I was a woman in this situation with my thoughts as they are now, I would probably laugh and not see the appeal.

This_is_my_username · Answer

I would tell him to try it out. If it were my husband it would be my duty as a wife to encourage him instead of shutting him down. So i would opt for telling him to try it out. Who know maybe he'll end up hating it?

Northeast106 · Answer

That's weird. Different strokes for different folks I guess. I don't see the average woman being supportive of that.

RunnerGirl228 · Answer

I would help him out, maybe we could switch things around for a day lol.

SillyMilly · Answer

Either he's in denial about being gay or just plain strange either way i'm leaving him. Not my cup of tea

Gamecube · Answer

I would let him do it, I mean it's little different but who am I to judge.

When I was a teenager I used to cross dress.

The teacher sarcastically used to say
"Who is this strapping you lad. "
Knowing full well it was just me so I would flip her the bird.

Luckily I out grew that stage of my life at 17 and am a normal straight woman.

rene12345 · Answer

I would think it's fucking werid

Hollywood-Glam · Answer

It's very hard for a guy to pull off the girl look, so I don't think he will look that great. As long as he doesn't abuse the need of wanting to cross dress, I can tolerate it because I'm nice. I won't let him cross dress on daily basis or in events when it's unnecessary. I'll only let him dress up as a girl in Halloween parties or for example he is going to perform something and his role is a woman.

Skadouchebag · Answer

I'd wonder why two straight guys go married.

bvvvt · Answer

divorce him right away!!

Kittykatdoll · Answer

I would show him how to do it right so he didn't look garish (a lot of men new to it rush straight to the sequins and teenybopper type things) and we would go outa d take pictures together. It would be like having a part time girlfriend :)

ThisAndThat · Answer

Assuming I were a woman what would I do if I found out my husband were a cross dresser? After his thorough a** kicking I would let my x husband go.

Anonymous · Answer

Surprised at how many of the girls were supportive of this.

I have a friend (yes, actual friend, it isn't me) who has a crossdressing Fetish and to be quite honest I don't think that is something any woman would want in a man unless she shares it. His ex was okay with it but left very, very unsatisfied in the bedroom until they eventually broke up.

Of course in his case it is an actual fetish as in an absolute must for him to be into sex, and not a rare kink. The guy in question is not gay, bisexual or even remotely interested in men but rather he worships women (far too much) and is obsessed with them. His idea of what is feminine is a bit... Skewered, unrealistic and awkward.

This is sadly progressing towards transsexualism and a for him pent up desire to change gender completely, so as to get closer to women.
Ï can't say I am that supportive of it.

Anonymous · Answer

sounds hot to me :) I would be open to it and would help him pick out outfits :)

Anonymous · Answer

First I'd find out how I ended up with a husband then I'd say do as you please.

Anonymous · Answer

But my husband is gay. Otherwise we wouldn't be married. If he wanted to cross dress I'd kick his gay ass. If I wanted someone who wears a dress, I would have married a woman.

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