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My boyfriend wants to watch me get fucked?

He boyfriend wants me to fuck another guy in front of him. I love the idea of getting fucked by another guy but I don't want to hurt him. Should I let him fuck a girl?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Lots of men have this, uh, kink. This whole "hotwife" thing. They fantasize RELENTLESSLY about it.

    Like, it's an obsession. I hate to tell you this, girl, but, if he told you this outright, then he probably hasn't even been thinking about fucking you for the last few months of fucking you. He's probably been thinking about other men fucking you, or you fucking other men, EVERY TIME.

    Yep.

    I mean, male fetishes are strong in general, but this one. This one. It just consumes them. I don't get it.

    Anyway...
    In just about every single case, these men's fantasies assume that YOU -- the woman -- fuck like a typical man, and think about sex like a typical man, and think about sexual PARTNERS like a typical man.

    That last part's the important part. The men who have these hotwife fantasies, they assume YOU will treat sex partners as disposable faceless fuck dolls.
    That MAY be true. God made some women who actually think about sex that way... but, not many. Odds are you aren't one of them. And if you aren't, there are 2,135,790,213,496 ways for this little project to go horribly, irretrievably wrong.

    If you are not one of the "special" girls who's capable of thinking of sex like that... you might get YOUR heart thrown around and broken. You could feel used. Feel double-used, by the extra man and by yr own man. You risk feeling distanced and alienated from yr relationship. You may be incapable of seeing yr own man as a real man again, ever. You may just feel like a cheap whore. Even if none of these armageddon scenarios happens, you might just be bored straight shitless, with a lover who doesn't know yr body, and not being able to let yrself loose bc of the awkwardness of the situation.

    You might.

    Of course, it might go really well, and it could be hot. You never know. LOL

    ... But this is a VERY high-risk, low-return proposition, for most normal couples.

    If you were the kind of woman for whom this setup WOULD work well -- believe me, honey, you'd damn well know that already, and you wouldn't have to ask an anonymous peanut gallery for advice.

    But, at the end of the day... as Aleister Crowley said, do what thou wilt.

    Just tell yr man to be careful what he wishes for.
    He just might get it.

    • I love being on the other end of these fetishes. Makes me feel so fucking alpha.

    • @FilthyPervert You were doing so well... until you described yourself as "so fucking alpha". Please, better adjectives. Please. For the love of all that is good in this world. But, yeah, the other end of this stick can go pretty far. When my husband was in his early 20's, he was the other one-third of a hotwife couple, and the husband actually paid for HIM to go on international vacations with the wife, and paid for a vacation timeshare for HIM and the wife, and a couple other things... yeah. Those things are things that happen.

    • i like puttin the cuck's cock in a cock cage and making him suck me off etc

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  • It doesn't have to be a trade like that. If he wants to see another guy have sex with you, that doesn't mean you have to be okay with him having sex with another girl. And like everyone else is saying, if he's suggesting it, then it may not hurt him.

    My boyfriend and I had a threesome last summer with another guy because my boyfriend was curious about watching me with someone else. Immediately afterwards he got incredibly upset and jealous, but he says now whenever he thinks about it, he gets really turned on. So it's a little hard to tell how your boyfriend would react.

  • I've had a few ex's who were into that.

    One, preferred to watch me fuck, then fuck me himself..

    Another, liked it was foreplay... watching got him in the mood.

    The third.. he heard my stories about the first, and thought he'd like it.. turned out that he didn't.

    My current, has done it in the past with other girls, but it isn't something we've played with yet.

    I think, you just have to explore where this is coming from.. and if he's ever done it in the past.

Most Helpful Guys

  • i don't get the thrill behind being cucked, but some people really like it. whatever.
    the best way to make sure there is no jealousy is to make sure you talk to him and that communication is very good. if you feel this can happen with him feeling jealous later? well, you like the idea, and he actively fantasizes about it.
    same advise i give for every friends with benefits, hookup, threesome, etc: find someone you trust. don't just go with any guy. it should be someone you know and trust, and that your boyfriend knows and trusts. and no matter how good the sex is, don't let anything develop between you and the other guy, except for sex that your boyfriend watches.

    as for him being with another girl? he might not even want that. if he does, maybe he wants you to be the one watching. maybe what you guys should do is find another couple, and swap, taking turns so you can watch. I don't know, not my fetish, but that sounds right.

  • Yeah so your “boyfriend” has issues and honestly so do you. I can assure you that letting him talk you into doing stupid shit isn’t going to fix anything, only cause problems. If you two were in a long time committed relationship and felt you wanted to explore your sexuality together I’d say something different. But you two are young, dumb and clearly broken. You aren’t mature enough for this, don’t even think about it.

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  • Find another couple who's into that, then have a cross session?

  • He wants to be a cuckold boyfriend.. give him what he wants.. thats whats going to get him off.. let him choose the guy.. he's wants you to do this for him,

    You dont need to offer another women , this is his "thing" go with it and enjoy getting lots of sex

  • I think you should definitely take him up on his invitation, but under no circumstances should you let him have sex with anyone else, unless you want to make him service a bisexual guy, etc. This is my opinion only.

  • If you're all just doing it for fun and it turns you all on, why not? Better still if it's with people that you won't be seeing too much.

  • I don't know. I have a hard time imagining my girl with anyone else. Maybe I'm too possessive but I would never let my girl be with anyone else. I'd call the whole thing with off.

  • My ex wanted the same thing... Weirded me out

  • Hey,
    Well if he suggested the idea to you then i think he's perfectly fine with it and you won't hurt him. If he's comfortable with the idea of another woman they i guess why not! Plus, its your choice.
    Take care

  • If he likes it, he's not getting hurt.

  • If it's his fantasy most likely it won't hurt him.

  • Nah. Why would you be hurting him if it's what he wants?

  • I say sure, if you can handle some other woman sexually pleasing your man!

  • If he wants to do it, and you are willing, it's something that you two should discuss at length. Only do what you are both comfortable doing. There's really no need for a quid pro quo if watching you with another guy will excite him and not lead to jealousy on his part. You do, however, need to fully communicate about this issue and should you decide to pursue this avenue, do things such as set down ground rules.

  • I volunteer my services!!

  • I don't like sharing personally but you may want to ask if he's done it before. If not I suggest you both watch each other flirt with someone else first. And I mean really flirt! That way you can judge any potential jealousy that might become an issue later.

  • oKAY, That's great.

  • He'll yeah! Don't want the relationship to be one sided!

  • well id only suggest doing this when you're married. if you break up with this guy you basically limit the shit out of your future options.

  • If he wants it, and you want it, then don't think too much. Just proceed gently and with caution.

    If you want to make sure he's really ok with it, then try it with another girl and a strap on first and proceed from there.

    • Another girl? Not same dynamic at all.

    • @redeyemindtricks But it seems like a good idea in my head... lol

    • Yr gna make me come up with baby-steps for this, aren't you, you fuckers (literally). ::big sigh:: OKAY. step 1 Talk about it while yr fucking. step 2 Play with a toy, where the toy is animated in the role of The Other Man. (You figure out how to do this.) step 3 Go to a sex/swing club and fuck in front of an audience. step 4 Same as step 3, except allow an audience member to sit reasonably close to you (on same couch/mattress). *** DO THE 5's IN ANY ORDER *** step 5a Go to a club. Dance dirty with another boy where yr boy can see. step 5b Go to a sex/swing club. Stay with yr boy, but invite other men to grope you through yr clothes. step 5c Same as step 4, but let him touch something of yours -- say, if yr wearing heels, he can hold yr legs up or apart (by the heels/ankles) while yr boy fucks you. step 5d Fuck in private with another boy watching you (recording is a good excuse).

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  • You should talk to him, if you are okay with him having sex with another and he would enjoy it , well why not.

  • Eh, suggest it to him I guess if you want to...

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